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    Default My 1st day at my new club...wtf???

    So I worked dayshift today, 12:30-7:30. It actually went better than I had expected for it to be a Monday. I wasn't nervous at all...and I made $60 in drink commission, which isn't good, but it isn't bad figuring that Mondays are said to be really slow. I made a nice amount in tips. Everyone liked me. It was a cool day. Only thing is, I kept drinking. I had two medium size glasses of coke and rum, one shot of rum, 2 small glasses of coke and rum, and a beer...I wasn't drunk, but still. Otherwise, it was a pretty good day. I had fun.

    Well not exactly...as one guy was tipping me, he slipped his hand into my thong and touched my clit...WTF??? It happened so fast and I was shocked. The other dancer who I was sitting with told me to tell the barmaid who was there, but I wanted to curse him out myself. I didn't because he was really tipping me and I was being a dumbass because I wanted $$$. I feel so dirty now. And by the time that the barmaid got to me, he was already gone. Lord, I don't know why I let that slide.

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    TOTALLY unacceptable and you can't let things like that slide.

    Similar things happened to me when I was new. During a lapdance, the customer forcefully grabbed my hand and used it to rub his cock. Another time, we were done dancing and I was walking behind my customer. Without turning around, he reached and grabbed my cooch.

    Please don't let things like this slide. You will honestly feel way better telling them off.

    And you can't just dance defensive. You pretty much need to be defensive all the time

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    btw, I don't mean my above post to sound critical of you. I just know that when I started it made me feel like shit and I don't want you to go through the same again.

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    Default Re: My 1st day at my new club...wtf???

    I know...and I was thinking, he's probably gonna come in again and try to see if i will let him go even further...not good. Next time someone tries something like that, I will go off or either tell the barmaid or the owner because they are really strict about that. If that doesn't work, I will just kick him in the nuts with my stillettos..

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    Another thing I find works really well is to use the words "sexual assault."

    I use this phrase: "I told you not to do X and you did it anyways. You are sexually assaulting me."

    It may seem harsh but the way I see it, I'm paid to dance and entertain, I'm not paid to be abused and assaulted.

    When I say NO I mean NO!

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    Default Re: My 1st day at my new club...wtf???

    I understand...the barmaid told me that no amount of $$$ is worth that. Even if its $100...if someone is touching me in inappropriately that it is not worth it.

    Thank you though. I feel a little bit better now.

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    No prob! Like, I said, same thing happened to me when I first started and I was very passive. Now, nobody gets away with anything I am VERY firm when dealing with these guys and put up with no shit whatsoever.

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    Yeah...one of the other dancers said that the guys were just trying to test me because I was the new girl...but I won't let it happen again.

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    I believe it. When I first started about 1/3 guys would try and touch my coochie. Now it's about 1/20 MAX. The men can definitely sense who is new and the bad ones try and take advantage of that.

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    I've figured that out...some of the guys were nice...but alot of em wanted xtras...I work in a bikini club so they're like, "take it off...open your legs...let me see your tits..." it was ridiculous. I did tell one guy though that if he wanted to see some tits and pussy he either needs to go to another club or look at some porn.

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    Good for you for telling him that!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by NewMoon View Post
    I believe it. When I first started about 1/3 guys would try and touch my coochie. Now it's about 1/20 MAX. The men can definitely sense who is new and the bad ones try and take advantage of that.
    Yeah, now that it's known what my boundaries are and what a firm, semi-violent hand I give to people who try to assault me, honestly, my customers just keep getting more polite, less demanding, relaxed, and hell, cuter, which makes for a more happier, charming, sensual me

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    I think the whole grabbing ur pussy thing is coming an epidemic. Out of 100 people, 30 I had to swat their hand away. Old or new they r going to try it cause some hoe bag let them already.

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    That happened so often when I was new, now it is so rare, and anyone that tries is soooooo sorry they did. Except one custy, who Im pretty sure wanted that reaction.

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    Quote Originally Posted by NewMoon View Post
    Another thing I find works really well is to use the words "sexual assault."

    I use this phrase: "I told you not to do X and you did it anyways. You are sexually assaulting me."

    It may seem harsh but the way I see it, I'm paid to dance and entertain, I'm not paid to be abused and assaulted.

    When I say NO I mean NO!
    I told a guy he was sexually assaulting me once and he said, "No I'm not, you're over 18!!"



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    Quote Originally Posted by NewMoon View Post
    TOTALLY unacceptable and you can't let things like that slide.

    Similar things happened to me when I was new. During a lapdance, the customer forcefully grabbed my hand and used it to rub his cock. Another time, we were done dancing and I was walking behind my customer. Without turning around, he reached and grabbed my cooch.

    Please don't let things like this slide. You will honestly feel way better telling them off.

    And you can't just dance defensive. You pretty much need to be defensive all the time
    I had a creepy customer on Friday who tried to pull that (touching my boob, then I moved his hand, and he tried to touch my who-ha...then proceeded to try to place my hand on his cock).

    Next time, I'm telling someone! We don't have bouncers on days or anything....managers are always walking around and sometimes back in the locked office. Who do I go to first? And do I collect payment for the dance first? I don't see someone paying me after I run to tell management (?)
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