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    I have a question for other dancers, has dancing ever caused problems for u with friends/ other job? Has anyone ever given u shit for dancing or have u lost friends over it? There are people i have kept it from bc i know they would judge me, and that sucks.

    I also have had men give me shit for what i'm doing. Its like they think i'm a whore or something, that i'll give it up easily bc i dance wtf!

    I'm sure other girls have had the same experience, whats the best way to deal with it?

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    I had trouble with my parents and that's it. I'm very fortunate.

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    I just ignore it or say it's just a job.
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    I lost a female friend who I've been close with since high school. I couldnt stand being around her anymore and her judgements. She kept asking me if work was affecting me in a bad way and asking if Im looking for other (non dancing) jobs. I got sick of it and have distanced myself from her.

    Yeh a few guys have assumed I'll be easy or whatever coz I dance. It's the complete opposite, I think dancing has made me wayyyyyyy harder to get. I expect a lot from men now and will make them jump thru hoops and then they still aren't gonna get shit hahahhaahaha.
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    It's made relationships very hard due to men's insecuriities, and it's difficult to look at things the same. My standards of beauty and my standards of men have gotten much harder and higher. Once you dance you never really go back to how you were...not necessarily a bad thing just different.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post

    Yeh a few guys have assumed I'll be easy or whatever coz I dance. It's the complete opposite, I think dancing has made me wayyyyyyy harder to get. I expect a lot from men now and will make them jump thru hoops and then they still aren't gonna get shit hahahhaahaha.
    hahaha i like the way you think.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sveta View Post
    hahaha i like the way you think.
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    Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.

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    That really sucks about losing a friend

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    I'm open about it with everyone (friends and family) with the exception of people at my school and it's relatively easy to hide it from them. I didn't tell my family for a few months because I was worried about them judging me (both of my parents are retired military) but after they got over the initial shock and several questions, they turned out to be extremely supportive.

    The only problem has been with the dating scene. I've been single more often than I would have been if I wasn't dancing. On the other hand, it's a great way to weed out the insecure guys.

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    I'm worried about th drama it'll cause if I tell my motorcycle group right now. Either they won't care or I'll get hit on a lot - and I don't want to. I just want to ride with a bunch of men, and that already sounds dirty enough!


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    I'm a very blunt and upfront person, so most people know what I do, with the exception of family friends, some friends of friends, my managers at my other job and a few teachers etc.

    I have noticed that since news spread a bit at my other job that a few of the older women have stopped talking to me, but hey, no great loss, they were bitchy and nosey at best anyway

    Most of my friends are either apathetic about it, think I'm retarded but love me anyway, or are impressed with my 'bravery'. I think the only other thing is that I don't get to see them much since I work weekends and nights, but we still keep in touch for the most part.

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    My family will know when I haved moved on to my next career. I am already bracing myself for denial from my parents, judgements and criticisms from my brother and twin sister (ESPECIALLY from the twin), and my older sister will most likely be the only one who will have my back.

    My friends will be like "Oh S.E. you crazy girl!" "You did what you had to do" and leave it at that.

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    I lost my closest friend of 6 yrs.......she said it was because she thought I was too good for this job.....well she was worng....No one is too good for anything and needless to say I view this job as my first option....not my last.....and I am going somewhere with ths job and supporting my self.....she has yet to hold down a job, or support herself fully
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    The only problem has been with the dating scene. I've been single more often than I would have been if I wasn't dancing. On the other hand, it's a great way to weed out the insecure guys.[/quote]


    Yeah, i have recently stopped for a few months but plan on going back after i move out of my parents house(they found out and had a serious problem with it unfortunately), and a guy i went on a few dates with who knew told me he was glad i stopped, bc he wouldnt wanna be with a girl who took her clothes off for other men, yet he frequents strip clubs.

    Hmmm...so its ok for him to go check out other naked chicks, but i cant do my job?

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    Hmmm...so its ok for him to go check out other naked chicks, but i cant do my job?
    that's why I think of the job as a screening tool rather than a problem when it comes to potential dates.

    If I hear something like that, then I know right off the bat..."insecure, with ridiculous misogynist double standards...next!"

    Better to know a guy's character within five minutes by telling him that I dance, than to waste weeks or months with him until he lets his guard down and shows his true colors.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    Yeh a few guys have assumed I'll be easy or whatever coz I dance. It's the complete opposite, I think dancing has made me wayyyyyyy harder to get. I expect a lot from men now
    I'm the same way! Which is a good thing. Maybe the club fills up my bs quota and I don't have energy for any of it in my personal life. Funny they say dancing "ruins your self esteem" but for me, it's made me demand more.

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    I get odd reactions sometimes- like when I cashed in ones at a bank, and the chick called all her co-workers over to get a look at a stripper. I have found it does screen people out- I get much more loyal friends in the end because the "fakes" cant handle it. I lost my best friend from child hood when I cut her off financially, but do I really need someone who just uses me? Now I have a close circle of friends that are there for me no matter what.
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    Quote Originally Posted by kittytheflamingo View Post
    like when I cashed in ones at a bank, and the chick called all her co-workers over to get a look at a stripper.
    um, wow. I hope you got her fired.

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    It's one thing for friends to show concern, or some other kind of support, but when they judge you and put you down to make themselves look/feel better, then they aren't your friends in the first place.

    It will be interesting when my friends and family find out. I'll know who is who.

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    the only problems i have had is when i get into spats with friedns and they always use dancing as something to throw up in my face.

    example:

    i told my friend i didnt like his gold digging girlfriend and that shes just using him, and he replied "your a stripper since when have you had such highly unatainable moral values?"

    thats about the only issues i have.

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    Nope. The only issue I had was when I came out of the closet to my Mom. She was NOT enthused, to say the least. That lasted all of maybe a month and things are back to normal. I'm pretty lucky, I suppose.

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    my best friend got me dancing and my old roommate knew and didn't care. ive never had a problem with friends, but i was dating a guy that didn't have a problem with it but his roommate didn't want me around because he didn't like what i did and my ex was very insecure with it after about 2 months or so of dating. i haven't told my parents tho, i dont think they could handle it

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    I lost all but 1 of my high school friends because of dancing. They treat me like a circus freak when I run into them in public. I was very, very stupid to tell a few people when I started, because now everyone knows. I have exactly 4 people in my phone who are non-dancers.

    But I say, fuck them. Shows what assholes and shallow people they are. I seriously hope I never, ever see or talk to them again. I have met some great friends through stripping. My stripper friends are better people and genuine friends than those bitches.

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    my mother has no problem telling me that she thinks I am a "whore" because of my job. Yet in the same conversation she has told me she needs money and how much she needs, then has made some snide comments on how it shouldn't be hard for a "whore" to come up with the desired amount in a short time frame.

    One of the last conversations we had that ended like that I took her the money in all $1's, and as she picked it up to count it, I told her maybe she should just deposit it and not bother counting it....as I walked out I told her make sure she washed her hands afterwards, because "only a few hours earlier those were all in my pussy!" She dropped the money back in the envelope, turned red and said thank you for the money.
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    ^^^

    HAHAHAHAHA!!!!!

    Anyway, yes I have had people be very judgmental about it. Those people are no longer my friends. I consider myself better off!
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