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    I had my first REALLY BAD DAY. Where do I come to make myself feel better? SW of course.

    I knew this was bound to happen eventually....this was the first day of my 4th week. Somehow I had escaped it this long.

    When I got to work, there was one customer on the floor. Yes, one. It was noon - and even for a Monday, I would have expected more business.
    I sat down with him and actually got a few dances out of him (sweet!). It was a good start, and I thought perhaps the day might turn out well!

    Bwahahaha......no.

    Maybe 2 more tables of customers in the next few hours (I kid you not). One of them looked like blue-collar types, and didn't buy anything. They actually moved their table UP to the stage...touching it almost. I cringed when I had to dance on stage. They gave a few dollar bills to another dancer, so she could tip me. Normally, that wouldn't make me feel uncomfortable, but this dancer does not like me (or so it seems). We are complete opposites in everything from appearance, to dancing style, to music - EVERYTHING. She seems really tough and does not smile or talk to me. Ok - so I had to do some sort of nervous, weird little dance for "her". So awkward.

    Then - I got rejected for the very first time. This nice-looking guy in a suit, about my age....he tipped me well on stage, and when I got down, I went to sit with him. I thought it was a sure thing. He proceeded to tell me that dances were, "too personal", "too intimate", and that he felt guilty that he was even there, because he was married. <----WTF. Are you kidding me? Guilty.....my ass. Is that a popular BS line custies give when they don't wanna fork over $$ for a dance??

    Anyhoo - so I'm pretty defeated at that point. I had been there for 2 hours and had what....$50-60? Not normal for my club AT ALL.

    I was holding out until 2pm. At 2, we were getting a 15-person table in VIP. Ah ha! Maybe I could turn this sh*t day around!!? I was anxious to use all the "Large Group" tips I've learned in HH....

    Uh....no. Turns out, half the table were women (wine reps), and the guys weren't buying. So ridiculous! I gave up and left at 4, after one last stage rotation. Not ONE customer on the floor at that point (other than the big table in VIP). I was dancing for the bartender and waitstaff I guess. LMAO.

    I'm trying not to let this get me down, but dammit if it isn't really tough!!

    Today was a waste of gas and makeup. I do feel slightly better now. *phew* Thanks for sitting through my vent
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    You will have more good days than bad, but hey you got it out of the way. It took you four weeks to get rejected?! You are doing alot of things right.

    I have a tip for handling, the young married guys that feel "guilty". I tell them i'm married too and try to seem more innocent and less super sexual(finding commonalities), they seem to get pretty comfortable quickly when I get on their level and end they up spending.

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    He proceeded to tell me that dances were, "too personal", "too intimate"
    Others correct me if i'm wrong but I use these situations as a prime opportunity to offer the CR (if you have one) "I understand, but I really like talking to you. Lets get a private room together and get to know each other".
    It may not work every time but it sometimes can turn a $0 money situation on its head. If they refuse I ask for a tip for my time.
    Anyway i think 4 weeks of dancing without a rejection is f'ing amazing! I get rejected at least 10 times a night, and its par for the course with this job. Soon you will learn to just let it roll of your back and move on to the next customer.

    I'm sorry you had a bad night, seems to be a common theme on here atm (I had a bad night on Saturday- made $140 but put up with so much shit for that it was hardly worth it). So you aren't alone Just put it behind you and go back in ready for a fresh start.

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    We don't have a CR. Our VIP area is a yearly membership thing....

    I tried the "I'm married too" thing as well.....but didn't want to seem like I was begging or anything. I also finally understand that rejected feeling. I know I need to get used to it. I also said to him, "so you don't like naked women on you?" (jokingly). Didn't work either. Oh well.
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    I feel your pain. We had the worst type of clientele ever last Friday of all days. We usually have good clientele. This is why it pays to work at more than one club. If the customers suck ass at one club, go to another right after your shift ends. It's exhausting but worth it.

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    This happened to me this past week. I was really upset bc I wouldn't be doing it if I didnt need the money and to make practically nothing on the floor sucked! I was totally miserable until this past weekend when I more than made up for it. Gotta take the good with the bad I guess. Weekends have consistently been awesome since I started and the rest of the week Im happy if I make any money at all and Im trying to be less upset over it bc I always have my weekends to look forward too!

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    Quote Originally Posted by txchick008 View Post
    so you don't like naked women on you?" (jokingly). Didn't work either. Oh well.
    hehe I think that's funny. So you had a shitty night..and you'll have another shitty night, you might even have many if you dance for years. You seem like you have a really good sense of humor though. I always cracked jokes and felt free to be silly at work and sometimes it totally saved my sanity. On nights like that, sometimes you just have to bullshit your way through it, laugh, make fun of things, etc. A good sense of humor can get you through a lot.
    Feel better soon! There are many kick-ass nights and lots more moneys coming your way

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    It happens doll. You're hot, smary, and a Cheesehead (hehhe). You'll do just fine. This happens to EVERYONE don't you worry!
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    Your positive attitude is contagious here. Slow days happen and summer isnt usually the best season. At least u got to leave early, some managers arent understanding about that at all.

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    There will be many more to come and also many more good days. Its the nature of the job.
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    when regulars turn cheap, it's time to kill em off.
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    Thank you ladies I am going to ignore the, "don't waste your time and gas again!!" voice inside my head and instead, I'm going to head back today from 2pm-7pm. It's a Tuesday, and it'll be a little later in the day. Maybe I'll get some of the Happy Hour crowd - we'll see. I really want to make up for yesterday (money-wise) someday this week, and I'll be damned if I don't keep trying!
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    About 3 weeks ago I had an AWLFUL night. I got there at 9pm (which is early for me). I had intended to stay until close, but left at midnight with 30 dollars after tipout. This was a monday. I actually had to take a night off after that blow. The following Friday I was in the CR with a guy and he asked me about my week. I told him about the Monday even though I rarely complain. Later he paid me for the dances ($300) and gave me a $400 tip. He said he wanted to make up for Monday. I think he intended to give me the big tip anyway, but still, I wanted to share this uplifting story!

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    ^^

    That is awesome. Lucky girl !!!!!!!

    I know it only takes one guy to "make" the day/night...so here's to hoping that happens for me today!
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    You cant dwell on bad nights, just like falling over (ahem) they are a fact of life, LOL!!

    If you make bad nights into a `thing` it will turn into a viscious circle ,I did this once for months-bad idea.
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    I'm so glad you have your positive attitude back. from reading your blog it seems you are doing extremely well. Perhaps instead of working out a nightly $/hr you should do it over the week so that bad nights get masked by the overall total.

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    ^^

    That is a good idea. Another dancer told me the hourly average will only get me down, because some days it will be way off.
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    ^^
    absolutely. One night I had made $50 for the first 5 hours I had been at work. Yet in the last 2 hours I made $600. So in this job, hourly rates really dont mean much. Well they dont mean much to me anyway.
    Quote Originally Posted by Corgan View Post
    when regulars turn cheap, it's time to kill em off.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jezzebelle View Post
    You cant dwell on bad nights, just like falling over (ahem) they are a fact of life, LOL!!

    If you make bad nights into a `thing` it will turn into a viscious circle ,I did this once for months-bad idea.
    You are totally right. I've been mopey because Sat and Sun made me murdery, but hey, I've had nights where the money just can't seem to stop flowing into my hands. Gotta keep that in perspective, and who the hell wants to dance with a mopey mcmoperson?

    So, you play, you win, you play, you lose, you play.

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    First off, I've been semi-stalking you here, and I love you

    Secondly...it happens. Stripping it not all greatness unfortunately Part of our job is a VERY unsteady income, and you've just experienced that.

    Go forth and make up for it! Don't let one shitty night get you down! I've been reading your blog, and you're doing much better than I did when I first started out, and you've already mastered one of the secrets to being a SUPER STRIPPER- It's all about having a good attitude!

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