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    I'm scared of him!

    When I first moved in a couple of weeks ago, I accidentally parked in "his" spot. So, as I was happily eating dinner and watching the L word, he started BANGING on my door. So loud that my kitten squeaked and ran into the other room. He banged intermittently until I got to the door. He sarcastically told me off until I explained the situation to him. Once he understood he calmed down a bit but went off a little about "fucking hating" the "bitch" that used to live in my apartment because of parking issues. I'm usually okay with reasoning with people but after he left I was shaking and on the verge of tears.

    Now today, I went outside to find some of my mail crumpled up and thrown at my door, along with a receipt of mine that I must have accidentally dropped outside.

    I don't know what to do! I live in a vintage fourplex that is pretty coveted and most people who move in live here for years. The neighbor guy has lived here for a really long time and I'm afraid that he'll bitch about me to the landlord and I'll be kicked out. And I'm a good neighbor! I'm quiet and clean, etc. Um except for that dropped receipt apparently.

    I don't know what to do but now I'm feeling all anxious and teary...

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    Default Re: My new neighbor is an angry aggresive guy

    Maybe he's just taking out his frustration on you. Perhaps the old tenant was equally aggressive. That doesn't make his reaction acceptable.

    Who delivers your mail? Where is it normally left? I've never heard of mailmen throwing it by someone's door, but how did your neighbor get access to it?

    I would suggest staying calm and see if this is just a case of "getting off on the wrong foot". If he proves to be that loud/rude/abusive again (I'd really only give it one more time if it's a scary situation!), complain to the landlord. You could ask the neighbor to be nicer but you might have better luck talking to a brick wall.

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    Tampering with somebody's mail is illegal and is serious business to the USPS. Doesn't matter how angry he is, he had no right to crumple it up and throw it at your door, or even REMOVE it from the mailbox.

    You pay a landlord to handle these issues. Tell your landlord this man has made you very fearful and is rude and abusive. Also mention the mail thing. He needs to be talked to; sounds like if you were to try to resolve this on your own he could become even more abusive and aggressive.

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    My complex is a fourplex that looks like a big house. You have to unlock the outside main door and then unlock the door to your own apartment (mine is one of the upstairs ones, as is the angry neighbor's).

    Our mailboxes are on the outside of the building by the main front door. They do not lock. The crumpled mail was outside my apartment door, not my main door. So it had to have been one of the tenants that put it there.

    I'm still not sure if I should talk to him first or to the landlady. The landlady is this really brusque "don't bother me" kind of lady and this is the only complex she owns. But the guy just seems really unreasonable and is quite the bitch. I hear him outside shrieking at people on his phone all the time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LilyLove View Post
    My complex is a fourplex that looks like a big house. You have to unlock the outside main door and then unlock the door to your own apartment (mine is one of the upstairs ones, as is the angry neighbor's).

    Our mailboxes are on the outside of the building by the main front door. They do not lock. The crumpled mail was outside my apartment door, not my main door. So it had to have been one of the tenants that put it there.

    I'm still not sure if I should talk to him first or to the landlady. The landlady is this really brusque "don't bother me" kind of lady and this is the only complex she owns. But the guy just seems really unreasonable and is quite the bitch. I hear him outside shrieking at people on his phone all the time.
    His messing with your mail is definitely a problem. Why would someone do that? Was it possibly mixed in with his mail? But he still should have put it in your mailbox.

    You have to contact your landlady to let her know that he is making your living situation uncomfortable, despite her brusque attitude. Perhaps get her attention with the moving of your mail, or saying "unlivable situation" if you have a year lease. If he yells at you again, disturbs the peace or becomes verbally abusive and the landlord isn't helping, you can call the police.

    If you can prove an unlivable situation, such as with police reports or recorded reports to the landlord, it can be cause to terminate your lease early if you have to.

    I'm sorry you're stuck in this situation.

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    Yeah, if you can hear him shrieking all the time, that's another strike against him with disturbing the peace. If he's like this with you, and outwardly so, I'd be willing to bet others have had problems with him, but might be too scared like you to say anything.

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    I used to live in a place sorta' like this...I'd probably "get to" the owner first via a phone call or if you're more comfortable,a nicely written note and explain that you feel you've exemplified the "ideal tennant" in your actions and currently feel that he might not understand how important it is for all to be civil and considerate at all times...tell them that you wanted to live there because you felt it was a classy place with higher than normal standards and decent fellow tennants.

    Throw the ball in their court and let them handle it. If he persists in being an ass,then play hardball back and make it clear that you will not tolerate rudeness and inconsideration and that you feel you are being targeted by him for no reason...most women will not respond well if they know he is using foul-language and being aggressive,even a landlord.

    In instances such as these,it goes a long way if you are "the first" to bring it into the open.

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    The only solutution I can think of is to get drunk, go knock on his door and scream in his face and be really pushy about how he touched your mail. And if he denies it tell him that u are just warning him about the future. Well u dont have to be drunk but the crazier the better.

    Or just send him a touching note about you are sorry that you got off on the wrong foot with him but youd like things to be pleasent between u too.

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    PS i dont reccommend tattling. he might be prepared for that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by golden41 View Post
    The only solutution I can think of is to get drunk, go knock on his door and scream in his face and be really pushy about how he touched your mail. And if he denies it tell him that u are just warning him about the future. Well u dont have to be drunk but the crazier the better.
    I have to disagree. Having delt with a lot of crazy people in my life, this just seems to make the aggressive ones even more aggressive. He obviously has a rage problem.

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    I had a crazy neighbor like that once and it was not fun. He was a lonely, bitter, 70-year old angry hag of a man that complained about EVERYTHING. I honestly think it gave him some sort of purpose in life to bitch and complain. I was too loud when I closed my apartment door, too loud when watching tv, too loud when having company over... I swear he must have been part bat.

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    Quote Originally Posted by golden41 View Post
    The only solutution I can think of is to get drunk, go knock on his door and scream in his face and be really pushy about how he touched your mail. And if he denies it tell him that u are just warning him about the future. Well u dont have to be drunk but the crazier the better.

    Ok, thats dangerous.

    I would be wary of asking your landlady to sort it,. I did that with the landlord of the psycho guy next door, and said landlord grassed on me and totally landed me in it. So psycho comes to my door telling me to phone the landlord and tell him its ok, in a kind of guiet but still threatening way.
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    Quote Originally Posted by golden41 View Post
    The only solutution I can think of is to get drunk, go knock on his door and scream in his face and be really pushy about how he touched your mail. And if he denies it tell him that u are just warning him about the future. Well u dont have to be drunk but the crazier the better.
    So....do what he's doing back at him? Two wrongs hardly ever make a right, just intensify the problem. Plus her credibility as the "victim" would be questioned if she's doing what he does to her.

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    LOL geez why didnt anyone read the rest of my post. first part was kinda a dare. I suggested just writing him a polite note.

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    I did. You just kinda prefaced the nice idea with the bad idea? Distracting.

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    well it's your own damn fault, you parked IN his spot and mack the decency to pick up things you drop, the guy has every right to be this angry, he should have just slit your throat and be done with it you freakishly weak excuse of a human being.
    i hope next time he rapes your ass while hitting you with a rake!

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    Hide a camera and record his ass. People really have issues in this world dont' they? I am sorry you are going through this crap.


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    You're young and hot. Complain to your landlord that your neighbor is harassing you, before he gets a chance to complain about you.

    If he does something like that again, get in his face. Seriously. Don't be polite, don't be contrite. Tell him to go fuck himself and slam the door in his face while telling him you are calling the cops. I bet you never hear from him again.

    If he gets the idea he can push you around, he will persist. So many people think young women are easy targets. If all else fails I'll come over and kick his ass for you. It wouldn't be the first time...


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    Get a security camera and make sure you keep recordings of anything he does or says. If he continues to be aggressive, call the landlord and the police.

    here are a few..tehy arent even expensive and a few transmit directly to the web:

    http://www.pcconnection.com/IPA/Shop...&ci_sku=471431

    http://www.homedecorsuperstore.com/v...m_Number=36772

    http://www.surveillance-video.com/

    I'd leave a note..maybe with a box of cookies or something on his doorstep. Saying "I know you had issues with the previous tenant, but please realize I am NOT her. I hope we can live together in peace"

    Then at least you can say you tried.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris View Post
    You're young and hot. Complain to your landlord that your neighbor is harassing you, before he gets a chance to complain about you.

    If he does something like that again, get in his face. Seriously. Don't be polite, don't be contrite. Tell him to go fuck himself and slam the door in his face while telling him you are calling the cops. I bet you never hear from him again.

    If he gets the idea he can push you around, he will persist. So many people think young women are easy targets. If all else fails I'll come over and kick his ass for you. It wouldn't be the first time...
    I agree. He's looking for people to push around, and if you don't let him then he won't do it and find someone else to be pissed off at. Don't initiate any confrontations but don't just nod and promise to do whatever he gets pissed about. And in the meantime, definitely tell your landlord!

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    Quote Originally Posted by golden41 View Post
    The only solutution I can think of is to get drunk, go knock on his door and scream in his face and be really pushy about how he touched your mail. And if he denies it tell him that u are just warning him about the future. Well u dont have to be drunk but the crazier the better.

    Or just send him a touching note about you are sorry that you got off on the wrong foot with him but youd like things to be pleasent between u too.
    Better yet, get your father, brother, boyfriend or a male friend to knock on his door and have a "chat" with him. Let him know that if he messes with you, he'll have to answer to a large angry man who has your back. That should scare him off.

    This guy sounds like a coward who picks on women. I guarantee if his neighbor was another guy, he wouldn't have the balls to say shit...much less crumple up his mail and bang on his door screaming.
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    Quote Originally Posted by High-Heel-Lover View Post
    Hide a camera and record his ass. People really have issues in this world dont' they? I am sorry you are going through this crap.
    I agree, this is a very good idea. Alot of situations like this are on court tv.

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    PLAN on moving out! I know you don't want to hear that but plan on it just in case. Document every interaction with this prick. Keep a recorder handy to record your conversations with him if he comes charging back. Document the day and time of his nutty behavior and let the landlord know by certified letter that if his behavior is not addressed and resolved that it will be a breach of contract between you. She has a responsibility to keep the building safe and your mail secure. If she can't do that then she's not entitled to your rent.

    Ultimately, if it does not improve you may have to move. Some landlords are stupid enough to keep problem tenants. She and he sound like they have anti-social attitudes in common!
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    I don't know how he's managed to live there for years with his shit attitude.
    Document everything. Get a cheap vid cam and see if you can discretely catch him doing his thing. The more times the better. Or a mini tape recorder and keep it on you where you can access it.
    If he harasses you call the cops.
    If he gets in your face again tell him where it's at. Tell him it's a shame his junk must be so small he has to compensate with a big mouth. ( I did have one loser offer to show me his penis after I said that. Gotta love how they're all so proud of nothing.)
    Talk to the other neighbors and see if they've had any problems with him and how they deal with it.
    Chances are he thinks he's someone important and thinks he can get away with it.
    Sounds like the landlords a little bitch. She's probably scared of him too.
    Good luck.

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