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    help! this is a new one for me....advice wanted.

    ok, so i changed clubs. love the club. management, dj, security all think i'm golden. they evicted someone, don't know who out of her locker....I did not ask for that. never expected or wanted that to happen.

    well, the reason i got the locker is i'm putting marks, a lot of marks on the books. also the compliments from the manager are along the lines of thank you for the professionalism, the courtesy to the dj, security, other dancers, and customers. customers have apparently raved about me to him....over heard one complimenting me to the manager.

    so because apparently i stepped on toes without meaning too all over the locker i never asked for, didn't know i'd get until i walked in the door tonight, some girls have been hating.....sigh. it sucks. normally i manage to maintain a low low profile wherever i go. marks or no marks. the worst that until now in over a decade of dancing that has been said about me is that i'm weird, but cool....

    what do i do to nuetralize this before it gets out of hand??????

    the only girls that will half ass speak to me are the beautiful black girls and they avoid and seem to be not shunned but sort of set apart from the stuck up white girls.

    what the fuck, how can i get blamed for something i didn't ask for? how do i keep something from becoming a problem? i'm lost. this is first on issues i have had, normally issues are of my own making, like decking someone, or things like that. but i swear, i have been on good behavior. nice, sweet and calm.
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    It's always like that when you do a good job, someone somewhere is going to hate you. That's just the way it is.

    Just keep doing what you're doing,be nice to the girls, treat them with respect. They'll either come around or they won't. And if they don't I wouldn't worry about it. Bottom line is you're not there to make friends, you're there to make $$.

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    You know the routine winterrose, just go in there and do your thing. Don't worry about those girls.







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    Instead of being jealous they should try to be more like you. Obviously you're doing things better than them. Sorry they're so mean to you.

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    What not to do is suck up to them to make them like you. You'll end up just getting on their nerves and they'll hate on you even more.

    Just focus everything on making money. Watch your back, but don't be paranoid.

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    Default Re: help! this is a new one for me....advice wanted.

    ^^^^^^^^^ what she said^^^^^^^^^^^^^
    hopefully, things will go back to normal for you at work, and the situation will have blown over soon.

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    Default Re: help! this is a new one for me....advice wanted.

    Like they said, do your thing, keep kicking ass. Eventually some of these girls will want your awesome-ness to rub off on them and will be nicer to you. And some of them will still be stuck up, insecure little brats and make themselves look bad.

    Don't even give them a second thought. And good for you for doing such a good job!




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    What did I tell you? Fuck 'em. Your there to make money, not friends. if they want to keep up, they need to work and stop gum bumping.

    Your a good girl, professional and sweet. Don't let those trifling, no working bitches worry you. Do your job, smile and kill them with kindness.

    You ACT like it's getting to you, and they have won. Don't let them win, your so much better than that!

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    Just watch your back. Don't get too close to any dancer and do your job. Spend as little time as possible in the dressing rooms, and as much as possible in the club itself.

    I know because the same thing happened to me. The management started getting compliments about me from customers and got new regulars. The girls who had been there for awhile were jealous. I tried being friendly to the other dancers, but a few had grudges. They tried to get me fired, and by making my life hell there. Not to mention they played a cruel joke on me (claiming someone liked me but they didn't). I ended up leaving, and finding another club. I also learned an important lesson. Never mention anything like that to other dancers. Be friendly but not friends most of the time. It's funny you mention black dancers, because they were generally the only ones who didn't have a grudge.

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    Default Re: help! this is a new one for me....advice wanted.

    Good advice all around .

    Maybe you can get a different locker... are any other lockers available?
    Quote Originally Posted by Jay12 View Post
    ^What Sophia said.
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    I wish there was an "auto-like" setting that I could just have applied to all of your posts Sophia....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sophia_Starina View Post
    Good advice all around .

    Maybe you can get a different locker... are any other lockers available?

    one over the built in trashcan....it smells foul.
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    Default Re: help! this is a new one for me....advice wanted.

    Just keep doing your thing, they'll get bored when they see they can't get a reaction.

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    Default Re: help! this is a new one for me....advice wanted.

    Keep your head up gal.. you got my number if you wanna vent. I'm good at nodding and going.. " Unhuh"

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    Default Re: help! this is a new one for me....advice wanted.

    Something similar happened at my first club. A lot of girls were rude for awhile but stopped eventually. I noticed a certain type of girl is always looking for something to start shit with, and in a club there's no shortage, so they will move on to someone new before too long.
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