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    personally if i take too much time in the beginning of work not actually working, that hurts the rest of my night. even if theres one available guy, i need to go talk to him. otherwise i get lazy and tired faster if i'm just sitting around.

    i get ready at home so i dont get stuck taking too long once i'm there.

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    Don't be so hard on yourself! This is your 4th shift!!

    There are so many factors as to why you aren't earning more. Is your club regulars-based? Do you actually ask customers if they want dances? How long does it take you to ask? Are you even comfortable asking for tips yet?

    There are so many tips on HH...if you haven't already, I highly suggest browsing through them, as many are extremely helpful.

    Also, do you get to work an hour early to put your makeup on, or do you use the
    1st hour of your actual shift to put makeup on? I, personally, come to work made up (or early enough to put on makeup) instead of wasting work time. But, if your club isn't that busy or there isn't much money in it for the 1st hour, or so, there's no harm using that time.

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    There's nothing wrong with approaching like a waitress -- it probably feels more comfortable to you! But when you were waitressing you probably got to the point (their order) pretty quickly and kept in mind that was you objective. Try to transfer that to the club. Come in ready to go to work; perhaps "decompress" at a nearby coffee shop before you go in. Focus.

    And it's only your fourth shift! Go easy on yourself. But maintain focus.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Susan Wayward View Post
    And it's only your fourth shift! Go easy on yourself. But maintain focus.
    Yes please be kind to yourself.

    Hustling isn't instant for everyone. If you lack basic sales skills I suggest reading the sticky in Hustle Hut "helpful things". Alot of basic advice that works with many types of customers.
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    I don't blame you for taking your time in the beginning... you're new & the environment can be a bit overwhelming. but you have to convince yourself you deserve to be there as much as anyone else. get to work with your hair/makeup already done, and hit the ground running! more time to make money. if you BS for an hour, it's an hour wasted. (sorry, but it's true.) try some different hustle tactics and see what works and what feels most comfortable. it may not be for you, but if you hide out in the dressing room preventing yourself from earning anything, you'll never know.

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    Have you made friends with any of the veteran dancers? When I first started, I was friends with top earners, and they took me under their wing. We worked together for a few shifts until I felt comfortable doing it by myself. That way I got to see their hustle and how they made the moves or said things to get dances.

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    A huge majority of girls can't hustle when they begin. They don't want customers to think they are only interested in money, don't want to hurt their feelings, don't want to face the rejection - you are not alone. And fortunately you have stripperweb to explain that you want the customers to associate your company with spending money, that their feelings are actually a lot more resilient than they look and that rejection - well, it isn't personal and the quickest way to deal with it is to move forward and find someone else.

    You'll be fine. Don't even worry about it.
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    sounds like you are overthinking it when it comes to approaching someone. just relax!

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    I take some time at the beginning of my shift to decompress. My shifts are like 6-8 hours long though, so it's not like I'm wasting a fourth of my shift just sitting there. I like to get ready grab a coke and go up to the dj and tell him I'm ready and because I get there at the beginning of night sift I'm usually up in 3 girls. If the club is dead it's three songs on main each so at very most it's 30 minutes to watch the girls and talk to the guys at the bar. I'm always really awkward at first because I'm too serious. Like if some guy says "your skirt is messed up and I can see your ass :smile:" I'll just say "thanks" and fix it, instead of "I bet you like what you see :smile back:". I need 30 minutes to acclimate myself to the club, for sure.

    I never had a problem with talking to people and asking for dances. Just be blunt about it, once you do it a few times and it works it will get a lot easier. I'm actually too blunt some times and need to tone it down some! Your hustle is learned and perfected by doing it. You can read about it all you want but until you go out there and actually implement it it's doing nothing for you.

    Also remember that if you tragically bomb, I mean worse case scenario fuck up your line, look like the biggest loser that ever walk the earth then he laughed in your face and called you a stupid ugly cow then when you walk away you fall and realize there's toilet paper stuck on your shoe....who cares. It's just one guy no other person in the club will even know it happened. Don't let one guy, or one screw up ruin your night or even affect you at all. You're going to mess up, we all do it.

    I see so many new girls mess up their line or fall or spill drinks and they sit in the dressing room and stress about it. I knocked over an entire table of fresh beers my first night with my hair and I thought it was the funniest thing ever. Because I was laughing so histarically the guys started laughing and I got even more dances. I'm my experience it's really hard to ruin your chances with a guy, so if you come off really professional when you first as him and he says "no" go up to him again and say "man,I jsut realized how waitressy I sounded last time I talked to you. How awkward was that! :laugh:". He'll forget about it because your a hot girl on his lap, trust me.

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    1) Do your makeup and hair at home. Get to work, change, lock your shit up and spend minimal time in the dressing room. You can decompress after work, when you are counting your 20s.
    2) Get the first dance as soon as possible! I always have trouble getting started, and sometimes before my first stage set I just want to stay in the dressing room. But the sooner you get out there and get that first dance from a customer, it will make it easier to approach others and get other dances. Your confidence and happiness as a result of your first dance will carry over to the other customers, and you won't have that "I haven't made any money" anxiety. I like to try to make my tip out and house fee as soon as possible.
    3) Most strippers have had those low-money days. It's good to calculate your earnings by week. That way those low-money days don't get you down so much. I wouldn't recommend staying in the business is the bad days were normal for you, but you're just starting out and learning. The fact that you had one better night is hopeful.
    4) You might want to also consider that it's the club, not you. Are the other girls making good money on a regular basis? Is there a steady stream of good customers that come in and actually spend money? Don't be afraid to check out all the clubs in your area and get in a better situation for yourself.

    Best of luck to you!
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    I don't know where you are but I know a lot of places, August is usually the slowest month. But again there are always excuses not to make money if you look for them.

    Come to work ready. Listen to music to pump yourself up on the way there, or listen to motivational cd. Get on the floor right away or go on stage right away. Pole tricks are a great attention getter but don't make you money. Keep moving among the men talking them up and asking for your dances. Persistence pays.

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    All these tips are really good, but does your club have really high fees to work there?
    Maybe you could find a club where you don't have to pay so much just to work, at least while you're starting out.

    Personally I like working at a bar because the club is already making enough money where they don't need to charge the dancers so much. It's a more mutual relationship: bar provides place to dance at, girls lure men to bar = alcohol sales = dance sales = everyone happy.

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    what club are you working at? That could make a HUGE difference here...PM me and I"ll try to help

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    Quote Originally Posted by Susan Wayward View Post
    Come in ready to go to work; perhaps "decompress" at a nearby coffee shop before you go in. Focus.
    i've had really good luck going someplace before work to relax, usually a coffee place. i get hot chocolate and read a book for a little bit.

    get ready at home. work should be changing and maybe touching up your hair and makeup. not much else.

    i've still got the waitress-y problem. on nights when i get past that, i do really well. so try to get past it. it feels silly, but when you're getting ready, look in the mirror all sexy at yourself, use your sexy stripper voice and talk your damn self into wanting a dance from you. i break out laughing a couple times when i do this, but it definitely helps me get me in the mood. nights that start this way have always been better for me than the ones that haven't.

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    remember this is a skill-based job. It took me four YEARS to hone my skills. I was a mess my first thru fortieth shift!
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    if you're anything like me, it takes a while to get into the groove. i promise. i haven't been doing this long and i'm still a little nervous about approaching customers. i've gotten over my stage fear though. money is possible in this business imo. i guess it takes a minute for everyone to find their groove.

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    Quote Originally Posted by britt244 View Post
    personally if i take too much time in the beginning of work not actually working, that hurts the rest of my night. even if theres one available guy, i need to go talk to him. otherwise i get lazy and tired faster if i'm just sitting around.

    i get ready at home so i dont get stuck taking too long once i'm there.

    ^^

    What she said.

    I get 100% ready-to-work at home. When I arrive, all I do is get into my outfit, review my Stripper Notebook (with all my motivating HH tips), and hit the floor.

    Like others have said, try to sit with someone immediatly. If I stand or sit by the bar, not only do I feel like I look "bored", but I lose mojo and momentum.

    If you don't have a Stripper Notebook, you should. Whenever I feel myself slippin', I go back into the DR, and read some pages...
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    aww babe, don't let it get you down!! when i first started i seriously had $60 shifts and i was ok with that because i wasn't very comfortable with talking to guys. you'll grow out of it

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