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    So lately I've been in a rut, in the past month I have been dreading having to go to work day to day, on Tuesday I didn't go at all and then on Thursday I had to push myself to go because I needed the money. The thing is that when I do go, any little dumb thing a custy does or says irritates the shit out of me, gets me cranky and it puts me in a bad mood for the rest of the night and I think customers can see that. I haven't seen my money go down because of it but I could possibly be making more, but at this point I don't care much for a few extra bucks, what I want is my sanity. I just don't know how to change my attitude and just ignore them or be happy at work, it hasn't always been like this. What I really want is to be able to go to work, ignone bad things and just be happy or normal and not be dreading every minute of it, how do you do it?

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    Default Re: In a bad mood, how to deal with custies?

    Sounds like your a little burned out on the job. Usually the only answer for that is to take a break. Hopefully that's a possibility.

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    Default Re: In a bad mood, how to deal with custies?

    Either take a break or drink or do drugs to take you to another place while you're dancing. If you say they irritating you and not affecting your money it means you haven't snapped on anybody yet, soon as you do then i guarantee you'll see your money starting to suffer then

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    Grindonme - we don't generally suggest methods that are incredibly obviously self-destructive and addictive as a way of dealing with problems hustling here. We consider that to be very bad advice.
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    Default Re: In a bad mood, how to deal with custies?

    ^^I haven't completely snapped on someone because that's not my style, instead I'm not friendly enough or I give them a backhand sarcastic remark they don't get(or they act like they don't) and those type of things.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny View Post
    Grindonme - we don't generally suggest methods that are incredibly obviously self-destructive and addictive as a way of dealing with problems hustling here. We consider that to be very bad advice.
    Since she knows those methods are self destructive i'm sure she'd take the first choice (take a break) before she gets to the point where she snaps (which she said she hasn't yet) and it starts to effect her money

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    ^^I haven't completely snapped on someone because that's not my style, instead I'm not friendly enough or I give them a backhand sarcastic remark they don't get(or they act like they don't) and those type of things.
    Check my response above your quote
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    Default Re: In a bad mood, how to deal with custies?

    [QUOTE=grindonme;1687111 drink or do drugs to take you to another place while you're dancing. [/QUOTE]

    wow thats sound advice and from a blue no less....

    try and change your routine. in a bad mood? play dominatrix. get a black outfit, and a little flogger or crop, and be the sexy bitch vixen. a lot of guys will eat it up.

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    Default Re: In a bad mood, how to deal with custies?

    This may sound like weird advice, but short of taking time off, I will take a break in the DR and recall in my head all the great custies I've had who have been super sweet, kind, fun to hang out with and of course given me lots of money. When I start thinking about all the great ones instead of all the bad running through my head, I feel a little refreshed to go back out and work the room.

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    Quote Originally Posted by grindonme View Post
    Either take a break or drink or do drugs to take you to another place while you're dancing.
    That's funny I read that on Saturday but I was a little drunk so I actually thought it was a pretty good tip at that time. I think I definitly need a short break, but right now its not much of an option so I'm gonna have to suck it and think of ways to get past it and stay sane at the same time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Is.a.bella View Post
    That's funny I read that on Saturday but I was a little drunk so I actually thought it was a pretty good tip at that time. I think I definitly need a short break, but right now its not much of an option so I'm gonna have to suck it and think of ways to get past it and stay sane at the same time.
    uh oh

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    Default Re: In a bad mood, how to deal with custies?

    I went thru a long period like this. If I didn't make heaps of money from the beginning of the shift I got annoyed and cutomers gave me the shits.

    I stopped drinking at work (I never drank much just one or two glasses of champagne) and now Im in a much better mood when Im there. Alcohol makes me tired and irritable.

    I've totally changed my attitude and my money has increased very substantially.
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    ^^so you're saying that there's a correlation between me drinking and being in a bad mood and grumpy? Because if it is, then I'm screwed. Usually when I drink I loosen up and tend to be in a better mood. I don't drink much, just a drink or two will get me to that state, SO I was thinking maybe if I drank a little more it could make me chill a little more and just go with the flow, but maybe not??

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    Default Re: In a bad mood, how to deal with custies?

    Buy a new outfit and some new shoes. Try some new music. A different persona is almost as good as a break.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Is.a.bella View Post
    ^^so you're saying that there's a correlation between me drinking and being in a bad mood and grumpy? Because if it is, then I'm screwed. Usually when I drink I loosen up and tend to be in a better mood. I don't drink much, just a drink or two will get me to that state, SO I was thinking maybe if I drank a little more it could make me chill a little more and just go with the flow, but maybe not??
    Not sure babe. For me there is but for you as u said alcohol has the opposite effect. I was just putting it out there as a suggestion.
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    Default Re: In a bad mood, how to deal with custies?

    See, I believe you have some wrong thinking going on there.

    First, too much alcohol will just add to your problems.

    Second, your mood is your internal problem. It's not even a headache. Why should someone else have to deal with it? You are an actress, and you can get out there and act. After all, it's your livelihood.

    Third, plan to do things after work that you will enjoy. Look forward to them.
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

    NOTE: anything I post here, outside of a direct quote, is my opinion only, which I am entitled to. Take it for what you estimate it is worth.

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    Quote Originally Posted by grindonme View Post
    Either take a break or drink or do drugs to take you to another place while you're dancing.
    WHAT!

    Please tell me its an attempt at humor gone horribly wrong.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Golden_Rule View Post
    WHAT!

    Please tell me its an attempt at humor gone horribly wrong.
    Quote Originally Posted by grindonme
    Since she knows those methods are self destructive i'm sure she'd take the first choice (take a break) before she gets to the point where she snaps (which she said she hasn't yet) and it starts to effect her money
    Really good choice vs really bad choice, which would you choose?

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    Quote Originally Posted by grindonme View Post
    Really good choice vs really bad choice, which would you choose?
    Yeah, but you are speaking to someone on a board who you don't know and can't fathom how they are going to take what you said.

    So you are being sarcastic and presuming they know that, and she probably does, but I don't know if I'd want to make that bet with a newbie you haven't had a chance to get to know more about.
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    BTW, while we are on the subject, is it needed to point out the obvious: That it is just possible that if you are willing to judge the worth of someone simply by what you read on a website about them it might say a whole hell of a lot more about you than it says about the person you are judging?

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    grindonme knows what every single dancer goes through and therefore, his advice and comments are valid and should be taken into serious consideration.

    Just so you know.

    So if score some mind-numbing drugs, I can grind away like a little ho-bot and all is right in Stripperland? Who would've thunk it, self-medicate to mask a deeper issue... that's kick ass. *skips gayly through the flowery meadows towards her nearest drug dealer*

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    You guys move on. I don't think we need a thread talking about the dude when the original question was pretty interesting.
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    Quote Originally Posted by SassyPants View Post
    grindonme knows what every single dancer goes through and therefore, his advice and comments are valid and should be taken into serious consideration.

    Just so you know.

    So if score some mind-numbing drugs, I can grind away like a little ho-bot and all is right in Stripperland? Who would've thunk it, self-medicate to mask a deeper issue... that's kick ass. *skips gayly through the flowery meadows towards her nearest drug dealer*
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    Default Re: In a bad mood, how to deal with custies?

    sooooooo bad

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    Quote Originally Posted by SassyPants View Post
    sooooooo bad
    Send me a pic and i'll see if you meet my standards. I might come down and make it on ya

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    theres gotta be something you like about stripping focus on the things you like..put a postivie spin on things and you will be much happier

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