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    One of my friends want to strip. Normally I would be encouraging and helpful but this girl has MAJOR issues including severe relationship and sex issues. She is also a recovering alcoholic. I'm worried it would be a step backwards for her.

    Do you think I should try and talk her out of it, or do you think I should be encouraging and just try and make sure she does it right?

    It bothered me when she was talking on and on about it last night
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    You can only say so much as her friend. I mean you'll have the best intentions either way. If it was my friend I would discourage her considering she's a recovering alcoholic. I can't imagine how hard it would be to try and recover being around booze all the time.

    She'll probably do what she wants to do in the end and will probably start stripping. If she does hopefully she'll do well and it won't effect her recovery. You can really only give her the facts before she'll decide what she wants.
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    I would talk her out of it- tell her the economy is bad and that starting off she'd probably make just as much hourly as a waitressing job anyways.
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    How long has she been sober? Has she ever worked sober in a bar or restaurant? Do her relationship and sex issues stem from abuse or trauma (you might not know)?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Samba View Post
    How long has she been sober? Has she ever worked sober in a bar or restaurant?
    She only works for a bank. She isn't completely sober yet. She drinks A LOT less but she still drinks to deal with her problems.
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    Do her relationship and sex issues stem from abuse or trauma (you might not know)?
    Yes but I don't know to what extent.

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    yeah, I also would like to know how long she's been sober. And if she's in AA. Personally, I think stripping would put someone's sobriety at risk because of the alcohol in the environment. And to add what Samba asked, does she regularly go out to places that serve alcohol (bars and clubs) and doesn't have a problem?

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    I don't know what you should do, but if she were my friend, I would advise her against it. I wouldn't make a big case against it, but I'd point out what I see as the drawbacks, tell her I don't think it would be good for her, then let it go at that.

    She has to make her own choice, though.
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    Are there any alcohol free clubs in your area? If she's still drinking I would think that the temptation of being around alcohol, especially free alcohol, would be too much.

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    Thanks for your advice, girls. You've confirmed what I felt and that's that I will discourage her if she asked but still respect her chioce.

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    Sorry, threadjack: I LOVE your avatar SAMBA! LMAO.


    Anyways, I would DEFINITELY discourage my friend if she was recovering from alcohol and wanting to strip. It's just the LAST enviroment you should be involved in if you're really recovering from any substance.

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    ^^ especially if she hasn't quit yet. I've been sober two years and can just now handle working in an alcohol club. Even 18& up was difficult for a long time cuz most girls just bring thier own, and offer it to you all night.
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    Well taking into consideration the unsolved history she's coming with...me as her friend:

    1) First I would try and talk her out of the idea.
    -Cause she obviously might fall back into her drinking habit since there will be alcohol ( plus if someone offers, it's hard to say no with that kind of problem ).

    -Also any other kind of stress eg: not making enough money, having guys always trying to grab her & use her for their sexual satisfaction will only scar her more emotionally, since she has been having problems with guys & sex!!

    Basically she might only end up hurting herself more.

    2) But then again, you can't control her nor make decisions for her. If she dosn't take your advice, then the least you could do is watch over her.

    I am not a dancer, but I do work in that kind off environment, and my father is also a recovering alcoholic . Hope I was of any help...good luck!!
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    As someone who has had alcohol problems in the past, I would like to say that I have not had any serious issues with this. It is annoying when people push you to drink, but being in the club has actually turned me OFF to alcohol even more. I am constantly saying "I DON'T DRINK" (great positive reinforcement) and holding my ground. It feels amazing.

    Watching some of the other girls order a drink right when they get to work, get drunk during their shifts, and act absolutely retarded - gives me even more motivation to abstain.

    I realize that I am probably not your "typical" case - but there is a flip-side, and there ARE people out there who can handle it.
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    Take her to a total dive and let that turn her off. Worked for me when I turned 18.

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    Ugh, one of my friends just mentioned on her LJ that she wants to start stripping. She is the worst candidate ever, other than her incredible hottness. She's crazy, insecure, and she wants to start because she keeps driving herself deeper and deeper into debt. Id don't know how much she's in debt, but she has a degree from a $40k college, is about to go into grad school, just went to Europe and charged it all on her CC, buys things like taxidermied animals...

    Ugh. I told her that she can probably make $100/shift, not counting house fees. She used to live in PDX but would be dancing in Chicago. I know she couldn't hustle anyone without hating herself.

    On the other hand, I have one friend that I helped get in to stripping for whom it worked out really well. She's confident, pretty, a good party girl, intelligent and very resourceful. I told her all of the pros and cons, showed her stripperfaq and SW, and she visited me at work a couple of times. When she finally auditioned at my club, I wasn't there and did not work with her for several shifts. She did it for several months post-graduation and enjoyed it. Eventually she moved to another city and works for a publishing company. I knew she could handle it and it would be a great tool for her.

    However, that first girl -- she would just hate herself even more if she danced. Ugh!

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    Quote Originally Posted by anomar View Post
    buys things like taxidermied animals...
    That made me LMAO!!!!
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    It's true! She has a freaking LION.

    Phew. I told her she'd probably make about $100/shift and she balked. Phew! I know that maybe some people can enter the market now and do better, but she haaaates being artificial and she hates talking to strangers and also her own nudity. So! (I think she's happiest continuing just going clubbing.)

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    Woah!

    If she hates talking to strangers and hates her own nudity, why in the world would she even entertain the idea of dancing? I agree with you - sounds like a very bad candidate!
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    She starts with me tonight *deep breath*

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    i would say unless she was going to work at a juice bar, the timing may not be the best...

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    Yeah, I agree. But juice bars don't exist here and she is going to do it no matter what I do........

    btw, your signature is disturbing o_O

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    Quote Originally Posted by NewMoon View Post

    btw, your signature is disturbing o_O
    thanks!

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