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    Ok, thats a little dramatic but sometimes I feel as though becoming an entertainer has made me take a less aggresive stance in persuing my other career goals. I still have another very part time side gig that helps me stay in touch with what I really have a passion for but....sometimes I think that if I wasn't able to be an entertainer, either I was too ugly or fat or it was against my morals....I would have no choice but to hit it hard and look for a good paying job. I still will have to do that at some point but since at this point I AM making a good income dancing, for the most part I enjoy it and still have ample time to be with my husband and daughter I keep putting it off ....Basically, I know that many women do make a career out of stripping and stay with it into thier late 30's, but thats not for me. I guess I feel stuck between thinking I'm living in the moment and doing whats best for me and my family right now, and thinking damn maybe I'm spending my best years popping my ass in stripclubs when I should be trying to find my true calling.

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    Default Re: Dancing killing ambitions

    as they say, stripping will allow you to do anything-except quit.

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    Default Re: Dancing killing ambitions

    Not really ready to quit yet, just think I should be devoting more time exploring other oppurtunities so when I am ready the transition will be a little easier

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    ^^ this is so true. I've become so spoiled and I feel like I need to wake up sometimes b/c the rest of the world doesn't work the way a titty club environment does.
    "Maybe some women aren't meant to be tamed. Maybe they're supposed to run wild until they find someone - just as wild - to run with."







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    I hear you.

    Moving to a certain city would be the best thing for me, as far as opportunities in my non-dancing life. But I can't do it, because I hear nothing but horror stories about how it's so hard to make money in the clubs there, and how it's supposedly full of extras and no money. I want to succeed at my passions in life, and moving there would be the best thing for that...but I don't want to have to struggle in a place where everyone says making money dancing is like trying to get blood from a stone.
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    Sounds like stripping is giving you enough time to spend with family while getting a good income. That's some serious appeal, though, yes, there's a future to consider, especially if in time your body can't take it anymore.

    If you're feeling career angst, can you arrange your shifts or family time around some more hours in the week devoted to exploring your career options so you don't feel so bad? Is there a way your hub could make up the financial slack if you need to cut a shift in the meantime to see what's out there for you?

    One thing I had forgotten about, and I don't know why, is asking for informational interviews. It's not directly job-seeking, but it's more finding advice from someone in a position that you might want to see whether it's feasible for you, and if they like you, whether they have any contacts for you.

    I did that a lot when I was younger, and somehow fell out of it as I progressed in school and age. I need to do more of it though, because I'm going through another transition at this point in my life (which is how I wound up picking up a couple shifts at a SC), and my career compass isn't pointing as well as it should without more info.
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    Quote Originally Posted by CuriousSeeker View Post
    One thing I had forgotten about, and I don't know why, is asking for informational interviews. It's not directly job-seeking, but it's more finding advice from someone in a position that you might want to see whether it's feasible for you, and if they like you, whether they have any contacts for you.


    Thats great advice....thank you

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    I'm really sympathetic. I have all this stuff I keep putting off applying for.
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    i think people like going to parties and clubs and looking like douchebags.

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    i know some of you want to try but ... you can't strip forever

    and when that day comes when you can't... the other career will be waiting.

    i wouldn't give yourself grief about it now. make hay while the sun shines.

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    I have to agree with the topic of this thread. Since I started dancing, it's all I think about (and I spend way too much time here on SW). My school work is suffering. And the whole reason I started dancing was just to pay the bills while I knocked out all my required courses before the state exam.....*sigh*

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    Nope. Other way around for me.

    Dancing has given me the freedom and money (thus ability) to persue a lot in my short time.. over the 6 years I have been "doing" it.. it has helped me get to know myself a lot better and helped me persue whatever it is I want to persue.

    At the moment, I'm doing training to become a qualified professional dog groomer. Without stripping and the flexibility this business gives to me I would not have been able to come to that conclusion (nor have the money to pay for the whole course up-front without being in huge debt).

    In the end, don't feel bad. You are doing what is best for you at this point in time.

    As someone else said "Make hay whilst the sun shines". Save and invest your money wisely so that when the time does come that you do have to look elsewhere (or want to quit)... you can easily.



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    ^^ well that's the attitude we all should have. Using dancing to get ahead fast. But it's easy to get either lazy, complacent or just caught up in the job/lifestyle.
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    I finished my degree last year and I'm still dancing. I decided to take this year just to dance and relax a bit after being at university for so long.

    However, I am not in a huge hurry to start my career because I love the freedom that stripping gives me. I love having free time to go to the gym and get personal training and just do whatever else I feel like doing. When I start my career I will be earning half or less what I earn now and I will be working 3 times the amount of hours that I work now.

    However of course I can't strip forever so I have to pursue my other career, I'm just not as motivated as I was before when I earned $200 a fortnight at my previous job.
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    Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.

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    ^^^^^ You get more on The Dole! I got $400 per fortnight when I was on full benefits! *shocked*

    Is law where your true passion lies? Just because you are qualified to do something doesn't mean you HAVE to do it and that is where your passion lies. Use this time off to pursue other interests, find you passion and save up $$ (and invest wisely).

    So that when you do pursue your passion (if it is law), that you won't really care about the pay because your investments and savings are there to back you up.

    Don't squander this time ....


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    law is for buck-toothed mummies (right, jaiz)

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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    I earned $200 a fortnight at my previous job.
    What was the previous job?
    "Don't piss off a motivated stripper."


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    i force myself to keep a day job working with special needs kids because otherwise i would just dance forever. it would be so easy to just stop doing anything else... sometimes i think seriously about it. so i know what you mean.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CuriousSeeker View Post
    What was the previous job?
    I worked casually at the library at my university. I only worked two days a week but I wanted more shifts they just didn't have more for me to do.
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    when regulars turn cheap, it's time to kill em off.
    Quote Originally Posted by Lysondra View Post
    You're still a vagina.
    There are many stereotypes about the industry that I work in. Sometimes they can be true but human beings are very diverse creatures and cannot be pigeon-holed into one category.

    Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GoldCoastGirl View Post
    ^^^^^ You get more on The Dole! I got $400 per fortnight when I was on full benefits! *shocked*

    Is law where your true passion lies? Just because you are qualified to do something doesn't mean you HAVE to do it and that is where your passion lies. Use this time off to pursue other interests, find you passion and save up $$ (and invest wisely).

    So that when you do pursue your passion (if it is law), that you won't really care about the pay because your investments and savings are there to back you up.

    Don't squander this time ....
    I wasn't eligible for any sort of benefits because I was still living at home and I couldnt even get ausstudy because my course was considered post graduate which is bullshit. Now they have made it so my course is eligible for ausstudy this year!! that would have been a big help to me.

    My passion? I dont know anymore
    Quote Originally Posted by Corgan View Post
    when regulars turn cheap, it's time to kill em off.
    Quote Originally Posted by Lysondra View Post
    You're still a vagina.
    There are many stereotypes about the industry that I work in. Sometimes they can be true but human beings are very diverse creatures and cannot be pigeon-holed into one category.

    Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.

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