View Poll Results: Have you received a gift from your wish list?

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  • Yes, I have received a gift or two.

    2 2.78%
  • Yes, I regularly receive gifts.

    1 1.39%
  • No, I have a wish list but haven't gotten anything.

    1 1.39%
  • I don't have a wish list but am thinking of making one.

    19 26.39%
  • I don't have a wish list and will not be making one.

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    Quote Originally Posted by *Iris* View Post
    Well I don't think it is up to Jenny to decide whether they are accepted or not or anyone else .
    Well, it is certainly up to someone.
    However as it stands at this moment there is no rule against wish lists.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ColetteCalahan View Post
    ^ a big part of me agrees with you. although i do find it extraordinarily generous and really quite amazing that a few folks on here have been given assistance/second chances, it does really absolve people of personal responsibility if they start to see SW as 'a last resort' or 'a way out.' Unfortunately, I think the tough love approach is better here. But I really don't have a problem with people posting wishlists... hey, if an SCJ has a crush and wants to act on it, has met someone IRL, or if another pink wants to be kind...I don't have a problem with it. But I do think that wishlists and asking for major financial assistance (other than in a complete, random, unwarranted crisis situation... like a natural disaster...) is different.
    Oh I agree. I'm not trying to box everyone in the lazy category. There are a few that seriously needed the help. Like I said, there is only so much you can do when shit hits the fan and you have like a week to get it together and you didn't see it coming. I dont' want to name names, but getting dumped and fucked over is a bit overwhelming and it's times like that, you really need the help of friends and loved ones. So I'm not trying to be a hardass or crass.

    I just think it's less of that ^ and more of the other on here sometimes.

    I hope that makes some sense.
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    I'm not sure how I feel about them. But they're pretty unobtrusive as it is; no one is making posts about new items on their wishlist and how someone should buy it, so I don't really mind.
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    Quote Originally Posted by JDanielle View Post
    I'm not sure how I feel about them. But they're pretty unobtrusive as it is; no one is making posts about new items on their wishlist and how someone should buy it, so I don't really mind.

    I agree. If there were posts and threads made about it then I could see it being a bit different.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny View Post
    I "knock" it for all the reasons I outlined above. I have no interest in seeing stripperweb become "panhandlerweb".
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    Wishlists= meh. I can't argue against them, I had one i my siggy a few years back (and got some stuff, heh).

    Begging on SW= can it stop, please? Cerously, it's outta control. Put a bunch of strippers in a room with one douchebag waving money, and the wheat separates from the chaff. Metaphorically, of course.

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    Quote Originally Posted by scarlett_vancouver View Post
    Wishlists= meh. I can't argue against them, I had one i my siggy a few years back (and got some stuff, heh).

    Begging on SW= can it stop, please? Cerously, it's outta control. Put a bunch of strippers in a room with one douchebag waving money, and the wheat separates from the chaff. Metaphorically, of course.
    Ah. So these are metaphorical strippers.
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    I don't have one. I used to have one when I was on SuicideGirls and enjoyed it and received gifts.

    However, SW is different. This is a community where I am not involved in that kind of 'spoil me for my cuteness and b/c I'm your online friend' trend. It's a place for dancers to engage in debate, not to get caught up in the solicited gift process. The occasional gift exchange is rad, but really... I don't like the gift mentality while on this website.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sophia_Ashley View Post
    If wishlists are going to be "non accepted" then I think posts and threads asking for help with bills should be too. Wishlists are for gifts and presents. I seriously don't think it's tacky unless threads are made to "buy me something!"
    I must be oblivious, thankfully... i haven't noticed 'bail me out' threads on here... I've noticed people starting things like 'Help, I'm fucked, I need support and resources', which I think is valid. 'Help, I need a Coach bag and BSG Season 1' is just... not all right. **

    **(If someone did make a thread like that, sorry! It's an example plucked from my butt)

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    I don't know even understand what your talking about... lol

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    ^ I agree 100%. I tend to think if you can afford the pills you are taking to overdose you could have paid a bill with that money. That's how I see those posts. Like..the ones that are fueled by drinking...pills etc. I can't help but think where they got the money for the alcohol and drugs.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sophia_Ashley View Post
    Oh I agree. I'm not trying to box everyone in the lazy category. There are a few that seriously needed the help. Like I said, there is only so much you can do when shit hits the fan and you have like a week to get it together and you didn't see it coming. I dont' want to name names, but getting dumped and fucked over is a bit overwhelming and it's times like that, you really need the help of friends and loved ones. So I'm not trying to be a hardass or crass.
    To me, the issue is sort of extreme emergency relief, and there is nothing at all "gifty" about it. Only some cases even rise to that level, there are usually extenuating and unique circumstances and there is an extremely high level of urgency involved, as Sophia Ashley has correctly pointed out.

    On the other hand, there are far, far more "complaint" threads of another type where people are asking for genuine advice and can be seen to be begging because they are desperate, and they get some very good advice. Tough love. That works, too.

    None of these have anything remotely to do with gifts, or wish lists in siggys. Those are indeed "gifts," and seem harmless enough. They are just passive links sitting there doing nothing. Click on them if you like.

    Of course, this is just the opinion of some random douchebag. Scarlett, I've missed you so badly! Glad to see you back and in very fine form!

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    I've got one. Often forget I have it too. But I have it posted everywhere - it's even on my facebook.
    The only people I've received gifts from (on this site at least) have been girls.

    I don't notice mine and I hardly notice other people's. But it is fun to see what people want.



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    Quote Originally Posted by Jay Zeno View Post
    But as a long-time member of this site, I will say that nothing else, not hustling techniques, not extras discussion, not customers-as-pigs, not dancers-as-whores, nothing else has produced close to the acrimony, anger, and controversy that this issue, in all its ranges, has.
    really? wish lists? or begging/gift giving? because i disagree with you, kinda. i think "cliques" and people being "mean" to new members, and stripper vs customer have all been bigger issues.

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    I never noticed people were putting wish lists in their siggies.

    But the groveling and ass-kissing going on in this site in hopes of getting 'financial aid' is so nauseating, so disgusting...words cannot begin to describe how wrong it seems to me, or the level of damage that has been done.

    When I joined SW years ago it was nothing like the cyber stripclub it has now become. While it is still by far the best site of its kind, this tendency is by far the most dangerous thing threatening the health and integrity of the site.
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    ^ The visibility on this issue is down dramatically from where it was before. So much that used to be discussed or "revealed" on the open boards such as in the Gift Exchanges or other events or circumstances have been taken to PMs, and the temperature has dropped accordingly.

    Even if you tiptoe around the edges in making veiled exceptions once in a while, you are playing with fire. Mea culpa.

    Things had calmed down nicely in the last week. I don't see any likelihood that we'll ever encounter anything close to the fires we had a year ago.

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    I dunno but I want some gifts! haha
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    I would feel like a mooch if someone bought me something and I didn't pay it forward.


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    I don't feel like strangers need to be sending me gifts so no and no

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    OK I posted before and Sophia Ashley responded to it, but I deleted it, and now I'm going to post again.

    I find the motives to be pretty transparent when people make calculated I'm going to kill myself posts. Then they are elevating their crisis to a level of a natural disaster to illicit the kind of response they might get if they had indeed been through a natural disaster while making everyone worry about them. This is just how it seems to me. You're gonna get help if you make it seem like you're on death's door, typing incoherently and talking about pills.

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    I had some of hockeybobbys maple syrup, I feel so dirty now ....

    I never even noticed the wish lists until this thread!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Flick6 View Post
    I had some of hockeybobbys maple syrup, I feel so dirty now ....

    I never even noticed the wish lists until this thread!
    hah i still dont have any! he is slacking

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sophia_Ashley View Post
    Here is what I don't get. And I'm not attempting to argue here. If it's not okay or its considered "tacky" to put up a wishlist...wouldn't the same be said for those on here that receive financial assistance from other members? Or posts made asking for donations?

    If posting a "wishlist" is tacky, than I have to say begging and pleading to help save someone from their own mistakes is even tackier.

    I do not think the sales section is the same as the wishlists. That's comparing apples to oranges since it's trading a good for monies.
    I agree with all this Of course every now and then something happens that is totally not one's mistake, but most of those threads are.

    The wishlists do not bother me either. I am not going to click to buy anyone anything, but maybe others do exchanges with each other and its fun for them

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    i made an amazon wishlist cos a few 'fans' from myspace said they wanted to buy me a birthday present. i posted out a few bulletins with the link and my agent's postal address so people could buy things direct from there or send me stuff. i got a few birthday presents, some gift cards, etc. it was nice.

    however, i would never post that link on here. my stripper myspace is like my little fan club, of sorts. stripperweb is not. i would feel uncomfortable with people from here buying me things, because i don't use this site to promote myself as a model etc, i use it to talk about work. it would just feel weird to me.

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    I think having wishlists on our sigs are nice. It allows others to send gifts and it be a surprise for those who are having birthdays, babies or even a tough time. There are GOOD things that can come of gift giving and I don't see why people can't grasp that.
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