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    It's the city, obviously. You couldn't possibly have changed as much as the environment surrounding you.

    It's also likely that you are simply being 'checked out' in a much different way. Men are noticing you, trust me. Gentlemen have learned to alter their timing, work through peripheral vision & be radically more subtle.

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    i could have written this thread myself. the bars i go out to no one hits on me anymore! a couple years ago they did, but not anymore. every guy i talk to says im intimidating and they are scared to talk to me.

    now at work its a totally different story!

    its quite odd and frusterating, especially when you are single!

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    Default Re: No one hits on me anymore.

    The comments about you being in a more socially conservative environment are probably true. So the guys are more reserved. But now that's affecting your attitude and giving you self-doubts. If you acted unsure and without confidence in the club do you think you'd make any money? No. So try to project your winning attitude outside and look like a world-beater. You'll force the world to notice!

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    Quote Originally Posted by i.breathe.in View Post
    ...now at work its a totally different story!

    its quite odd and frusterating, especially when you are single!
    strip club guys and "average" guys are two different animals. just like strip club women and "average" women.

    it's not a good/better/worst thing. from what i can see it's more a matter of aggressiveness (women) or preconceptions (men).

    for the women it's a work-related thing imo. kinda like how a salesman/buyer acts at work is totally different than how they act at home or OTC.

    for men it's more of a "spoiled kid in a candy/toy store mentality". they just grab what they want.

    i can see nina's point of view though.

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    Kitten.
    A) you should know better than to associate strangers yelling at you with you being pretty. That is just low self esteem, hon. Trust me - strangers yelling things at you doesn't even mean that they think you are pretty.
    B) You're right, it shouldn't bother you. It should bother you when you can't get the attention you seek out - not that random mouth breathers choose not to target you in public.
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    Nobody ever talks or notices me because I'm "too intimidating", but that goes for guys and girls. I've been told that by people (mainly people telling my friends and then them telling me for YEARS), I guess I just look mean, I don't know.

    I think there is a difference in wanting sexual harassment and someone just to go "dammmnnnn!" when you walk by some times. It does boost one's ego to know someone thinks you're hot.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Joplin View Post
    I think there is a difference in wanting sexual harassment and someone just to go "dammmnnnn!" when you walk by some times. It does boost one's ego to know someone thinks you're hot.
    I think guys with even a modicum of good judgment realize that they can't tell on sight the difference between girls with poor self-esteem who need their ego padded by discourteous attention from strangers and girls who, well, don't. Hence, the guys with even a modicum of good judgment and courtesy tend to keep their mouths shut. That leaves guys who have no sense of courtesy, respect or judgment as the one's who are howling at women on the street. Are these really the people you want affirming how attractive you are?
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    I don't think its you Keira. I think its just because you say your sad, that you put out the vibe. I have been the same way lately, I am stressed and haven't been getting hit on much cause I'm puttin out the bitchy vibe. Most people will know better than to approach you!
    When I'm feeling happy and confident, I can walk into somewhere and know I will get hit on. Also, if you aren't dying your hair anymore etc, maybe that is subconsciously making you feel less attractive.

    But anyways you are bangin!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny View Post
    I think guys with even a modicum of good judgment realize that they can't tell on sight the difference between girls with poor self-esteem who need their ego padded by discourteous attention from strangers and girls who, well, don't. Hence, the guys with even a modicum of good judgment and courtesy tend to keep their mouths shut. That leaves guys who have no sense of courtesy, respect or judgment as the one's who are howling at women on the street. Are these really the people you want affirming how attractive you are?
    I'm not no. I could give less of a shit who thinks I'm hot besides my bf. Honestly.

    I don't really see how who it is saying your hot matters. Unless you are wanting a relationship out of the person who cares if they are rude and disrespectful. That's not what I'm finding flattering. The only thing that I'm noticing is that they think I'm hot, not if they steal money from their grandma or if they're millionaires or if they are criminals or an avid church goer. Who cares, I'm not looking forward to ever knowing them, their tact is extraneous information.

    I think it's scary when guys in cars yell at me from the side of the street (when they used to), but I don't think noticing that no one is doing it anymore and wondering why means that you WANT to be sexually harassed.

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    Keira I went to CU and my parents paid my rent/tuition/food, but I worked too to have spending money...so I wasn't entirely pampered...but yeah there are some students there who come from wealthy families (my family was not as affluent in comparison) and they do at times have that snooty sense of entitlement. But they are not the kind to hoot and holler at a woman who walks down the street. They'll still hit on you, but they're not as vocal. They are more into using their body language and just sending out a "vibe" more than anything else.

    I know it can feel complimentary when someone checks you out ("Heh heh, I still got it goin' on"), but seriously, does it matter that much? The only thing that matters is how you feel about yourself. And if you need to feel validated by the comments of others, it just seems that you are feeling very, very insecure.

    Whether or not you get hit on, feel good about yourself and take good care of yourself and do good things for you.

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    Well do girls look at you? because ultimately they are the ones that tend to stare at attractive women; they are the harshest critics so if girls still look at you then you're probably ok...

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    Hell, I'm hit on all the time and I'm wearing a wedding ring...and I was still hit on all the time when I was preggers.

    It could be the city you are in, but it could also be your attitude. Walk around like you're the "shit" and with an attitude to match, and you'll find that a lot of people won't approach. Maybe it's part them and part you. It's never, ever one sided.

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    Just for the record...

    Hey baby... How you doin'?

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    My bf is a 'boyracer' and spent many hours just driving round in his car with his friends. He let me into a little secret sometimes guys whistle or honk their horns at ugly, fat girls cos they feel sorry for them and want to make the girls day. So really you have to question a guys motives.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kitty69 View Post
    My bf is a 'boyracer' and spent many hours just driving round in his car with his friends. He let me into a little secret sometimes guys whistle or honk their horns at ugly, fat girls cos they feel sorry for them and want to make the girls day. So really you have to question a guys motives.
    I have a gay friend that does that all the time!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lklucky View Post
    Well do girls look at you? because ultimately they are the ones that tend to stare at attractive women; they are the harshest critics so if girls still look at you then you're probably ok...
    This is so true. That's the kind of affirmation you want! I was reading somewhere that the hotter a girl is, the less likely a guy would hit on her (except presumably the delusional), because they don't think they have a chance. Who knows? I only get bothered by the sort of guys who hang out on the street outside the day labor places and Quick Checks. And 16 year old boys. Men are weird.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny View Post
    Kitten.
    A) you should know better than to associate strangers yelling at you with you being pretty. That is just low self esteem, hon. Trust me - strangers yelling things at you doesn't even mean that they think you are pretty.
    B) You're right, it shouldn't bother you. It should bother you when you can't get the attention you seek out - not that random mouth breathers choose not to target you in public.
    I was wondering when you'd chime in.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mr Hyde View Post
    I was wondering when you'd chime in.
    Really? I wasn't wondering about you at all.
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    Quote Originally Posted by kitty69 View Post
    My bf is a 'boyracer' and spent many hours just driving round in his car with his friends. He let me into a little secret sometimes guys whistle or honk their horns at ugly, fat girls cos they feel sorry for them and want to make the girls day. So really you have to question a guys motives.
    Yeah my male friends do this to ugly chicks all the time, hahaha. It's to make them feel pretty, they think.


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    ^^^ I got honked at today, now I have a problem...
    Did they do it because i am hawt or because i am ugly and fat? pmsl






    (either way I dont care haha)

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    You're my e-twin so I hope it's hot!!


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    ^^^ lol, but you are way hotter! (have seen your pics )

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lklucky View Post
    Well do girls look at you? because ultimately they are the ones that tend to stare at attractive women; they are the harshest critics so if girls still look at you then you're probably ok...
    This is very true!

    When I turn around to find a chick staring at me intently, it's much more flattering than a dude. The chick might be thinking, "That bitch!! What does she do to work out? Where does she get her hair cut?" whereas a guy is probably just somewhere along the lines of "mmm... ass... droolz"

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    I know where you are ( unless you've moved again). It's the area. It's the land of the wholesome , shy ,aloof,outdoorsy dudes. I don't know why some areas vary so widely on this. I go to CA and fend off the guys. I come back to my usual area and feel like a troll ( barely ...and I mean barely get approached ).

    I was just asking a friend the same things and she goes "well ...there they probably just want to do you ....and here they are sizing you up for eternal potential ". I guess I never pass the eternal potential test.

    I'm sure it's not quite as extreme where you are .... but it's along the same lines.

    In some areas ... men approach, approach,approach. Potential rejection isn't a huge deal. Here ... you have to sort of spell it out for them.

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