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    Default Is it possible to have TOO positive a body image?

    So I'm really comfortable with the size of my body. Always have been. I'm glad I am -- I hate to see all the pain others go through over it -- but I just realized it may have been impeding my progress.

    Now, right now I'm 5'6", 150 lbs and about 36-29-35, and I thought I'd get smaller when I started dancing -- three shifts a week, spending half of each shift onstage -- but I've stayed about the same size, and recently it hit me: maybe I'm keeping weight on because I don't *want* to be smaller -- I like to take up space, and I want to be more physically imposing than I am. I hate feeling ignored or insignificant. I visualized myself skinnier in the mirror and felt like I would lose confidence if I got smaller.

    So I decided to take up bodybuilding a bit more seriously (as I know that my body tends to let go of fat more easily when it's got more muscle) and I'm about three days into the plan, which is to do my lifting routine three to four times per week, eat 30-40g of protein within the few hours after hitting the gym, and always try to increase the resistance (building lifts rather than "maintenance" lifts) on at least half the muscle groups. It already seems to be having an effect; my arms are a lot better defined than they were a few days ago. I feel like I'm going to be a lot happier if I stick with it, and probably will wind up thinner around the middle, too.

    I'm also considering getting creeper sneakers (the kind with the two-inch flat platforms) to add height without the annoyance of heels.

    I feel like maybe, in some cases, we hang onto weight because we are using it for something, physically or psychologically. Anyone sympathize?
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    i think people like going to parties and clubs and looking like douchebags.

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    Default Re: Is it possible to have TOO positive a body image?

    As long as you arent being all narcissistic about it...be HAPPY that you are happy!!

    I'm about the same as you now..a tiny bit taller(less than an inch). I would like to lose more because I think I'd look my best at 10-15 pounds lighter...you'd see more muscle definition. It irks me that I KNOW the muscle is there, but if I could just get rid of that little bit you could see them!!

    But yeah..I think you look absolutely PERFECT and I'm so glad to hear that you think so too! Esp after you were bitching about being fat not long ago....see..I TOLD YOU SO!!!! LOL!

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    Default Re: Is it possible to have TOO positive a body image?

    If that's you in your avatar, then no it's not possible to be "too positive". You're gorgeous.
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    Default Re: Is it possible to have TOO positive a body image?

    Aww, thanks, sweet folks. :-)

    See, my problem with fat is this...

    I don't think I'm fat.

    CUSTOMERS don't think I'm fat. At least, not unless fat is what makes them buy dances, which it may be -- who knows?

    Club management thinks I'm fat, as a rule. And that's where the buck stops and where my shifts get handed out, so I've gotta adjust accordingly.
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    Quote Originally Posted by thechaosfairy View Post
    Aww, thanks, sweet folks. :-)

    See, my problem with fat is this...

    I don't think I'm fat.

    CUSTOMERS don't think I'm fat. At least, not unless fat is what makes them buy dances, which it may be -- who knows?

    Club management thinks I'm fat, as a rule. And that's where the buck stops and where my shifts get handed out, so I've gotta adjust accordingly.
    Fuck them - its a pleasant change to hear someone is happy with their body!
    I did an interview last year about body image. I was the ONLY female out of 500 questioned that had a positive happy body image. At the same time Im not proclaiming to be perfect and fabulous - some people think Im too skinny, but I learnt to accept thats how I am and Im happy and thats all that counts.

    Personally Id rather see more threads like this thant the ones about people being unhappy with how they look. - And Im not meaning that offensively

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    Quote Originally Posted by thechaosfairy View Post

    See, my problem with fat is this...

    I don't think I'm fat.
    This is my experience also. I've had doubts about myself, mainly stemming from one club owner, but in general I am really happy with myself. After my experience with that club owner, I wondered if I had some kind of reverse body dismorphic disorder. Like, do I perceive myself as hotter than I am? I don't have an ego or anything, I just go on customer's reaction's to me.

    I finally concluded that customers' opinion mattered most, since they were the ones filling my purse with twenties. And I'm in this biz for money.

    Congrats for feeling similar. Don't feel bad about not feeling bad about how you look.

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    Default Re: Is it possible to have TOO positive a body image?

    I have the same problem. I like how I look. I know I could make more money and get hired more places if I lost weight, but I just don't care enough to really work at it.



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    Default Re: Is it possible to have TOO positive a body image?

    I don't think you think too highly of yourself. i think it's healthy and normal to accept the way you are.

    At the end of the day, you're the face looking back at yourself in the mirror and you have to please that person first.

    Stripping is just a job and doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of things. Nobody layed on their death bed thinking, "I wish I got hired for the better shifts."

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    Default Re: Is it possible to have TOO positive a body image?

    At first look at this thread title, I thought it was about The Other Owner LoL!

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    Quote Originally Posted by LilyLove View Post
    After my experience with that club owner, I wondered if I had some kind of reverse body dismorphic disorder. Like, do I perceive myself as hotter than I am?
    No. You ARE wicked hot. J. has even commented on it to me and I always heartily agree.

    So keep on...being hot.


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    Default Re: Is it possible to have TOO positive a body image?

    Oh, and to answer the question, no. I WISH I was happy with my appearance but I am always finding something and probably always will. And even when I look in the mirror and think "Wow, I look really fantastic today" I will STILL think "Well, I'd look even more fantastic if my tits were perkier and I had a different nose."

    I think I'm doomed to be perpetually discontent with myself.

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    Thanks for all the love. :-)

    I really do wish I could bottle my body-image and sell it.

    I've been watching "How To Look Good Naked" with Carson Kressley (and that's basically what he does -- act as a body image coach) and screaming "I WANT HIS JOB! How do I get his job? He gets to be everyone's gay best friend! And make people love themselves! And get PAID for it!"
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    i think people like going to parties and clubs and looking like douchebags.

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