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    Default 1st I get harrassed and now they lie on me.

    So I go in today, and I kid you not, as soon as I get one foot in the door, everyone is looking at me. The owner then says, "I heard you left with a customer." And I look at her like ...One of the girls lied on me and told the bartender that I left with the guy who threw his drink on me. And I asked her who told her that and she didn't say...just that I left with a guy and someone saw me get into the car with him. 1st of all, I left early...and the guy left before me. 2nd, why would I even leave with an asshole who didn't even respect me, and 3rd, I was the only one who left early that day which means that everyone else was in the club...so how could anyone see me???

    So the bartender says the same thing about me leaving with this guy...and I told her how could anyone see me if everyone else was in the club...and plus, I told her that I left and got in a car...and that was my friend picking me up because I called him and asked him to. She didn't believe me and we started arguing...then the owner jumps in...and I could see the other girls with smiles on their faces as all of this was going on.

    So everyone goes in the back...and I immediately ask who the fuck lied on me??? Of course no one admitted to it. So my day is fucked up from the beginning, but I decided to stay anyways. It took all I had in me to not start a fight with those girls...so after I got dressed, I just sat at the bar, and I swear, I smoked about 4 cigarettes in like 5 min to try and contain myself.

    The bartender then came over and apologized to me because she said that she shouldn't have handled it like that, and that she was pissed because the owner was giving her hell about something that happened the previous day. I said whatever and she walked away. Then later on in the day, she called me into the DR to apologize again and that she had wrote the owner a letter saying that she was wrong for not pulling me to the side to talk to me, but instead she wanted to argue with me in front of the other girls and the customers. She also said that in the letter she stated that someone had in fact lied on me, and that she thinks that I should get an apology from her.

    Whatever. I'm just through with this club, and I think with stripping in general. I can't take the gossip, the lying...I'm sick of the guys...my tolerance is just really really low. Yeah some clubs may be better, but the bullshit that goes on behind closed doors is always gonna be there. I'm done with it. And then to make matters worse, as I was doing my set, some douche that comes in every once in a while decided to put his flashlight on me while I was dancing, and made really inappropriate comments about how he would "do certain things to me"...and nobody said anything. All the while, the other girls were steady trying to steal my custies, and because they do shit like have sex for $$$, what do you think they did??? Yup, my custies ended up becoming their custies.

    I just can't take it anymore...I cried all the way from the club to my house, and I'm still crying now. This business is just not cut out for me at all...so I think I'm just going to give it up...this is just not worth it at all.

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    I'm so sorry to hear that.
    but I think it was pretty big of that bartender to do all that to make amends... usually people have too much pride for that. granted she was a bitch at first but I like to see the good in people. :-)

    dont let this get you down. keep your head up. When I go into work Im seriously so quiet in the DR... the only time i really actually talk to anyone is when I'm out there hustling... or to the dj. I know how crazy the drama can get so I avoid it at all costs.

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    Yeesh! Talk about adding insult to injury! (I read the thread where you talked about how that guy threw his drink on you - what a weird asshole.)

    I'm sorry you have to go through all this drama. Are you sure that switching clubs isn't a good solution, though? No club has ever been that rough for me and maybe it is just the demographic that goes there and the people who work there. Also, all workplaces are going to have nasty politics behind the scenes!

    I hear you on the girls having sex for money and stealing your customers. That is very frustrating. I hope you feel better!

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    God, that sounds like high school. Sorry you had to deal with that girl!

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    Default Re: 1st I get harrassed and now they lie on me.

    Thanks girls...I need any and all of the inspiration I can get...and I went in SOOO positive today because I had decided that I was going to talk to the bartender and just get everything off of my chest...but so much for bring positive huh?

    I'll get over it I suppose...and even the bartender (who has known most of the girls for a really long time) said that they are trying to run me out of the club...another girl who was on dayshift also quit because the same girls were giving her problems.

    I don't want them to think that I'm weak; I kept my cool the whole time...but at the same time, they're doing a damn good job of getting to me and I just don't know what to do anymore.

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    ((hugs)) - sorry to hear you had a rough few days! But don't quit because of that - it isn't worth it. If you really want to quit because you just don't want to dance, that's another story. But from your posts you sound like a strong woman and you shouldn't let this get you down. Brush it off and remember that tomorrow is another day. There will always be drama in strip clubs, just try to keep clear of it as much as possible. If it gets too bad switch clubs. We have all been there (or will be) at one point in time.

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    Honey, I've been dancing for over 2 years and I have NEVER had to deal with all this shit you've put up with in your short time dancing. I really wish you would give another club a try.

    Some clubs are just shitholes. You shouldn't give up because THE ONE club you've danced at is a mess.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MissNicole21 View Post
    Thanks girls...I need any and all of the inspiration I can get...and I went in SOOO positive today because I had decided that I was going to talk to the bartender and just get everything off of my chest...but so much for bring positive huh?

    I'll get over it I suppose...and even the bartender (who has known most of the girls for a really long time) said that they are trying to run me out of the club...another girl who was on dayshift also quit because the same girls were giving her problems.

    I don't want them to think that I'm weak; I kept my cool the whole time...but at the same time, they're doing a damn good job of getting to me and I just don't know what to do anymore.

    you should take it as a compliment. You must be INCREDIBLE and taking everyone's money if these stupid girls are seriously pooling together to run you out!
    I am the same way... I like to appear strong at all times and would stay to piss em off... but you have seriously put up with alot so I don't know if it's really worth it to stay there. This is a decision that only you can make and it's all gonna depend on your comfort level.. I normally wouldn't suggest letting them "win" but in the end, if you can go to a club where you will be happy then that's a much better accomplishment.

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    Default Re: 1st I get harrassed and now they lie on me.

    that really sucks.....i can't believe they were such bitches

    but thats life babe

    if you were in a fancy business and good at what you do....there is always gonna be a bitch or two (or more than that) tryna bring u down. Keep your head up and do what you gotta do to make that money and b happy gurl

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    It really does sound like a bad place to be.

    I don't blame you for not wanting to deal with that. As much as I can pump myself up, I would dread having to deal with that type of stuff......
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    It sounds like you handled it in a classy way. You're better than that stuff. You really ought to be somewhere - whether stripping or some other kind of job - where people appreciate your patience and maturity. Sounds like the bartender will be in your corner in the future at least.

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    I hate the way people won't say who accuses someone of something. It's usually bull. If you don't know who the complainer is then you can't ask them a few questions and prove it's a lie. There would be a lot less drama in this world if you could know who your accusers are!

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    hugs

    it gets rough at times. sorry. next week it will be someone else
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    Yeah, I'm definitely trying another club. I am going to go tomorrow afternoon and check out some clubs since I worked yesterday and didn't get a chance to do so. And I just remembered, one of the girls who is a top earner said to me in the DR, "You're the cutest bitch I ever seen, and I don't like for you for it."...then she laughed so I guess she tried to make it a joke. But its obvious that its jealousy...I mean, even all the bartenders said that I'm probably one of the nicest girls that they've ever worked with, I've never taken another girls custie...I've even babysat for one of the girls kids...I've never been mean to anyone...not up until a few days ago at least.

    It's cool though...I totally believe in karma. What comes around goes around.

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    Re: 1st I get harrassed and now they lie on me.

    First of all, Don't let those other dancers RENT SPACE IN YOUR HEAD! Stay focused on your own objectives. You are there to make money, not to play into their drama.

    Keep your head high and go about your business. Sooner or later they will find someone else to prey on and will leave you alone. Evidently, you pose a threat of some kind to them (real or imagined) so they are trying to push you out. Don't let them run you out of a club because of THEIR insecurities.

    It will get better, so hang in there!

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    I think you need to have a talk with the owner and suggest that she fire the girls who are systematically harassing clean girls right out the door. They are the problem. Explain that as long as they have liars in the club they will have drama. Trust and believe if that woman had come to me talking some bullshit about me going home with a fucking guy she'd get a fucking earfull about how to run her fucking club correctly and to leave me the fuck out of that teenage bullshit in the future! Oh yeah, and I'd DEFINITELY be auditioning elsewhere.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Elvia View Post
    Honey, I've been dancing for over 2 years and I have NEVER had to deal with all this shit you've put up with in your short time dancing. I really wish you would give another club a try.

    Some clubs are just shitholes. You shouldn't give up because THE ONE club you've danced at is a mess.
    I've also been dancing 2 years and have never had to put up with that kind of nonsense. I still cannot believe that guy was allowed to get away with throwing his drink on you. Any club I've ever worked in, guys have been bounced out for far less than that!

    if those girls want to run you out of the club, let them. Let them have their shit hole of a club, and you go find a better one. You're too good for that place.

    If had I started at a club like yours, I'd probably have quit after a week! All clubs are not like that.
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    I'm so sorry you're dealing with this ugly aspect of the business. Some girls can be real bitches!

    This can especially be true about day girls. Days are harder to work because there aren't as many random party guys dropping in, so you really have to build up a clientelle/regulars. Also, most clubs put their less attractive girls on day shift, ones with a narrower appeal to customers. More often than not, they're bitter about this, and are especially bitter when someone they consider more attractive is making money.

    DON'T LET THEM HAVE THEIR WAY WITH YOU. Stand your ground!

    On the upside, it can work in your favor $wise. Chances are they'll shit talk you to customers - which only makes them look bad and you look intriguing/appealing to the guys : P. No such thing as bad publicity!

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