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    Default I just can't do this right now. (vent)

    Money has been bad in my town for clubs all summer. It's been hard to break a hundred most nights I've worked. I'm thrilled if I make 150. Last night I went home with 75 after tip-out. I can't LIVE on that. I have debts and car payments and bills and I can't even afford to fill up my tank right now.

    It's not just the money, I'm just having so much trouble enjoying this job now. The two hours it takes to get ready--showering, straightening my hair, makeup, packing my bag--is pure agony and it feels like another part of work I'm not getting paid for. Customers seem to get worse and worse and I'm much less able to keep a smile on my face when they do something rude. I'm often outright rude back. Last night when I tried to get a dollar dance from a dude and he said "I'm gonna give you TWO dollars--I better get a damn good dance for these two bucks!" and I very visibly rolled my eyes. Your fucking two dollars is worthless to me, dude, stop acting as if you're handing me a winning lotto ticket. I just can't be polite to shit like that anymore, it'll eat at my soul.

    I do try to hustle, I do try to get dances but there really is only so much I can do. Every guy I tried to get dances from last night seemed to say something to the effect of "You're sooo beautiful, I would be way too intimidated by you alone with you, but you are totally gorgeous. No thanks though."
    Compliments don't pay my bills. I'm so sick of guys going on and on praising my supposed beauty and then not paying me for anything---not tipping, not buying dances, not even offering to buy me a drink. I'm tired of saying "Thank you, you're so sweet" and then when I try to get them to get a dance, I get a refusal. It may sound fucked up to be complaining about compliments, but when I don't get money out of them? They're worthless to me.

    The owner of the club told me I should be more positive, more like this certain stripper who basically drags customers in the VIP room by their hair to get dances. He said "Stop being so negative, there's money here, you just gotta find it!" Um, no. There is no money here, the most customers at the place on a Friday night was 10. The bar is not doing well at all---the season, gas prices, economy--whatever. It doesn't matter why to me at this point, all that matters is I'm not getting paid. It's not like I come to work with a scowl on my face but when I try and try and try...again, there's only so much I can do.

    I have tried one other club but I didn't make significantly more there. Apparently all the clubs in town are kind of slow right now. I'm tempted to try at another one but I'm just so burnt out on stripping right now. I've been browsing craigslist for other jobs. It bugs me that I have to do that because an $8/hour job shouldn't be paying me more than I do stripping but it might some months and at least it's guaranteed.

    Sorry to be so whiny but every night I go in, it's the same deal and I feel fortunate to make over a hundred bucks most nights now. It's upsetting and customers are unpleasant. When they don't even offer to buy me a DRINK or get a dollar dance--I just wanna scream.

    To put the cherry on top, last night some ass requested that the DJ play Bloodhound Gang's "The Lapdance is Always Better When the Stripper is Crying" and I was just in no mood for it since I already was on the verge of tears. Normally I can have a good sense of humor about that kind of stuff but the degrading lyrics and the three lousy bucks on stage while I was naked on stage just made me wanna throw ash trays at people.

    *deep breath*
    Just...I don't know. I love stripping when it's worth my time to go in and leave with a substantial amount of money. But I can't remember the last time that happened.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Laylalust View Post
    Just...I don't know. I love stripping when it's worth my time to go in and leave with a substantial amount of money. But I can't remember the last time that happened.
    i just want to say.. you dont love it, then. imo, at least. you love the money you get from doing it. the way i see it, if you love something, it isn't based on monitary compensation. like, "i love spending time with my sugar daddy, but only when he's paying me."

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    Maybe you should have been passive aggressive and danced to Pink's You and Your hand during your next set? I've been sooo tempted to do this on bad nights, kind of like my own eff you to all the cheap douchebags. lol.

    I feel you though, I haven't been making great money either this last week and it's frustrating. I don't even want to go in tonight. last night was a total nightmare. I had a new, sexy outfit, my makeup was great, I had a great, fun attitude and all I heard all night was maybe later, I'm waiting for someone, I just got here, I'm just hanging out right now. BLAH BLAH BLAH.

    Oh well, fuckers. I know I'm hot and you'd never have a chance with anyone like me in real life anyways.

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    Quote Originally Posted by britt244 View Post
    i just want to say.. you dont love it, then. imo, at least. you love the money you get from doing it. the way i see it, if you love something, it isn't based on monitary compensation. like, "i love spending time with my sugar daddy, but only when he's paying me."
    Yeah, I wouldn't say I love the job whether or not I'm making money. When I'm doing well monetarily everything about the job perks up for me though--I get in a better mood, I'm more energetic, more positive, I enjoy the atmosphere and, for that night, I love being a stripper. And I can handle the occasional bad night if it's one or two amongst many good ones. But since every night I've worked for the past two months has been bad, it's harder and harder to love the job. I guess that makes me a fair-weather stripper, lol.
    But I haven't just given up because of a couple of bad nights.
    I go in every night with a hopeful attitude. It's just that I leave every night with a bad one.

    virgoamm---Haha, I'm so gonna request to dance to that song tonight! Love it!
    And yeah, the same stupid lines over and over again are kind of what drive me to enraged insanity every night. Oy.


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    Quote Originally Posted by britt244 View Post
    i just want to say.. you dont love it, then. imo, at least."
    Nah, I disagree. I've been there, done that, and its ok to enjoy dancing when getting paid. I mean, its not charity work. For some reason your hustle's off and you're understandably frustrated. I've been there. Done that. I solved it by taking a break from dancing. I don't know if you can swing it financially, but after some time the burnout will wear off and you'll be as great as ever. Otherwise, just keep trying! I dunno what else to tell yah.

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    hmmmmmmm........and what's worse is when you have to pay a sitter, a ride.....and when no hourly job will hire you so you just gotta do something

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    Can you try an out-of-town trip (maybe just to PDX or someplace close like that)? Sometimes just being someplace new will energize your hustle and your attitude and the guys will want to tip the new girl.

    Another option would be looking into a cocktail or bar tending position. Not necessarily in your home club but maybe at a regular bar or tavern. Hot girls working in a blue collar tavern do make bank. That can get a little rough around the edges, but in a different way (guys are more stalkerish with non-strippers IMO).


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    Quote Originally Posted by virgoamm View Post
    Oh well, fuckers. I know I'm hot and you'd never have a chance with anyone like me in real life anyways.
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    ITA! You might benifit from taking a work vacation to Portland.


    Quote Originally Posted by Paris View Post
    Can you try an out-of-town trip (maybe just to PDX or someplace close like that)? Sometimes just being someplace new will energize your hustle and your attitude and the guys will want to tip the new girl.

    Another option would be looking into a cocktail or bar tending position. Not necessarily in your home club but maybe at a regular bar or tavern. Hot girls working in a blue collar tavern do make bank. That can get a little rough around the edges, but in a different way (guys are more stalkerish with non-strippers IMO).

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    Sorry you're having a hard time right now. I hope it helped to vent a little.
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    Please be patient. It will get better. Next month. When school starts back up. This is the calm before the storm!!! Business is always it's worst during August, esspecially at the end. Hang in there. Plan for it next year. (easier said then done). Some things in stripping are predictable, July and Aug will suck. Dec, Jan and Feb will suck, too. If you save and plan for it, you will be the girl in the club NOT stressing out and will end up making more money because of your carefree attitude.

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    Wow. Your post are my thoughts exactly. right now.
    I feel like that guy in office space with the red stapler who mutters that he's going to blow this place up.

    I just can't seem to attract all the cheap young guys that sit and drool all fucking Saturday night long. I wonder what the magic formula is?

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    Quote Originally Posted by britt244 View Post
    i just want to say.. you dont love it, then. imo, at least. you love the money you get from doing it. the way i see it, if you love something, it isn't based on monitary compensation. like, "i love spending time with my sugar daddy, but only when he's paying me."
    K. No. I'm sorry. She does love dancing. She adores stripping for what it should be. Being an exceptionally beautiful woman who dances exceptionally well who gets paid what she deserves for exposing her beautiful ladybits to men.

    You don't have to want to do something for free to love doing it... She said she loves stripping, which to her means using her wits and sexy body to make money.

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    I also want to add that although LaylaLust and I have options to do better by traveling(which we plan to do when our school schedules permit), we are doing better monetarily than most of our peers. We were talking about it tonight. We are both seniors in college working on Liberal Arts degrees. We are both pretty and smart. The jobs that we qualify for pay around 8-9 dollars per hour.

    Stripping for us pays between 18-29 dollars per hour (according to the previous two months). This is for air dancing only, and the majority of our money is made on stage.

    We may not be making 300 per shift but we are definitely doing far better than our peers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LilyLove View Post
    K. No. I'm sorry. She does love dancing. She adores stripping for what it should be. Being an exceptionally beautiful woman who dances exceptionally well who gets paid what she deserves for exposing her beautiful ladybits to men.

    You don't have to want to do something for free to love doing it... She said she loves stripping, which to her means using her wits and sexy body to make money.
    i disagree. you've never heard people talk about that before? that if you truly love something you'd do it for free? you don't love DOING it, you love the MONEY you make from it.

    like - i love my day job. i don't do it for the money. not one tiny bit. i'd do it for free. i certainly don't need the money or care about the measly 12/hr i make.

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    Apples and oranges. Noone would strip for free. Not a single dancer in the entire world. Show me one. Seriously. So does that mean that none of us love dancing? No it does not.

    Working with autistic kids? That's something that's personally fulfilling where you feel like you're making a difference. A lot of people would volunteer their time for something like that.

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    I'm in a similar boat although it sounds like Salem is a little better than where you're at right now. I hope things pick up for you guys (and, uh, me too!).

    I don't think I'd bother driving to salem since the gas money wouldn't make it worth it but if you find yourselves here it might be worth it to spend a night at one of the clubs here.
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    Quote Originally Posted by virgoamm View Post
    Apples and oranges. Noone would strip for free. Not a single dancer in the entire world. Show me one. Seriously. So does that mean that none of us love dancing? No it does not.

    Working with autistic kids? That's something that's personally fulfilling where you feel like you're making a difference. A lot of people would volunteer their time for something like that.
    I've said a couple of times that I'd happily dance a shift once or twice a month doing crazy burlesque shit for free...

    ...IF I were independently wealthy.

    Bills don't pay themselves, and honestly, the stress of wondering where your next load of groceries is coming from can ruin any job, no matter how much you love it. If this weren't true, I'd write a hell of a lot more than I've been doing. I usually don't get paid for writing; I do it anyway; but we've all got to take care of the basics first.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Laylalust View Post
    To put the cherry on top, last night some ass requested that the DJ play Bloodhound Gang's "The Lapdance is Always Better When the Stripper is Crying" and I was just in no mood for it since I already was on the verge of tears. Normally I can have a good sense of humor about that kind of stuff but the degrading lyrics and the three lousy bucks on stage while I was naked on stage just made me wanna throw ash trays at people.

    I f*cking hate that song. The one time that someone played it during my set, I refused to dance. I just sat on the stage until the song went off.

    Money has been pretty shitty at my club too. I try to be thankful for the little bit of money that I do get. I keep reminding myself that it's more than I would make working most full time jobs, and I'm lucky that I got to spend the night hanging out with my cool coworkers.

    Gas prices are going down, the economy is getting better, and hopefully money will pick up soon!
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    Quote Originally Posted by thechaosfairy View Post
    I've said a couple of times that I'd happily dance a shift once or twice a month doing crazy burlesque shit for free...

    ...IF I were independently wealthy.

    Bills don't pay themselves, and honestly, the stress of wondering where your next load of groceries is coming from can ruin any job, no matter how much you love it. If this weren't true, I'd write a hell of a lot more than I've been doing. I usually don't get paid for writing; I do it anyway; but we've all got to take care of the basics first.
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    I feel the same way, and I'm in a city where dancers still make good money in the summertime, but I just can't do it anymore either.. and to make matters worse I'm having a horrible time finding a new (real) job.

    Good luck to you Layla.


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    Thanks for all the support, ladies, I really needed it.

    Last Saturday night was my best night in months. I made $306 and was so in shock that I made something substantial that I wasn't really sure what to do with myself! Ha.

    I'm taking most of this week off from working, even though I can't really afford it, just so I can gather my thoughts and goals together. Re-organize my bag, re-read Hustle Hut, try to get motivated again. Yeah, summer has seriously sucked for money but it can only go up, right? Gas prices ARE going back down again...

    I don't know. I'm just so easily discouraged. I keep going back though, so that must mean I haven't lost all hope.


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