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    (I found a post from a man about this from 2007, but I wanted something more up-to-date).

    What do you think about wearing your wedding ring at work? Is that a huge NO? Does it ruin the fantasy for the guys?

    I have not worn mine (I figured it was an obvious "no-no"), but when asked point blank by some customers if I was married, I said yes. They seemed absolutely OK with it (they were married as well), and continued to spend $$$.

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    When you tell them you are married, just make sure you say it with full confidence and unapologetically and I would expect you would get positive feedback.

    You could also use it to your advantage with married guys "it's okay, we're not doing anything wrong, I'm married too."

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    Hmmm I always took it off and when asked if I had a boyfriend I said, "Yes, like 10!" hahaha . Although I am engaged . Some customers don't mind and some do because they want to keep the fantasy that they could probably "have you".

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    I've always worn mine and never saw any decrease in money. Most customers didn't care and the ones that did were probably going to spend as little as possible and then try to get me to go home with them anyway so I wasn't losing any real money. The most common question I got from guys about my ring was "Does your husband know you do this?" Sometimes I would laugh and say, "Of course" but sometimes I would tell them no and they would get excited thinking I was being naughty. The second most common question was, "Is he here?" What the hell?
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    I wouldn't wear mine (well, if I had one) simply because I wouldn't want anything to happen to it. I'm not saying that it would accidentally fall of your finger... but if there's a robbery or something... it would be safer to keep it at home. Definately don't leave it in your bag or locker. I worked with a girl once who had hers lost/stolen at work. I felt so terrible for her.
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    I hate that - "Is he here?". Why the hell would he be here? That doesn't even make sense. What kind of guy goes to his wife's work every day?

    Ugh, I guess it's just another stripper pet peeve.

    Also, MissLuscious is dead on the money. Any guy who asks that for real is usually a cheap-*** who's trying to talk you into having an affair with him.

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    I've always left my wedding ring at home. Some guys find it to be even more of a turn on when you let them know that you're married. But for the most part, I make it a point not to let them know.

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    When I was engaged I wore mine and it never made a difference in my money. Most of the time guys would just say my SO was lucky and leave it at that. If I was to get married or engaged again I would wear it. Only time I would take it off was if I was doing a messy show because I wouldn't want to fuck it up with paint or ice cream or something.

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    I've gone both ways, I went for a long time not wearing it, and lying about being married. Now though I wear it and when someone asks I will more than likely say "Yep, sure am!" Every now and then I'll make up a story...ohhh, no, not married, the prince of Smallweenia proposed, I haven't made up my mind yet. Do you have a better offer for me?

    I'm a shit.

    But anyway, no, telling guys I'm married hasn't changed a thing, and keeping in line with my new outlook on dancing, it makes me feel better.




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    I dont wear mine at work. I'd like to, but I think it would prob. screw with that fantasy world of the strip club where the girls are available but not quite and all REALLY like you for things other then your money...lol. Once in a while I'll tell a custie I'm married,but not to tell anyone else. SO he feels all special because he knows!

    Plus I've had jewelry break at work and I had a diamond ring that hubby gave me on our 5th anniversary stolen. So I just dont take any chances. It would destroy me if anything happened to that ring so I just would rather err on the side of caution.

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    It depends on the clubs and your customer base. If you work at a club with a lot of transient customers, the ring probably doesn't matter.

    But, if you are at a club where the atmosphere is more homey and you have an established customer base of sorts or infatuated money spending regulars, guys feeling that their favorite dancer is "taken" can be a dealbreaker.

    Case in point, I just worked at two clubs where my ring made no difference, then I forgot to take it off the next day when I went to the club where my wealthy daddy regular goes and he came in unexpectedly and there was the ring on my finger. I freaked out and he immediately noticed it. He is worried that I am taken anyway, and I told him I bought it at a pawn shop for $850, for a lack of anything else to say.

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    I go through spurts of telling and not telling. First of all I never wear my wedding ring. I found that when I tell them, they continue to spend but do not generally become repeat customers. If I lie , I am more likely to have them as a regular. Sometimes for kicks, at the end of a string of songs when I guy(who i more then likely won't see again) asks me on a date I tell him im married, he acts like I just kicked him in the balls. They will even whine that I should have told them before they spent so much money! Pathetic, as it should not matter b/c they sure as hell wouldn't be gettin any if I was single anyways...and sometimes I make sure they know that! But yeah...usually I say I have a boyfriend.

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    i always wear my wedding rings. it has made no difference in my money.
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    I don't wear mine. Sometimes I say I'm married and sometimes I don't.. it just depends on what I think the customer's reaction will be and if they are married as well. Sometimes I say I have a girlfriend. I don't have a good reason why I don't wear it, I guess it just makes me more comfortable not to wear it at work.

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    Quote Originally Posted by winterrose View Post
    i always wear my wedding rings. it has made no difference in my money.
    I used to say that, until i stopped for a long period of time and my amount of regulars bumped sky high compared to when I told the truth. Have you tested both ways?

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    I wear a small diamond ring on my wedding finger. If someones being an ass and wont lay off the "I want to take you home" I'll just hold up my hand. I make the same whether I wear it or not.

    I'm not married btw, not even engaged.

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    Married, but never wore my rings. My Dad had said when I was debating on to wear it or not :"If they want a married woman then they go home. It's all about fantasy, Granted I never go out with customers, but they have to think it's a possibility. To me the majority do not one want to hear how happily married I am great sex, etc. Plus I have a rule: I never mention their wife unless they bring her up in conversation first, most don't because they're trying to figure how to bed u and picturing my hot young hubby is going to pop that fantasy

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    Quote Originally Posted by holly07 View Post
    Married, but never wore my rings. My Dad had said when I was debating on to wear it or not :"If they want a married woman then they go home. It's all about fantasy, Granted I never go out with customers, but they have to think it's a possibility. To me the majority do not one want to hear how happily married I am great sex, etc. Plus I have a rule: I never mention their wife unless they bring her up in conversation first, most don't because they're trying to figure how to bed u and picturing my hot young hubby is going to pop that fantasy
    Your dad? WTF....
    These days I like to count my money. I like to wash it delicately and iron it. Sometimes I dry it with some bounty to make it all nice and cuddly. I love my money... did I say that out loud?

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    I currently don't, but I have. I openly tell all of the custies, girls, management that I'm married, and I don't see any difference in money. I've only had one guy actually have a problem with it in my year of stripping. The great thing is you decimate the number of guys that ask you to go out with them/give you their phone number/ask you for your number. Anyway, I don't wear it much anymore because the gold is pretty soft and it gets scratched up and worn down by the pole.

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    When I work out of town I don't wear my rings. It's just easier to tell guys that I'm not married, plus I'll very probably never see these guys again. AT my home club I always wear them. It's about 80% regulars and they all know I'm married, most of them know my husband (he used to DJ there). I figure the guys that are going to spend on me are going to do it regardless of whether I'm married or not. It's mainly the younger guys that have problem with me being married, older guys don't seem to care. it does come in handy when the kids start asking me out, "Can't, I'm married!"

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    I don't wear my rings ever. I also never admit to being married. When I work, I'm a different person. Period. I also have seen a drop in my money since I got married. I was working in a really small community, though and lots of my regulars would see me with my husband in public or hear through the grapevine that I'd been married and they simply stopped coming in to spend. I even had one guy fall head over heels for me but then called a mutual friend who told him I was married and then he stopped coming in to spend.
    I haven't tried working in a larger city, yet so I don't know how married women do in clubs out here. Back in Guam it was deny, deny, deny amongst the house girls. We were pretty protective about that info.
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    I always wore mine. Seems like the customers who wouldn't spend money on me because I was a married dancer are the ones who are looking for dates. I don't want 'em around anyway.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ediblecrayonz View Post
    The great thing is you decimate the number of guys that ask you to go out with them/give you their phone number/ask you for your number.
    And it cuts down on the want extras guys too.

    I really see no need to lie about it, or deny being married. In fact i don't lie if asked about my rings. It feels wrong to deny my hubby's existenace in my life, regardless of the fact that I am a stripper.

    But for me it would be really hard to deny being married, my hubby is the DJ where I work. So I see no point in not telling, since most of the cut-throat girls I work with act like they are effecting my money by telling people I'm married. At which point my customers just look at them and say something like, I already know...

    thing is they usually say it on shifts when I work with the other dj, who's gets a kick out of telling these confused chicks and custies we are not married.
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    Your dad? WTF....
    Yes,her dad gave her advice. That's hard to understand how?
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    Quote Originally Posted by holly07 View Post
    Married, but never wore my rings. My Dad had said when I was debating on to wear it or not :"If they want a married woman then they go home. It's all about fantasy, Granted I never go out with customers, but they have to think it's a possibility. To me the majority do not one want to hear how happily married I am great sex, etc. Plus I have a rule: I never mention their wife unless they bring her up in conversation first, most don't because they're trying to figure how to bed u and picturing my hot young hubby is going to pop that fantasy

    Okay... I second the "your dad, wtf?" My parents both know what I do for a living but I don't think I could talk to my father about being some random guys fantasy...

    On the other hand, I'm getting married in two weeks and my mother asked me if it bothered me that my fiance can't wear his ring to work (he's a mechanic). And I said, "Nah, 'cause I can't wear mine to work either!"

    When customer's ask me, I say I'm divorced, which is true. If they ask if I have a boyfriend I say, not yet. Then I give a witty reply tailored to the customer. For example I ask the older guys, "Why you wanna be my boy toy?"

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