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    Default Don't know if I can handle it

    God you will all be thinking I am bipolar at the moment, posted yesterday about how great my work was.

    I don't know if I am cut out for this job. I have only been back for 3 weeks and I keep having "why am I here?" thoughts at work. Tonight I was fined for the first time over a misunderstanding. I also felt degraded for the first time as our managers forced us all to dance topless for free out on the floor (maybe doesn't sound like a big deal, but when threatened with fine for not doing it I felt like shit). Looking around at 12 dancers writhing around for 3 disinterested customers, it was like a cattle market.

    Additionally I got a $60 tip which I excitedly handed over to the manager only to be told not to ask for tips any more and told "Ii will let you away with it this one time" ??!

    One of the customers was doing waggly-tongue sexy faces at me and I wanted to throw up, which 2 customers also did. To make things worse I met two lovely local gangsters who are paid by the club for "protection" (not CS on this one unfortunately).

    I imagine it is normal to feel like crap after a bad night but it is not a one off.

    I am risking so f'ing much for this job: my family and my bf. it has been so hard this week as my bf is going through a tough time and he still doesn't know I dance. So tonight when he phoned me all sad and asked me to come over, I told him I was ill

    Maybe have "precious flower" syndrome, but I just feel like I am worth more than practically begging people for $20's.

    My next shift is tomorrow, and I said I will give them my shifts for next week.I am moving next saturday so thought about asking for the week off but I don't know if that will mean being fired (we have to do 2 days week minimum) or fined

    I know nobody can make my mind up for me, but maybe you could tell me if the way I am feeling is par for the course with my job, or if it sounds like I am not cut out for this.

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    I think you're just at a fucked up club. That can make a huge difference.
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    The thing is I feel trapped at this club. the other clubs in this area are known for high house fees and catty dancers. Here we give a straight 50% of everything (60% if from credit card which i also learned tonight grrr) and for the whole the girls are nice. Although 50% is high I like that safety net of never going home with negative money.
    I posted some pics not long ago when I was thinking of auditioning and we came to the conclusion I had an average body, which I feel really needs to be worked on to get into the other clubs.
    But commenting on the stupid group dance another dancer who had the same unimpressed look as me commented "you would never see this at X club".

    I guess I'm looking for that fantasy club where all custies treat you with respect and you sit and chat for hours on end sipping champagne for ££££'s.

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    Thankyou for the advice. I have decided I WILL move clubs to the upscale, topless only, $100 tips for chatting place I always wanted to work in Seems to suit me a bit more than here.
    I am going to ask to do only 1 night next week (we have to do 2 minimum) and if refused I will politely say "shove the job up your arse then".
    When I move into my new flat next saturday I will be in the gym EVERY day for a week to tone up a bit, get myself out for spray tan and get myself an audition.
    Yay for new found positivity.

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    That club sounds pretty rough from what you described. Why do you have to hand over your tips to the manager?

    Also, I don't know your particular situation, but I would recommend telling your boyfriend what you are doing (if at all possible). Hiding something that big, is likely to wear you down mentally in a REALLY bad way. (Sounds like it already is). If he were to find out, the trust factor and all the lies would be something very difficult for him to overcome. If you really care about the guy, that won't end well

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    The manager doesn't want dancers to carry money around in case of theft (Lost $40 myself that way). But instead we get dance cards which (duh!) can be stolen also.Just seems like they don't know how to run a club.

    txchick you can read me very well. The guilt of not telling my bf is crushing me. We have been together for 3 years now and he is the sweetest guy in the world.I broached the subject before and he really wasn't happy.It's something I have posted on SW before about. I think in a few weeks I am going to come clean and emphasise that it only a job and I only have eyes for him. Maybe throw in some anecdotes about unpleasant custies so he has no llusions of me running off with a custie.

    I was just not in the mood tonight, and we had new blatant extras girl starting which didnt help things (In another thread see the going rate for bum sex is $35. Apparently a brown finger will cost you $4 ) . Because I just could not be bothered approaching people, I got approached for dances which was a first. Also a man who used to sell me sweets when i was a schoolgirl (owns the shop next to my school) "fell in love" with me, which was creepy.

    This club is just too close to where I live, and its in a town where everyone knows each other.

    The manager was surprisingly nice about me wanting time off. My next shift is on Sunday so I have a week to get myself together again.

    So yeah another long rambling post but SW is my only release at the moment amongst all the lies and secretiveness. Some of you girls must be made of steel to do this job for as long as you have.

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    Quote Originally Posted by pinkpvc View Post
    The manager doesn't want dancers to carry money around in case of theft (Lost $40 myself that way). But instead we get dance cards which (duh!) can be stolen also.Just seems like they don't know how to run a club.

    txchick you can read me very well. The guilt of not telling my bf is crushing me. We have been together for 3 years now and he is the sweetest guy in the world.I broached the subject before and he really wasn't happy.It's something I have posted on SW before about. I think in a few weeks I am going to come clean and emphasise that it only a job and I only have eyes for him. Maybe throw in some anecdotes about unpleasant custies so he has no llusions of me running off with a custie.

    I was just not in the mood tonight, and we had new blatant extras girl starting which didnt help things (In another thread see the going rate for bum sex is $35. Apparently a brown finger will cost you $4 ) . Because I just could not be bothered approaching people, I got approached for dances which was a first. Also a man who used to sell me sweets when i was a schoolgirl (owns the shop next to my school) "fell in love" with me, which was creepy.

    This club is just too close to where I live, and its in a town where everyone knows each other.

    The manager was surprisingly nice about me wanting time off. My next shift is on Sunday so I have a week to get myself together again.

    So yeah another long rambling post but SW is my only release at the moment amongst all the lies and secretiveness. Some of you girls must be made of steel to do this job for as long as you have.
    sounds alot like me. My old club was in the same city as the highschool I graduated from(this club had the most money making potential too) and I had to hide my job from my bf. We have lightly touched on the subject and he is VERY against me stripping but I love him to death. The hiding was so stressful so I know how you feel. We have broken up since then and I never told him. If your bf doesnt budge on the issue then you'll have to make a choice, unfortunately.

    stay positive. I've been wanting to improve on my body too so I have started working out consistently. And I feel much better about myself now. good luck!

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    Quote Originally Posted by pinkpvc View Post

    I don't know if I am cut out for this job. I have only been back for 3 weeks and I keep having "why am I here?" thoughts at work. Tonight I was fined for the first time over a misunderstanding. I also felt degraded for the first time as our managers forced us all to dance topless for free out on the floor (maybe doesn't sound like a big deal, but when threatened with fine for not doing it I felt like shit).
    This happened to me once, well similar. I worked for club that opened thier 2nd club closer to where I lived. So I made every effort to be one the girls picked for the special opening night.
    Which turned out to be solely for manegment, and thier friends. More like a private party than a club night. We wernt told it would be like this.
    Last minute we were told it was topless on the pole. None of us had done that before, and we probably woudnt have minded at all if it were not for the `Tits out or walk forever` attitude.
    It felt awful and that was the first time Id felt like shit at work, and Id already been dancing for about 3 years.
    I still feel a bit wierd about getting my tits out now, never did before that night.
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