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    never mind
    Last edited by Gingerlina; 11-05-2008 at 03:26 AM.
    Needless to say, putting up with that type of stuff can take its toll psychologically

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    Usually, not always, if other girls hate on you while you are working it's because they are jealous. If they would spend half the time working as they do bitching they'd be millionaires.

    When I danced most of the girls that were hated upon made the most money. In any competitive industry it's usually a compliment not to be well-liked.

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    girls hate you for been different, but who cares as long as you make good money. you are right, you are there for money, not friendship. just ingnore them.

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    Some people like to make excuses of why they are not making money instead putting themselves out there to be rejected and doing the work it takes to succeed. Your action shows all their excuses to be lies. Good for you for staying open when they ask for help but buying into their stories. When girls would start to complain to me I would say "Sorry you are having a hard time. I've been doing this awhile if you have any questions on how I do things just ask." That would weed out the ones who wanted to bring me down from ones who may want to better but know where to start.

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    Are you of Eastern European origin? I ask because all the girls I met who are Czech or Russian are the way you described yourself.....It's unique and good.

    It's good if you're hated, it means you're successful and your success makes others reflect on their failures. In the contest of Life, "many will enter.....Few will win."

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    Below is the reason why they hate you:

    Quote Originally Posted by Gingerlina View Post
    at my club girls hate me because I don't ever sit in the dressing and bitch about the money/customers/co-works etc... I'm strictly there to make money, I ask every guy in there for a dance I sit with some for not more then a drink if they offer, and right after i give a dance i don't go smoke a cig a go ask another guy for another dance, this works at a none contact club with not a lot of CR possibilities, and 20$ dances. At the end of the day greedy girls provoke and try to start fights with me but did I mention I'm there to make money? I ignore what ever they say and do like they are a chair....
    Mean while I'm offering dances to guys they are socializing with one another, and talking badly about me, I guess they will eventually get the hint that Iam there not for friends not for fame, I am there for money!
    How ever that doesn't mean I am an A...HOLE it means if the ask need anything I lend/give it to them no problem, don't get me wrong I would like to be friends with them but all they do is complain.
    I think you answered your own question.

    Don't worry about others, continue to be nice to them, they'll either come around or they won't. Keep doing what you're doing, making money.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bianca O'Blivion View Post
    Are you of Eastern European origin? I ask because all the girls I met who are Czech or Russian are the way you described yourself.....It's unique and good.

    It's good if you're hated, it means you're successful and your success makes others reflect on their failures. In the contest of Life, "many will enter.....Few will win."

    This may be some what off-topic but I know a good amount of Russian and Ukranian girls who are super hustlers, in and out of the SC industry.

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    Girls have been hating on me since the dawn of time lol.....and you know what? It's always the girls who judge me from the outside, without ever having a conversation with me and finding out how down-to-earth and kind I am. It first started when I began dating my 4 year boyfriend...his ex was insanely jealous and used to get her girlfriends together to internet harass me as well as mess with my car. There was no other explanation for it; she simply hated me because I had something she wanted.

    That's how it is with everything.....you probably intimidate those girls. So they group together, because of strength in numbers, none of those girls would approach you on an individual basis....because they are insecure...misery loves company...

    Take it as a compliment and keep making your money!

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    Some clubs are just drama overload. You may never be "friends" with the girls you work with, but they will ignore you, eventually. Then when another newer girl comes along, be nice and helpful to her. You two can be professional allies against the drama girls.


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    Quote Originally Posted by achickonspeed View Post
    That's how it is with everything.....you probably intimidate those girls. So they group together, because of strength in numbers, none of those girls would approach you on an individual basis....because they are insecure...misery loves company...

    Take it as a compliment and keep making your money!
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    Story of my life!! I posted something similiar when I first started and I think it was Emily who said, "Welcome to the Industry!"...sorry, it sucks to be hated on...you probably work at a smaller club with limited income, right? When girls have been there for a long time and its a small club with no money this tends to happen even more. I could be wrong about the small club thing, but in bigger clubs where there is money girls are too interested in earning to invest that much time bitching.

    Dont let it get you down. Really...at the end of the day it's what you take home that matters. Good for you for being so focused! Continue to do what you are doing and it will be FINE...

    I had this same problem at my club, and Im also too nice...the girls there are total bitches to me. I went traveling/working for a little while and worked in much larger clubs with way more potential, and it really opened my eyes. I went back last night and didn't speak to a single person (none of my stripper acquaintances were there anyway) and had a look of total disinterest in all of them...I could tell they noticed this, and I think they will leave me alone....hopefully in time they will do the same to you.

    Just hang in there...it doesn't matter what they think or say when at the end of the day you are taking home all the cash. Just mind your p's and q's and eventually they will get used to you and leave you alone.

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    Maybe they don't like you because you call them lazy cows?

    I'm not a big believer in the whole "they must be jealous" thing. One girl might be "just jealous". All the girls? There is something else going on.

    I was once in a club where everyone hated me. It took me months to realize it, because, well, not particularly congnizant of what other girls are thinking and after that I totally put it up to "jealousy". In retrospect however... I realize that something else was probably going on.

    Not suggesting that you change your hustle habits. But you might want to honestly consider why everyone dislikes you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny View Post
    Maybe they don't like you because you call them lazy cows?

    I'm not a big believer in the whole "they must be jealous" thing. One girl might be "just jealous". All the girls? There is something else going on.

    I was once in a club where everyone hated me. It took me months to realize it, because, well, not particularly congnizant of what other girls are thinking and after that I totally put it up to "jealousy". In retrospect however... I realize that something else was probably going on.

    Not suggesting that you change your hustle habits. But you might want to honestly consider why everyone dislikes you.
    I agree 100%. It's BS when girls assume every problem they have with other females is due to jealousy. Don't flatter yourself by assuming that's the case (not just you, anyone who blames every female conflict on jealousy). There are many many reasons why people don't like other people, jealousy is only one out of a hundred possibilities. Look at yourself rather than assuming the problem is with them.
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    Who cares why they don't like you?!? Let them keep talking, while you rake in what could have been their customers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny View Post
    Maybe they don't like you because you call them lazy cows?
    He he- I had to laugh at this. It doesn't take much to say hi to the other dancers in the dressing room or when you first get to the club. Its so cliche, but its a great icebreaker to talk about the weather. You don't have to become best friends with the other dancers but if you refuse to talk to anyone EVER, it does seem a little strange. Just my HO.

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    At my club it seems like people hate me because of jealousy. Its not everyone just a few select girls. The only time the girls are ever mean to me are the nights that I make a lot of money. It doesn't bother me because my club before that the girls were really mean.

    I had one girl come up to I didn't even know and call me a slut while I was sitting with a guy. Then in the dressing room she growled at me. A few days later the house mom wanted to take a picture of all of us and she didn't know my name so the girl told her she could just call me Crisco (like the frying grease).

    Another day I was working really hard, while another dancer was drinking at the bar talking w/ the local cops (that she sleeps with and admits openly). So her and another dancer got mad at me and posted a note on my locker telling me that I need to comb my hair. When i confronted them, they tried fighting me.

    Also I had a girl who was sitting in a chair in the dressing room was about to fight me because I wouldn't give up my chair so she could set her bag in it. she was mad at me b/c she didn't want to put her bag on the floor.

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    Needless to say, putting up with that type of stuff can take its toll psychologically

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    I have to ask: are you stepping on anyone's toes?

    [Removed description of pushy-aggressive dancer here.]

    In the end, it made us all look bad by association, and stole our money. I ended up making much more money when I focused on taking custies ASAP just to keep them away from her. Ah well.

    Just depends on how the other dancers are seeing your hustle. Depends if they think you're the reason they're not making any money.
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    Quote Originally Posted by SpeakngEZ View Post
    I have to ask: are you stepping on anyone's toes?

    I worked with an older stripper who worked the same way you do, BUT very pushy-aggressive. She often took customers out from under us, pressuring the men we were already sitting with for dances, missing stages because she was giving privates then shoving her way back into the rotation, etc. Then she would wonder why no one wanted a cigarette with her, or wonder why the men weren't paying her for the dances they never wanted to begin with.

    In the end, it made us all look bad by association, and stole our money. I ended up making much more money when I focused on taking custies ASAP just to keep them away from her. Ah well.
    Just depends on how the other dancers are seeing your hustle. Depends if they think you're the reason they're not making any money.
    ok then
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    Needless to say, putting up with that type of stuff can take its toll psychologically

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    I'm torn..on one end, I feel like they may be jealous of you and the success you are having at the club. On the other hand, I am thinking along the lines of EZ, are you stepping on toes.

    Ex. Are you allowing more contact than is the norm at your club?
    Ex. Hell, are you performing extras
    Ex. Are you selling cheaper dances <----This is imo the #1 why I'd hate on a girl...

    Usually I am the one who gets hated on by the girls. I go to work, make my mone, and go home. But, I am cordial. I won't hold 20-30min in the dressing room listening to some girls baby daddy drama.







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    As far as contact, Saint louis is pretty high contact from other cities I've been to. I don't give extras. I definitely don't charge less. I always try to get more money than what it actually is. I don't even try to talk to other girls at work. I go there and try to make my money. Then when I'm in the dressing room a couple of girls will say something sometimes. I kind of got use to it. it's not just me though. Girls there get into arguments all the time. They are just really fiesty. One of the bouncers told me also they might like to pick on me b/c I'm so small so it looks like I won't stick up for myself. I look like I'm 15 and I'm only 5 ft 100lbs.

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    If you're there to make money. Well, do just that. Who cares what they think? Are they paying your bills? Prob. not. A friend and I started at a new club a few weeks back. We're getting hated on. I know why too. But, guess what. I don't care. I'm there to make money. Not friends. So tell them to f*ck off and be on your way. They can sit around and bitch all they want while you're making fat cash. I'm nice to everyone. But, I don't go out of my way to pump sunshine up anyone's ass.
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    it very well could be jealousy, especially in a smaller club. I worked in a shitload of clubs and its been fine, but there was this one club where freaking everyone hated me. I worked there with one of my gfs and they also hated her, but I was still public enemy #1. At that club there was a dance/CR board thar had xs next to your name for how many you've done that was front and center. And me and my gf would be into our second row and the rest had like 5. In their defense that club had a culture of sitting and drinking with the customers for like hours where i used the wanna dance hustle. They were so mean to me though, one time they hid my clothes and i had to go home in a club tshirt.
    These days I like to count my money. I like to wash it delicately and iron it. Sometimes I dry it with some bounty to make it all nice and cuddly. I love my money... did I say that out loud?

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