Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 25 of 37

Thread: Dancing for 'slow' guys

  1. #1
    God/dess
    Joined
    Jan 2005
    Posts
    3,422
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 16 Times in 16 Posts

    Default Dancing for 'slow' guys

    tell me what I should do?
    Last edited by mollyzmoon; 10-13-2008 at 07:21 PM.

  2. #2
    Banned i.breathe.in's Avatar
    Joined
    Sep 2006
    Location
    ohio
    Posts
    4,967
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: Dancing for 'slow' guys

    we used to get one at a club i worked at his mom would drop him off...it was interesting. he was polite though and appreciative.

  3. #3
    God/dess
    Joined
    Oct 2006
    Posts
    8,427
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 30 Times in 22 Posts

    Default Re: Dancing for 'slow' guys

    not the same but i was on a SD site. i put in my profile that i work with autistic children. i had a man with aspergers message me asking if he could pay me for "mock dates" and help learning how to talk to women.

    it didnt sit right with me. im not quite sure why. i didnt do it. to me, those 2 worlds are separate (though not anymore.. a door guy at my new club, his daughter went to the school i work at! she just left for the summer but she was the cuuuuuutest thing ever. he was totally cool about it, too, we were talking about her. nice to know there are still some non judgemental people in this world.) and i don't like to mix them. maybe that's why i didn't feel right about doing that.

  4. #4
    LoveComesFromWithin
    Guest

    Default Re: Dancing for 'slow' guys

    i've had the same problem. but, he likes woman, and your probably giving him an experience he wouldn't have with a girl ...
    don't feel guilty.

  5. #5
    God/dess VegasPrincess's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2006
    Location
    MKE
    Posts
    4,660
    Thanks
    2
    Thanked 182 Times in 40 Posts

    Default Re: Dancing for 'slow' guys

    Yeah, I wouldn't feel guilty... I think it would make me uncomfrotable tho, personally....

    I have no problem AT ALL dancing for people with physical disabilities but I dont know I would feel like I was molesting him or something...I'm sure that's not the case or anything, and you know....he is at least experiencing some intimacy with a woman.....
    Sexy Jasmine after getting fucked over at work:

    God loves strippers and when guys do things like that its an automatic ticket to HELL!


    Quote Originally Posted by anomar View Post
    Perhaps you stopped spending money on her. Strippers need money to operate. They are like coin operated juke-boxes of love.

  6. #6
    Banned
    Joined
    Oct 2006
    Posts
    2,475
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: Dancing for 'slow' guys

    I've worked when a group of mentally handicapped people came in. I didn't ask them for dances and no one came to me so I didn't really have to deal with it.

    If my adult son was retarded and into women I'd send him to the club with a set amount. I mean he's still a guy, he's not going to get laid and if he was having sex it'd freak me out that he wouldn't be using a condom...(this happened to some I knew and her mentally challenged daughter got pregnant).

    I think I would try to avoid it because it'd mess up my mojo for the night if I felt like I cheated him or something.
    Last edited by Joplin; 07-27-2008 at 02:42 PM.

  7. #7
    Veteran Member golden41's Avatar
    Joined
    Jun 2008
    Posts
    492
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 2 Times in 2 Posts

    Default Re: Dancing for 'slow' guys

    I think it might be good for him. Most mentally diabled men are obsessed with porn anyway so hes not seeing anything new. I would rather dance for one of them then some of the douchbags that come around.

  8. #8
    God/dess Jenny's Avatar
    Joined
    Sep 2002
    Posts
    9,746
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 50 Times in 31 Posts

    Default Re: Dancing for 'slow' guys

    Funny, I worry about taking their money. If I felt more confident that they were "looked after" I might not worry. I mean, the mentally challenged are not... physically immature. They have legitimate needs and desires just like other guys.
    I have taught that the sky in all its zones is mortal and its substance was formed by a process of birth

  9. #9
    God/dess
    Joined
    Oct 2006
    Posts
    8,427
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 30 Times in 22 Posts

    Default Re: Dancing for 'slow' guys

    Quote Originally Posted by golden41 View Post
    Most mentally diabled men are obsessed with porn anyway so hes not seeing anything new.
    source, please?!

  10. #10
    God/dess
    Joined
    Oct 2007
    Posts
    2,519
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 53 Times in 32 Posts

    Default Re: Dancing for 'slow' guys

    mollyzmoon - I can definitely relate and I felt guilty about dancing for that guy at first...... until I figured out that he understands 100% what is going on. The first time I danced for him I made sure EVERY song that I said "That was X songs. Would you like another one?" and every time and he "yes" and got out his wallet to see if he had enough. We're talking about 5 times here! Then he had me sign his "book" with TONS of signatures from other dancers.

    To me, what matters is if they understand or not. This guy understood 100% how much the songs are, how much they cost, ect. Another thing is that these are on some level, the guys I love to dance for most because I know we're providing an invaluable service to them. The only woman he's probably ever had (and I know this is mean to say!) is probably an escort or a stripper. Having a beautiful naked woman on you is a wonderful thing and thanks to strip clubs, disabled men don't have to go without!

    Carleton University held a small campaign once on sexuality and disability awareness. It really opened my eyes.

  11. #11
    Featured Member pinkpvc's Avatar
    Joined
    Sep 2006
    Location
    UK
    Posts
    1,012
    Thanks
    130
    Thanked 252 Times in 117 Posts
    My Mood
    Angelic

    Default Re: Dancing for 'slow' guys

    We had a regular mentally handicapped customer that would come in every weeked and spend £200 on the first dancer he saw in a string of dances. I felt guilty at first but the guy looked absolutely overjoyed the whole time and always left with a huge smile on his face.
    I'm sure you do make this guy very happy, and as newmoon said he does understand the situation so you are not taking advantage in any way.

  12. #12
    God/dess
    Joined
    Oct 2007
    Posts
    2,519
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 53 Times in 32 Posts

    Default Re: Dancing for 'slow' guys

    On some level I almost feel like these are the guys we should feel best about dancing for. And I think that disability rights are a huge reason to legalize prostitution, if that makes sense. I feel bettere about dancing for a guy who has needs only a woman can fulfill than dancing for the guy who sneaks out of his house after his wife is asleep to come to the titty bar.

  13. #13
    God/dess
    Joined
    Oct 2007
    Posts
    2,519
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 53 Times in 32 Posts

    Default Re: Dancing for 'slow' guys

    He must have money because he comes to the club a lot. Usually only spends about $100 but still......

  14. #14
    Featured Member BrodieLux's Avatar
    Joined
    Jan 2008
    Posts
    938
    Thanks
    5
    Thanked 21 Times in 11 Posts

    Default Re: Dancing for 'slow' guys

    Once a family of mentally disabled people came to a club I danced at and they were very interested in tipping me on stage and wanted my attention. At first I felt very awkward, especially since they seemed to be related (a brother and sister?) but I didn't end up dancing for them in private. Which is good because they smelled really really bad.
    Quote Originally Posted by CuriousSeeker View Post
    ^Pssssttttt, your stripper is showing.

  15. #15
    Banned
    Joined
    Nov 2007
    Location
    schlong beach
    Posts
    2,096
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: Dancing for 'slow' guys

    Though I can understand feeling uncomfortable, your assumption that he must not have money because he's part of a certain demographic would be the same as me feeling bad taking money from a Latin guy because Latinos have (on average) lower incomes than white Americans. See the lack of logic? Just because the mentally disabled are thought to have less $ and need it to spend on their special services, etc., doesn't mean they all fit into this category, or don't receive money from other sources, etc...

    And they know exactly what they're doing. If they are in your club, they are very conscious of what's going on. Like Jenny said- they have needs and desires too... basic needs for visual/physical stimulation that you are fulfilling and they are paying you for. The mental stimulation (conversation) may not necessarily be quite as present as with other customers (case by case basis) but they like interacting with and being turned on by hot girls just as much as any other dude. They want it, you got it, they pay. I don't see a problem unless you desexualize or infantalize them.
    Last edited by ColetteCalahan; 07-27-2008 at 04:28 PM.

  16. #16
    God/dess ExoticEngineer's Avatar
    Joined
    Sep 2006
    Location
    Arizona
    Posts
    3,335
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 59 Times in 29 Posts

    Default Re: Dancing for 'slow' guys

    Exactly what Colette and Jenny said. They're grown men, and with being a grown man comes grown up desire. It's got to be easier to express that desire and engage in fantasy at a strip club than it is at any other time for them.

    I do get what you are saying Molly, we're pretty much creatures of habit, and when something reminds us of another issue (kids, family etc.) that touches close to home, it's hard to get it out of your head.

    But next time he comes in try to remind yourself..."This is a man, a grown man, who has wants and desires and craves women, just like any other grown man."




  17. #17
    God/dess
    Joined
    Oct 2007
    Posts
    2,519
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 53 Times in 32 Posts

    Default Re: Dancing for 'slow' guys

    Quote Originally Posted by ColetteCalahan View Post
    Though I can understand feeling uncomfortable, your assumption that he must not have money because he's part of a certain demographic would be the same as me feeling bad taking money from a Latin guy because Latinos have (on average) lower incomes than white Americans. See the lack of logic? Just because the mentally disabled are thought to have less $ and need it to spend on their special services, etc., doesn't mean they don't all fit into this category, or don't receive money from other sources, etc...
    I disagree with the way in which you compare disabled people with Latin people. Disabled people clearly lack skills needed for many jobs. Even a job as a janitor would take LOTS of training for this guy.

  18. #18
    Banned
    Joined
    Nov 2007
    Location
    schlong beach
    Posts
    2,096
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: Dancing for 'slow' guys

    ^ you totally missed by basis for comparison. I was showing a faulty lack of logic. I wasn't saying Latin people lack mental capacity... oy gavult. I SAID that both populations have/are thought to have, ON AVERAGE, a lower income than the AVERAGE white american. (i'm talking about the generalities/stereotypes we hold) but that it doesn't justify not having them as customers and taking their money like anybody else.

    Plus, there are many mentally handicapped people that have jobs! Handicaps vary across a wide spectrum. And while you are defending Latinos against a perceived racist comment that you totally misinterpreted... you might want to use a job other than 'janitor' in your response. You know. Just a consideration.

  19. #19
    God/dess Jenny's Avatar
    Joined
    Sep 2002
    Posts
    9,746
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 50 Times in 31 Posts

    Default Re: Dancing for 'slow' guys

    molly, I absolutely trust your perception of whether the guy was "appropriately" spending money - I meant for me it was always a concern, because I don't really get to know the customers that way. If, for example, he has a nice watch and is spending $100 you are probably safe; if he is spending $3000 - there might be a problem.
    I have taught that the sky in all its zones is mortal and its substance was formed by a process of birth

  20. #20
    God/dess
    Joined
    Oct 2007
    Posts
    2,519
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 53 Times in 32 Posts

    Default Re: Dancing for 'slow' guys

    Quote Originally Posted by mollyzmoon View Post
    I think it was just that it reminded me of how I am with children, if that makes sense? It reminded me of talking to kids, and then I guess I was thinking about kids, and then I felt like 'oh no, it's weird to dance for him now...'. I think it's me projecting more than anything.
    I think I know what you mean. It is definitely different to deal with people who are like children in the bodies of adults. I remember a disabled girl I cared for one summer. She was very mentally retarded and for awhile in my care she was on her PERIOD! Of course she would be, I mean she has an adult body but it's hard for me to wrap my mind around.

  21. #21
    God/dess
    Joined
    Oct 2007
    Posts
    2,519
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 53 Times in 32 Posts

    Default Re: Dancing for 'slow' guys

    Quote Originally Posted by ColetteCalahan View Post
    ^ you totally missed by basis for comparison. I was showing a faulty lack of logic. I wasn't saying Latin people lack mental capacity... oy gavult. I SAID that both populations have/are thought to have, ON AVERAGE, a lower income than the AVERAGE white american. (i'm talking about the generalities/stereotypes we hold) but that it doesn't justify not having them as customers and taking their money like anybody else.
    I don't think I missed your logic. While Molly may be using faulty logic, I don't think your Latin example supports that at all because it's completely different. People assume Latin people don't make as much money from stereotyping. That is completely different from assessing an individual's marketable skills.

  22. #22
    Banned
    Joined
    Nov 2007
    Location
    schlong beach
    Posts
    2,096
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: Dancing for 'slow' guys

    ACK.

    1.) we're not talking about marketable skills.
    2.) i never said molly was using faulty logic. i said, 'think of it this way... it doesn't make sense in the same way...'
    3.) latin people DO make less money. look up the last census results.

  23. #23
    God/dess
    Joined
    Oct 2007
    Posts
    2,519
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 53 Times in 32 Posts

    Default Re: Dancing for 'slow' guys

    Quote Originally Posted by ColetteCalahan View Post
    ACK.

    1.) we're not talking about marketable skills.
    Well that is the main reason people assume most disabled people don't make a lot of money.

    Quote Originally Posted by ColetteCalahan View Post
    3.) latin people DO make less money. look up the last census results.
    I believe it. But it's still prejudice to assume that a specific Latin person makes less based on census. That is what I meant.

  24. #24
    Banned
    Joined
    Nov 2007
    Location
    schlong beach
    Posts
    2,096
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: Dancing for 'slow' guys

    *sigh*

  25. #25
    God/dess
    Joined
    Oct 2007
    Posts
    2,519
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 53 Times in 32 Posts

    Default Re: Dancing for 'slow' guys

    We can respectfully agree to disagree

Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast

Similar Threads

  1. slow exotic dancing videos
    By bubblebutt8o8 in forum Stripping (was Stripping General)
    Replies: 0
    Last Post: 06-25-2011, 04:46 PM
  2. slow dancing with a customer?
    By radar in forum Customer Conversation
    Replies: 14
    Last Post: 01-08-2007, 02:06 AM
  3. Slow Dancing
    By Sexy_Nicole in forum Newbie Board
    Replies: 5
    Last Post: 08-29-2006, 07:28 AM
  4. dancing slow all the time?
    By Sada063 in forum Newbie Board
    Replies: 2
    Last Post: 09-30-2005, 09:07 PM
  5. Slow dancing fast songs
    By Sxxygirl311 in forum Newbie Board
    Replies: 18
    Last Post: 03-15-2005, 01:28 PM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •