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    If I have a good night and make good $$$$$ I feel really happy and TBH I feel hot.
    I feel the complete opposite if I don't make good $$$$.

    So basically I am internalising it or taking it extremely personally if I don't have a good night at work. I need to stop doing this, it's really getting me down actually.

    Do any of you have this problem? Any suggestions for over coming it?
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    I look at it one of two ways depending on how the wind blows.

    if the wind is blowing well, then I just chalk it up to their loss on the most amazing ly good evening they could have had and joke about the money.

    if the wind isn't blowing well, I usually come home put music on to drown out my anger from the family in the rest of the house and proceed to demonize each and every customer that pissed me off in a blog, on a different bb site. that helps. sometimes I have cried. although the crying is way less now adays than in years past.
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    i used to take it personally. but most nights when my money sucks i hear other girls complaining about their money being shit too. sometimes there are low business nights in the SC ind. - esp w/ the economy being crappy right now. plus, remember that you are selling a product not yourself. its not your fault if most people dont like your product one night. we all have off nights

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    I can't help but being dissapointed, but I let it roll off my shoulders and think about how i am gonna do better next time. Maybe read up on HH or do something to make myself feel better like get a new pedicure or buy a new outfit. I only really get down if I have a bed week.

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    Yeah, I feel the same way. It doesn't help that I notice a direct correllation between how much weight I lose and how much more money I make. It could be the supposed 'confidence boost', but honestly I think it's an objective truth. It's really hard NOT to take this business personally, when it's our bodies that we're ostensibly 'selling'.

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    Oh yeah when I have a bad $$ night it gets me seriously down for a night. If I didn't make as much money as I wanted AND I had to deal with stupid shit in order to get the money I did make, then my bad mood lasts all the way into the next day!

    However, if I didn't make much money, but nobody else did either, I feel proud to make the money I did make. That doesn't get me down.

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    It only gets to me when my low money (and I look at my weekly earnings) happens for 2 or more weeks (or "weekends" - Fri / Sat for me) ... as then I start to stress out about my finances and not attaining any of my 'goals' (or plans).

    When I was club dancing regularly, I was able to get to a point where one night wouldn't be able to affect my next night. I would take each night as it came. The way I psychologically was able to do this was because i always religiously had a nice meal, watched some tv (or a dvd - even if it is only part of a movie), had a really nice long shower and went to bed.

    That routine helped me switch off. I would also "cleanse" myself off that night in the shower so I could psychotically start afresh for the next night.



    Just remember, you are PART of the product you are selling. You are NOT THE product itself. If you can learn that when a person says NO to what you are selling, they are not saying NO to you... THEY ARE SAYING NO TO THE PRODUCT. Granted, this only helps me when I'm in a club. Private parties ... you are the product in more ways than you are in a strip club.


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    When I have a good night, I'm on top of the world. When I've had a bad night, I'm frustrated. Just the other night it was absolutely shitty at my main club. Nothing but trailer trash and losers (it had to be the worst clientele ever)! I didn't make shit after being there for 12 fucking hours and I was mad as hell. I went to another club in the morning and even though the place appeared to be dead, the quality of the clientele was much much better and I made the money I needed which put me in a better mood.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mollyzmoon View Post
    Yeah, I feel the same way. It doesn't help that I notice a direct correllation between how much weight I lose and how much more money I make. It could be the supposed 'confidence boost', but honestly I think it's an objective truth. It's really hard NOT to take this business personally, when it's our bodies that we're ostensibly 'selling'.
    I notice the same thing as well and to be honest, I don't feel sexier when I'm skinnier so I'm quite sure it's not the confidence boost. Generally my "high" weight is 120 and my "low" weight is 110. I could be a coincidence but it seems when I am closer to 110, I make more. Actually, it almost pisses me off.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    If I have a good night and make good $$$$$ I feel really happy and TBH I feel hot.
    I feel the complete opposite if I don't make good $$$$.

    So basically I am internalising it or taking it extremely personally if I don't have a good night at work. I need to stop doing this, it's really getting me down actually.

    Do any of you have this problem? Any suggestions for over coming it?
    I definitely have this problem. I generally don't take it as an insult to my body but I get REALLY frustrated and upset where i feel like I want to kill the next guy who turns me down.

    The only thing that helps me is to remember that stripping can be a gamble. There are nights where selling dances is like offering free blow jobs and other nights where selling dances is like pulling teeth. It all evens out. When I have a crappy night, I try to remember the easy times. When I have a great night, I promise I will remember this during the more difficult nights.

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    Darl, you need to work with me!

    I'm so happy-go-lucky that if I have a shit night or a good night I just shrug and say, "Well it happens.. that's what a savings is for, right?" an do it again.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Lysondra View Post
    Darl, you need to work with me!

    I'm so happy-go-lucky that if I have a shit night or a good night I just shrug and say, "Well it happens.. that's what a savings is for, right?" an do it again.
    ... mope. But I has no savings. That's what I'm trying to do. Mope. Woe.
    Fuckin hell.

    -piss night, want to blow up dis place. This 120 bucks is pooping on my face as we speak.

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    I find moping makes me LESS money. People can sense when you're upset... so you gotta...not be,


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    You're right. It's like a friggin roller coaster it's getting stupid. On wed night I banked, friday was pretty much a waste of turning up and then sat I banked again. I know I have to take the good with the bad. I dont mind having shit nights financially as Im not in debt etc. It's not even about the money it's just me taking it personally that gets me down. I mean i looked eactly the same on fri as i did on sat but fri we had a crowd of dickheads.
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    Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.

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    ^^ fri was tough..i struggled and i was really trying..even sat was kinda slow..
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    ^^
    yeh I think most girls had a bad night friday. such smug assholes they were.
    i also wish they would stop letting people in for free with the promos on fri night. sure it brings in the numbers but they are all cheap ass douche bags.
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    when regulars turn cheap, it's time to kill em off.
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    You're still a vagina.
    There are many stereotypes about the industry that I work in. Sometimes they can be true but human beings are very diverse creatures and cannot be pigeon-holed into one category.

    Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.

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    i had three days in a row this week in which i left with around or less than $45 (and one night, $0), when it seemed that girl after girl was doing better than i was.

    unfortunately, i tend to be very hard on myself on nights like these, thinking extreme thoughts such as questioning my looks, my talents, and especially my selling skills. keep in mind i've been doing this for two years and i have some notion that i SHOULD be a top earner, given that i've studied DW extensively and work hard. it can be very frustrating and on the third night i just cried before i went to bed.

    here's how i'm snapping out of the negativity:

    i've been relaxing during these three days off by watching the olympics obsessively, exercising, cooking, and following the guided visualization meditation in the "the secret to attracting wealth" cd by kelly howell. oh, and i got a new hairstyle (bangs).

    for someone who is going for a master's degree in marriage and family therapy with a specialty in cognitive-behavioral therapy, it's ironic how i desperately need to learn the thought-and-belief modification i've taught clients. wow, we really do teach what we most need to learn.
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    Quote Originally Posted by mollyzmoon View Post
    Yeah, I feel the same way. It doesn't help that I notice a direct correllation between how much weight I lose and how much more money I make. It could be the supposed 'confidence boost', but honestly I think it's an objective truth. It's really hard NOT to take this business personally, when it's our bodies that we're ostensibly 'selling'.
    Its probably confidence plus experience. The more experienced we are, the more money we make. I have gained about 10lbs since I started working as a stripper and even though I have more or a belly now, I make 3 times more money now than i did when i started. I doubt its because guys like me chubbier (though i do get a lot of compliments on my soft belly). When I have an off night I never blame it on my looks, its usually always because i was at the wrong place at the wrong time/didnt go up to the right guys/ spent too much time on a nonspender/etc etc

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    Yep, use to feel that way all the time. Felt like shit when I didn't make money, felt great when I did. Just keep a record of everything you make and average it out. It'll make you feel better to know that the good nights balance out the bad.

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    I have a hard time with this too. It is always so cool when early in the night I get a decent customer that spends a good amount of money on me. Then I get that big boost of confidence and it is easier to make money the rest of the night because I feel so good about myself.

    If I am having a bad night...it is hard to walk around with that I'm a sex godess attitude. I try and turn it around by thinking positive thoughts. I envision the dances I will sell and the money in my hand. Then I focus on trying to talk to as many customers as possible...instead of counting how many dances I do.

    Sometimes nights are just shitty though...and then I come home and my dog is always happy to see me no matter how much money I made. That always makes me smile .
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