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    Default i just found out someone i know has aids...

    my exes best friend just went to the hospital a couple days ago, and he found out he has aids. sadly hes had lots of unprotected sex with random guys hes hooked up with, and now he has to pay for that with his life. its not fair. hes one of the sweetest guys anyone could meet.

    his t cell (or blood cell i cant recall the medical terms) count is supposed to be 200 and its only 23. hes not in good shape....

    i dunno i just needed to tell someone....i dont know how to feel right now.

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    Default Re: i just found out someone i know has aids...

    that sucks honey. Yeah he screwed up...but he doesnt deserve to die for that. It isnt fair.

    But on the bright side...people are living with this much better and much longer tehn ever before...so theres hope...

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    Default Re: i just found out someone i know has aids...

    the cell count is so low i dont know much about it but it sounds pretty bad....

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    ^^^Yes, but that can generally be remedied with antiretrovirals or whatever they're called.

    It's pretty uncommon for someone in this country to not realize they have AIDS until they're dying from it, and then croak shortly after diagnosis. The more common pattern is, if I remember correctly, that a person:

    1. Gets infected, and immediately has a very high viral load, which is frequently when HIV is passed to others.

    2. The viral load goes down for a while as your body tries to fight off the infection. Of course, the infection will ultimately win, ten or fifteen years down the line, but your immune system does a pretty good job at lowering the viral count for a little while.

    3. You get a secondary infection (a cold, for example) which hits you waaaaay harder than a cold should. This is usually when people go to the doctor and get diagnosed. At this point, t-cells or whatever they're called are usually pretty low.

    4. Antiretrovirals are administered, which lowers your viral load and boosts your t-cell count. You are less contagious and frequently feel a lot better, except for side effects from your drug(s), which I'm told aren't as bad as they used to be.

    5. Things continue like this for a while, sometimes a long time, like years and years, godwilling.

    I'm not sure what it is that makes HIV turn into what's considered full-blown AIDS; if it's just another secondary infection coupled with the eventual degradation of the immune system that makes you finally take an irreversible turn for the worse. But these days, antiretrovirals can buy you a ton of time.
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    Default Re: i just found out someone i know has aids...

    thats what happened with him, he kept getting sick and wasnt able to shake it so went to the hospital, and thats how he found out.

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    Default Re: i just found out someone i know has aids...

    my sis died of this....it sucks. Yes that is a very low blood count. Also, my sister did not seek treatment until it was full-blown AIDS.....she only lived with HIV for probably 2-3 years without treatment before it became AIDS.

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    I'm really sorry Nobody deserves to go through that. PM me if you need anything, I'm here for you.

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    Default Re: i just found out someone i know has aids...

    well its my exes best friend it doesnt really affect me, aside from being a bit scary ad shaking up the whole shit im mortal feelings.

    but thanks l and l.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cutey5032 View Post
    my sis died of this....it sucks. Yes that is a very low blood count. Also, my sister did not seek treatment until it was full-blown AIDS.....she only lived with HIV for probably 2-3 years without treatment before it became AIDS.

    yeah i guess his is full blown. i think if you have risky sex often you owe it to yourself and anyone else to get tested at the very least if you arent going to be safe....sigh.

    im sorry that happened to your sister.

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    How sad : (.

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    Default Re: i just found out someone i know has aids...

    That's really sad. And also a wake up call. I think a lot of people have gotten lax about the possiblity of contracting aids.

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    Default Re: i just found out someone i know has aids...

    we even warned him too, but obviously by then it was too late. he always said dont worry im fine....

    gah.

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    Default Re: i just found out someone i know has aids...

    ^^^ My mom always said "A hard head makes a soft behind." I don't know. Your last post made me think of that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ahmeerah View Post
    ^^^ My mom always said "A hard head makes a soft behind." I don't know. Your last post made me think of that.
    haha. him being a gay boy, that comment is somewhat amusing. but i know what you mean.

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    Awww...I'm so sorry to hear that...I hope he'll be okay. I'll be praying for both of you.

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    Default Re: i just found out someone i know has aids...

    I've known more then one person who died of it. Very passionate, bright people, but all I can guess is, their deep passion for life in general resulted in them taking risks for a deeper more intimate experience. Stupid? I don't know. Quality matters in life too. A part of me wishes they hadn't taken such risks, but a part of understands it too. They really were bright candles in life even if they didn't live long.

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    Play with fire long enough and you will get burned. Its very sad he got burned and that so many boys are in the same boat just having unprotected sex with strangers 24/7 until they kill themselves. I have seen scary things in the m4m section on craigslist and that is just out in the open not like a gay sex club or a glory hole etc. I used to take risks with sex but I try not to anymore. Now I will try harder. I hope he fights for his life and doesnt let aids win easily.

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    ^^^Um, not to split hairs, but it's a bit of a disservice to state that "so many boys" are "having unprotected sex with strangers 24/7." Like, even people who could later admit to being careless would bristle at that allegation. Some people only make mistakes a few times, and pay dearly for it... breaking down the stigma attached to AIDS is something I think we still have to really work on in our society.
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    Wow. That is so sad. I am sorry for your friend.

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    Quote Originally Posted by teeth_of_the_hydra View Post
    ^^^Um, not to split hairs, but it's a bit of a disservice to state that "so many boys" are "having unprotected sex with strangers 24/7." Like, even people who could later admit to being careless would bristle at that allegation. Some people only make mistakes a few times, and pay dearly for it... breaking down the stigma attached to AIDS is something I think we still have to really work on in our society.
    +1000. And std's in general... our society is puritanically bipolar when it comes to sex and its consequences and it's people like ibi's ex's friend who pay the consequences for either not being well enough informed, not having access to information, or not taking the risks seriously. either way, i am so sorry.

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    Default Re: i just found out someone i know has aids...

    it s totally his fault, he was a bit of a slut and wasnt careful. we all did warn him.

    and its not becuase hes gay. i dont want that to stereotype him.

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    ^True I wouldnt have blamed the unprotected sex if she didnt say it was his hobby. Also Im a girl so I wasnt saying just gay men are doin it - I need to be just as careful myself when having straight sex. but it is an epidemic in the gay community and I care about it and am sad that her friend is infected. Hopefully he will let his recent partners know of his status so they can get tested too.

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    Spreading hiv is obviously more common then people like to think about but thats not stopping it. Partners arent always honest/aware of their status and that goes for both hetero/homo. I did community service at GLBT center in my area for 6 months last yea and have mucho info on all the undergoings of hiv spreading. Some men are LITTERALLY doing what I just said in my first post. HIV is scary. Outreaches will go and preach at clubs to warn about PnP play and random BB because it is so common and out of control.

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    How sad. I'm sure there are a lot of gay men having unprotected sex, but actually the gay men I know are MUCH safer about sex than any woman I know. Regardless, it's still so sad. My mom's best friend died from AIDS and he had just gotten out of a monogamous long-term relationship and met a new guy and entered another monogamous long-term relationship. Unfortunately the new guy had HIV.

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