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    So I went for an interview last Thursday and got the job immediately. I take my state board exam on Tuesday and then once I find out my scores (provided they are passing..) then I'd be able to start. They called me yesterday and said they wanted to hold off on hiring anybody, but to still call them with my test scores and save their number and they'll call me.

    JFC, so all I have to put on a resume is stripping and some stupid ass retail/waitress jobs so I've just been submitting a letter in lieu of a resume. I feel I've worked hard enough to get through nursing school that I can hold out and take a job that I'll love. So long story a little shorter, I emailed my husband a copy of my "resume" to fax to a few places for me. He called me back and pointed out that almost every sentence starts with "I" and it sounds bad.

    I'm fucking exhausted, I've been studying all day, I'm stressed because I can't find a job even though there is a "severe shortage" of nurses.. I'm pretty good with grammar and English but I can't figure out how to reword this letter.. Can anybody help me? I'm so stressed I'm crying and I feel like an incompetent loser.

    Here's the letter:

    To whom it may concern,

    I graduated from the Vocational Nursing program at Temple College on
    May 10, 2008. I currently hold a temporary license and am eligible to work. I
    am scheduled to take the NCLEX to get my state license on September 2, 2008.
    I completed a two day NCLEX review course through Nursing Education
    Consultants and I don't anticipate any problems passing. I graduated with
    mostly A's and B's and scored a 902 on the HESSI exit exam. During the
    nursing program I gained a year of experience during my clinical rotations. I
    have not had a job yet due to being a stay at home mom for two years and
    going to school.
    I feel I am very qualified for this position because I hold patient's
    safety and comfort as a top priority as well as safety for myself and other
    staff members. From the first day of clinicals I have treated all of my
    patients as I would want myself or a family member to be treated and I will
    continue to do so throughout my nursing career. I am an extremely hard
    worker, a fast learner, a team player, outgoing and I enjoy staying busy. I
    also feel that my being a brand new nurse can be an asset to your company
    because I don't have any habits or methods of doing things from previous
    jobs. I will be trained to do things the way your company does them. I would
    appreciate the opportunity to meet with you to further discuss my
    qualifications.

    Thank you for your consideration,
    My name

    Animals are my friends, and I don't eat my friends.
    - George Bernard Shaw

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    Having graduated from the Vocational Nursing program at Temple College on
    May 10, 2008, I currently hold a temporary license and am eligible to work. I
    am scheduled to take the NCLEX to get my state license on September 2, 2008.
    I completed a two day NCLEX review course through Nursing Education
    Consultants and I don't anticipate any problems passing. Currently I graduated with
    mostly A's and B's and scored a 902 on the HESSI exit exam. During the
    nursing program I gained a year of experience during my clinical rotations.
    have not had a job yet due to being a stay at home mom for two years and
    going to school.
    This position is something I feel very qualified for because I hold patient's
    safety and comfort as a top priority as well as safety for myself and other
    staff members. From the first day of clinicals I have treated all of my
    patients as I would want a family member to be treated and I will
    continue to do so throughout my nursing career. I am an extremely hard
    worker, a fast learner, a team player, outgoing and enjoy staying busy. Being that I am a
    brand new nurse it can be an asset to your company
    because there are not any habits or methods of doing things from previous
    jobs. I will be trained to do things the way your company does them. I would
    appreciate the opportunity to meet with you to further discuss my qualifications.


    there i took a few i's out. hope that helps?

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    Default Re: So frustrated.. please help.

    This makes a nice cover letter. Healthcare facilities, however, love CVs. Since you are fresh out of school, do not worry so much about putting in related job experience. Did you participate in any extracurricular activities, school organizations, or help out on any research studies? Did you hold any class offices? Tell your husband to offer constructive criticism, not just what he thinks is wrong. He also needs to give you an example of how to correct it. These links have some good tips.

    http://www.son.rochester.edu/son/cur...paring-your-cv

    http://www.free-resume-tips.com/resu.../curriclm.html

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    That's awesome, IBI.. thanks! I'm going to put down the book and stop looking for jobs for an hour or so and have "me" time. I can't even concentrate on it anymore.

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    uh l and l what in gods name did you put on your dog?! lol

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    lol!! that puppy does not look too happy at what it's wearing! hilarious pic!
    good luck with the resume/job thing too!

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    It's a little strawberry hoody.. don't let the teeth fool you. She loves it

    Animals are my friends, and I don't eat my friends.
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    it looks like it hurts her butthole hahah

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    Are you sure you don't know your contact person at any of the places where you're applying? Is there someone in charge of your prospective unit, floor, HR, etc.? It's much better if you have a name, but if not, it's okay. Using a name tends to get your letter attention much more quickly.

    Some suggestions for playing with language:

    As a recent graduate of Temple College's Vocational Nursing program, I am eligible to work and seek a position that allows me to _______ [use language from the "help wanted" ad, or list the stuff that you know you'll be doing specifically.]

    During my studies, I maintained a high GPA and scored a 902 on the HESSI exit exam. I will complete the NCLEX on September 2, 2008, but in the meantime, I want to continue improving my clinical practices while honing my ability to multi-task and to be an effective team player.

    The patient's safety and comfort have been my top priority throughout my training. From the first day of clinicals, I have treated all my patients as I would want myself or a family member to be treated.

    Other stuff:

    I would not draw attention to a "negative" or sound like you are apologizing for anything in your letter, as that letter is your first impression on a future employer: "I have not had a job yet due to being a stay at home mom for two years and going to school." Let them ask about any career gaps, and then you can explain in person; otherwise, your letter can sound anxious and defensive through preemptive explaining.

    Your goal in this letter isn't to cover all the ground that will be evident in your CV or resume; the goal is simply to highlight the good stuff that appears on the CV/resume and then some. The goal is to get their eyes on the CV or resume, which is designed to get you in the door for an interview.

    If you are concerned about your resume/CV looking a little slim, you might want to consider rearranging it to include a section on skills, which can include skills acquired through paid positions, nonpaid positions (think of the skills a stay-at-mom needs), and your natural abilities. In that section, you could list interpersonal assets that you developed through stripping and parenting, though you need not say the source.

    Also, in school, do you do anything independently, have extra presentations, take on something interesting in your clinicals that others did not?

    Finally, if you're striking out and still frustrated, you probably paid for career services as part of your tuition for your program. Even if it's simply making an appointment the job office or making one with your favorite professor (or emailing him/her your letter and CV/resume), you might want to do it; they might have an insight for you that could help, and it would be free.
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    Default Re: So frustrated.. please help.

    great post, curious! i agree with the positive attitude comments. you don't have to be super upfront honest. you're just trying to present yourself almost as perfect but not obnoxiously perfect.

    also, agreed on the comment to avoid minutia. hit the highlights and if possible gear it to the institution you're applying to, e.g. if it's a place known for geriatric care list something you've done in that field and lose something else that isn't as pertinent. if they've been modernizing, list some recent up-to-date programs you've gone thru.

    good luck!

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    ^Thanks, Snoopy, I've been working with folks on their letters, resume strategies, etc. for some years now as a freelancer.

    L&L, are you using the same cover letter for all the positions to which you're applying? If so, I'm guessing all of the positions will afford the same opportunities and capitalize on the same skills?
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    ^ Thank you CS! I've been applying to private doctor's offices first which is my first choice for place of employment. I've found 3 more places today that I'm going to apply to once I get this letter sorted out but they just give fax numbers and only one place has a name to apply to. I suppose I could do some google searching and see if I can figure out what the actual office is that's hiring and find some names.

    I really appreciate all of the help and advice. I've exhausted myself for today with this so I'm going to resume working on it in the morning!

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    ^When I was applying to firms, I would use the name of the person in charge of HR if the place was big after finding the name through Google. For small firms without a decent website and no HR, I used the yellow pages and addressed it to the owner's name.

    It's like charging someone with the responsibility of getting your stuff into the right hands. It also shows you did some homework and tailored your stuff to that employer. Employers can tell when a totally generic letter was used for lots of potential employers, sort of like taking handfuls of darts and hoping one lands in the right place.

    At a private doctor's office, would you have more time with patients and be more likely to establish one-on-one relationships with them over time? Maybe there's a way to play that up in your cover letter a bit more and how well suited you are to it.

    You're totally on the right track. Congrats on finding more places to apply.
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    ^ Super good idea, when I was in clinicals and working on cancer and rehab floors I got to work with the same patients a lot and I loved it. I'll definetely think of a way to add that in my letter/resume. I seriously don't know what I'd do without my SW buddies

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    loveandluxury,

    I would suggest sending a resume rather than just a letter. You can also send a cover letter accompanying the resume. Here's one that I tried to put together from your letter:

    Objective

    A full-time nursing position utilizing the skills I developed in vocational nursing school and during my clinical rotations.

    Profile:
    • Very dedicated to patients’ safety and comfort
    • Fast learner
    • Dedicated team player
    • Hard Worker; willing to go beyond what is required


    Education

    (place type of degree here) degree, Vocational Nursing program at Temple College, May 10, 2008
    GPA: (place gpa here)
    HESSI exit exam score: 902

    Licenses and Certifications

    • Temporary state license
    • Scheduled to take NCLEX for state license on September 2


    Experience

    (describe clinical rotation here)

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    ^ Thank you very much!

    Now I'm frustrated all over again. My husband got out of the military and got a defense contractor job. He decided to go to school last year, and was going to Penn State online. He dropped out on his own free will and bitches all the time about how he hates his job.

    I busted my ass in school for a year, and have made it this far so I feel that I can be a little picky and take a job that I like. I got offered the job mentioned above, but it was about a 45 minute drive and my husband was bitching at me for it and saying I'm not taking the job. Whatever. So, I get a call back this morning from a place that is about 30 minutes north and they wanted me to send them a resume of some sort so they can get me in for an interview.

    It's a general surgery practice and I'd be one doctor's nurse and handle all his patients. This is perfect for me and exactly what I want to do. I call my husband to ask if he can fax the resume in for me once I get done with it. He immediately starts yelling at me and lecturing me about how I'm not being an adult and it's too far away and I have to take a job in our city wether I like it or not. He ended the conversation by saying he is going to look for an apartment for himself during lunch.. I said "please do". Then he sent me a text saying "get out of my house".

    JFC, what is the big mother fucking deal about a job 30 minutes away? He's being the biggest ass and I really think I will just say fuck it and move out if he can't even be okay with me taking a job a little farther away that makes me happy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by loveandluxury View Post
    JFC, what is the big mother fucking deal about a job 30 minutes away? He's being the biggest ass and I really think I will just say fuck it and move out if he can't even be okay with me taking a job a little farther away that makes me happy.
    whoa, he's got some issues to resolve (with you). take the job up north (if you like it).

    this is no different than the usual "bf doesn't like gf dancing but won't support her". you're lucky and talented enough to get a job, he should be happy for you. instead he's bitching?!?!

    the "my house" comment is also kinda fucky. fy-husband's-i, it's your house too (at least partially regardless of the property situation).

    i'm not going to suggest you just write off the situation (marriage takes work AND sacrifice) but you really need to find out wtf is up his ass. 30~45 minute commute isn't as fun as he thinks it is (sarcasm).

    oh and btw, uh, you'll-be-working! jeebus. it sounds like (from his comments) that you're going to great adventure everyday. sheesh.

    does he have some post-battle trauma or something, maybe? (that's a serious question, not being a wiseass)

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    sounds to me as if he doesnt really want you to have a regular job and likes having you around as much as he does...

    good luck on that situation....

    my house....pfft....

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    make sure you include a small pic of yourself after this at the top of your resume:

    Jane Smith
    2262 Tulip Tree st
    Las Vegas, NV 89910
    (222) 234-5678
    [email protected]

    Small cropped pic here



    You should have two things, a cover letter and a resume, resumes with pics get the job most often including white house internships LOL Make sure to follow up the next day with a phone call, but find out the name of the person who does the hiring so you are not wasting time with the wrong people, MOST IMPORTANT appeal to the office manager she is usually the first one the fax gets to, I have worked as a receptionist as well and have seen many faxes like these go straight into the trash, best way is to dress uber conservative and walk your resumes into the hiring office and meet the office manager, this way you can then follow up with her having already met her.

    I can rework your cover letter if you need (I will be in the same position in 6 mths but I'm a dental hygienist)
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    I really don't know what his issue is. The funny thing is, his job is 30 minutes away as well. It's in the other direction but he said I should look for a job in that city too and we can commute together. In the midst of the argument I said "So if I find a job in K*** that doesn't match the hours of your job, then I can't work there either?" and he said no. WTF?

    When he was bitching about the first job, I called my mom and told her I got the job and she asked why I didn't sound happy. I ended up telling her the story and she said that he is probably just jealous that I got a job I like because he doesn't like his. That may be the case.

    However, he was going to school to get a job doing something he would love and he dropped out, I tried to talk him into just taking fewer classes but he dropped out completely. I really don't think it's fair to be so mean to me and to not "let" me take a job I love because it's a little far away.

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    well so many girls would cave im glad your better then letting him decide for you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by loveandluxury View Post
    When he was bitching about the first job, I called my mom and told her I got the job and she asked why I didn't sound happy. I ended up telling her the story and she said that he is probably just jealous that I got a job I like because he doesn't like his. That may be the case.
    agreed with your wise mother.

    Quote Originally Posted by loveandluxury View Post
    However, he was going to school to get a job doing something he would love and he dropped out, I tried to talk him into just taking fewer classes but he dropped out completely. I really don't think it's fair to be so mean to me and to not "let" me take a job I love because it's a little far away.
    not only is it fair, it's exactly opposite to what he did! when he decided to just do what he wanted, you supported his move. (maybe you bitched a little) but it's not like you told him to gtfo out of your house, right?

    so why can't you do this little thing of taking a job you like? he needs to see the situation from a viewpoint other than his own. like maybe a husband's/partner's viewpoint, at the very least. he's still acting like a bf imho.

    wakey-wakey, you're married dude! hmph.

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    It's frustrating and I hate drama so I'm just going to stop telling him things until I take a job haha

    Actually, I just got another call back from a hospital here in town and they are hiring a nurse for a dr at the family practice clinic and another nurse for orthopedics. I talked to her for a little while, and I already filled out an application there so she is going to look for it and then call me back for an interview. Keep your fingers crossed! These are both jobs I would like and it would be nice to not have the 30 minute drive if I don't have to.

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    He's your husband not your owner or parent. He doesn't get to "let" you do anything. Interview in town, but take the job the feels like the best fit for you, no matter the location.

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    ^ That's exactly what I'm going to do. I'll do all the interviews and if I'm offered more than one position I'm going to take the one I would enjoy the most. I'll be much more productive if I'm spending 40+ hours a week at a job I enjoy. If I take a job *gasp* 30 minutes north that I'd enjoy more than one here and he feels the need to seperate than so be it, I'll already have a job and can get an apartment.

    He's being much more civil now, but I really think he just gets his panties in a wad because he is jealous.

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