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    Default Re: Do you tell people about your work opendly or keep it a secret?

    my closest friends know, the ones who won't blab to everyone or judge me and the guy i'm dating because i didn't want it to come out later and then have him not trust me.

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    im quite open about it, unless its someone i do not know at all and a male.

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    i lied to my mom for years and never told my dad. grandma, aunts no. my sisters always knew and friends boyfriends etc. always kept it real with them. people i felt would be really offended or too sleazy to handle the info no. if i feel it would endanger me no. or those who might use it against me no.

    it was a trip when i finally came clean to my mom. she was so cool about it. so cool and supportive. i guess cause she watched me from a far thru the years and saw how i used it to get some where better. so she was still proud if not more so.

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    I am not ashamed of it, but I don't really want to deal with the reactions I might get if I told strangers. I say I am a cocktail waitress in a city about an hour away, don't get many questions.

    My fiance, friends, and sister know. Also my hairdresser. My mom and dad don't. I feel guilty every time we talk, and I wish I could just come out and tell them but I can't.
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    The only people who know are my husband and 3 casual girlfriends back from my partying days (all 3 are dancers here in Dallas).
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    My family does not know, my boyfriend and his whole family know, so do my friends (most of my friends are actually dancers)

    most of the people I associated with in the past knew about it at the time, but i don't talk to them anymore so hopefully they aren't thinking about me and think I quit.

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    My husbands family knows and most of our friends, but my family doesn't know.

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    Quote Originally Posted by i.breathe.in View Post
    im quite open about it, unless its someone i do not know at all and a male.
    I'm the same way. I have no problem telling random guys I'll never see again. Other than that, I've told less than 10 real friends total.

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    nothing to hide here. doesn't bother me for people to know. but on the other hand i don't tell random strangers though....safety first. but everyone in my life knows what i do for a living.
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    i'm too open about it. it makes it very easy to judge people.

    family, no. old friends, no.

    i'm trying to think of a good fake job to give guys who hit on me. something that says "boring in bed and very bitchy".

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    I used to get it a secret from friends even. Now the only people I dont tell is family. I dont just randomly tell people but if someone asks what I do, I tell the truth.
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    I'm super-open about it because it's just in my personality, but I don't recommend it. I've had it come out like this before:

    "Why are you reading a sales book?"
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    ^^
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    Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.

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    My parents have never known. When I first started dancing, my good friends, fiance (now husband) and my brother knew. I warned my brother so he wouldn't come into the club- he was newly 18. I actually regret telling as many people as I did because I live in fear that someone from my God awful, gossipy hometown will find out and my parents will find out. That would devastate them.

    Since I quit my other job and went back to dancing full time, almost nobody knows, even those that used to know. I was sick of dealing with their attitudes, questions and judgments. My husband, my fellow dancer friends, and my oldest friend know. That's it. It gets tough to hide it sometimes, but it's definitely for the best.

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    i keep it a secret. a select few know.

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    My parents finally know what I do. Oh, and my MySpace friends know, too.



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    Close friends, boyfriends, people I know would be ok with it. Not family.

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    I don't wear a shirt that says 'I'M A STRIPPER!' when I go to the mall or anything, but people that know me know what I do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nuclear Martini View Post
    Do you tell people about your work openly or keep it a secret?

    Does your family know? Friends, boyfriend, bestfriend, random people who ask what you do for a living, dating prospects, etc.?

    Yes my family knows tho' they don't approve. I didn't tell them for two years before I thought it was better that I stop lying. In the end, they didn't 'blast' me for the lying to them for 2 years... it was what I did. Bleh. I'm nearly 30 now so I think they realise by now they just have to grin and bear it. I'm far from being a 'child' anymore.

    Friends, yes. Considering the majority I have met thanks to this industry. I can't be bothered being friends with people who will judge me due to what I do for a living. Why waste the energy? They are not friends anyway. I prefer to hang around people who enjoy my company, not judge me.

    My best friend right now is my boyfriend. He has a very clear idea of what I do for a living. Prior to that I "pussy footed" around the topic with dates and those who I dated by saying I worked as a promo girl. I would just make it clear to potential dates that I wouldn't even consider them if they had any negative judgements about the industry "due to having friends who work in the industry". That's how I steered clear of all of that BS.

    Random people? Well, I do promotions in pubs, clubs etc or work in a bar/nightclub.

    So yes, I'm pretty open with what I do to those who I care about and actually matter to me. To those who do not, I will not be so truth-ful.



    What gets me is those who post (and I've been on here for years so it's always happening to someone) about how they want to keep it a secret from their BOYFRIEND! Um, why the hell are you in a relationship with someone you have to keep secrets from ? If your "boy" can't love ALL of you and you find yourself keeping secrets from him: why are you with him?

    It's like being in a relationship with a man who wants to have kids, is trying to get you pregnant however you are 'secretly' taking birth control.


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    The majority of people I associate with know what I do. For some reason, cashiers always freaking ask me what I do for a living and I always lie to them or anyone else I think telling the truth to might just be trouble.

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    Everybody knows. My family and my hubby's family all know. I used to keep it a secret, but I just can't live that way anymore. I don't have any friends, but I would definetely tell them if I did. I will usually tell people if they ask, but I have lied to strangers/those I just met. I felt silly telling my hubby's 72 year old Aunt when she asked what I did for living.
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    Alot of my friends know...some of my family knows...I don't mind telling people honestly...and if people have shit to say about it then oh well.

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    My immediate family, friends, and boyfriend all know that I dance. My sister blabbed to a couple of her friends, which did not go over well in conversation, but other than that I'm pretty tight-lipped about it because I don't have time for haters and close-minded idnods.

    I'm not ashamed of what I do, but if anyone asks, I'm in sales, plain and simple. I'm an adult and unless I ask for help, I don't need to be saved, thank you.

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