im right with you. i dont mind dancing (they are table dances no contact) that does not bother me. its approaching guys that make me so nervous. ive been doing this for 4 years and still cant get over it!
im right with you. i dont mind dancing (they are table dances no contact) that does not bother me. its approaching guys that make me so nervous. ive been doing this for 4 years and still cant get over it!




lately i have been to argumentative, bitchy, and overly defensive and sensitive to asshole customers who try to ask me alllll the same questions and tell me they are different yadda yadda yadda. I need to be a better actress and pretend like I care, i have been just getting up and walking away.





Some Douchebag: "[Pimp C] 12:43 am: its true we got to stick together the black people on SW CK you is teh condoleeza of SW"

I find that I do this ALL the time. Then they want to date me or marry me. Crap!!I should just say something they would expect a stripper to say. But I like impressing people. Grrr...
Also, almost everything everyone has done wrong, I feel like I'm doing!! *pout*But I think it all stems from a lack of self confidence. There are days when I better and days when I'm worse.
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Just tell them that it feels soooo good having them run their hands all over your body, but you'll get in trouble if they do it on the floor, and would they like to take you to the private area so you can continue? Of course this will only work in a club that allows some contact.



I also make myself too relatable. But I don't do the uber sensual or ditzy stripper act well. I'm much better as bubbly girl next door...but while with some guys I can make money the rest it's too relatable. Damn!





Oh, I like this thread, I don't feel like I make so many mistakes now!
I am exactly like Pure above: I have a bad habit of pulling the laid-back "anti-hustle" to the point where I get into too much buddy buddy conversation with them, and then they see me as girlfriend material or someone to sit and drink with. Granted, some appreciate that and get dances, but I do much better when I play the dumb bubbly blonde that I look like.
Also, I get pissed off and discouraged too easily... the worst is when it's me and 1 or 2 other girls who either do extras or allow a lot more contact, and are thus taking all the customers early in the day. Totally ruins my mood. I need to stop watching them.
"People jack off with the left hand and point with the right."
"You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave."
One thing I believe I do that I shouldn't is engage in "buddy buddy" conversation. I tone down the sexy and there goes that stripper status I'm trying to maintain in order to get a dance!
I feel like this should be a sticky! "What Not To Do" all in one thread.


I am bad recently for attempting to spread my feathers and show that I'm far more intelligent. I sit and talk and immediately from the off am attempting to say wittier, funnier and more factual things in a bid to show my 'urgh you are another gross man that thinks you're above me right now, when in fact I'm actually way smarter than you give me credit for' side.
Nothing closes a wallet quicker and scares away a boner than a woman trying to outwit a man.
I have to lose this air of despise I have for them of late. It's murdering my sales.
Ugh, yes. And men wonder why there are so few intelligent strippers - it's because 90% of us are dumbing ourselves down to try to make a damn sale!
I felt most compelled to do this when I didn't feel stable in other areas of my life (specifically, I was in school, felt insecure about my major, and didn't know what I was going to do once I graduated). I felt I needed to justify myself to everyone whenever I got the chance, so I'd take that energy out at work.
I love this thread.
One of my big bad hustle habit is leaving a guy right after we finish a set of dances or private room when I know he has more money in his wallet. I'll try to return to the well later with the ones I know have money, and I'll see some other dancer with them or spending a lot more time. I'm not good at getting extensions on our semi-private dances or stacking floor dances, and sometimes after a dance set (like 3 songs or more), or a half hour room, I kind of want a break from the guy, and will leave him even when it's slow and I know I shouldn't.





The worst hustle habit I have is blurting out "I don't blame you" when they turn down a VIP. I just wanted to kick myself.
I've also said terrible things like, "Yeah we'll probably get cancer from all the fog in here" - that is sooooo cynical and unsexy, holy shit, what is wrong with me! Or I'll blurt out other unsexy things that a stripper shouldn't be talking about! I need to learn to STFU sometimes.
I learned when I first started dancing to never bring up politics or religion. It still happens occasionally, and I want to just run away when the subject of politics comes up. I've managed to piss off some customers by accidentally revealing too much of my political side! OOPS!
So yeah, less talking in general is what I need to work on.
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"Dancing tables, making deals with devils like a drunk beauty queen"
1. Acting TOO sweet and TOO down to earth. I'm a Southerner and that's how I was taught to socialize. It works fine with sweet old men, but in general I make so much more money when I act spoiled and demanding!
2. Slipping "out of character" and using big words or forgetting to talk about "sexy" things.
3. Not draining every last dollar out of every customer's wallet, even when I know he has more and I know I can get it...I need to work on being greedier.

Sometimes I go to work too late and sit around until I'm in the mood to work... I answer personal questions about my life that I should probably leave private... I sit with customers too long thinking they'll spend multiple hours in the VIP room with me... Sometimes I ignore the customers because I'm not in the mood to deal with them lol





being too "nice" and talking to them for too long. after almost 4 years i STILL do it!
not wanting to appear "greedy". getting up and saying " so you just want those two?" when i should continue dancing on their lap and running my hand along their leg and whispering " let's do one more". i'm too afraid of rejection.
not approaching every customer.
not smiling on stage or trying to hustle the guy while i'm up there





Looking back, I can say the hugest mistakes I made were 1) not figuring out whether the guy was really into me or not. (You have to read his body language before he approaches to bet on whether he is a good "mark.')
And 2) Droning on and on after about 15 minutes of convo. I wanted so badly to make a good impression that I would have a normal conversation with anyone in the room- keep in mind, not everyone deserves your time or respect.
My biggest mistake has been not pushing rooms/dances. You just never know.
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I worked in a club where there were only floor or $20 dances for six years. I got so good at stringing dances. Then I moved to a major city with room clubs two years ago and I'm still figuring out how the hell to determine when to push for another floor dance in the hopes the guy will take me to VIP, or abandon him as a low spender (you sure as hell don't want to get stuck with a 3 song, $60 customer when you know there are guys with $5k+ to blow in the room). Sometimes I size a guy up as a non spender just to see him take a dancer who spent a little more time with him to a room for hours. It's so frustrating, and I feel like I've had to relearn my hustle entirely. I had my shit down pat before.
I do this too. Sometimes it's so cold in the DR that I won't get dressed for a while, but most of the time I'm just not in the mood. I start putting on makeup over makeup..slowly, and smile in the mirror to help me at least fake being excited. I purposely started getting there earlier so I could sit back there longer lol. I mean, it helps. Then I get ready, walk out and sit around more. Takes a good 45 mins for me to be on top of my game, oh well.
Other than that, I:
ignore and avoid a lot of people. young ones especially.
i'm guilty of asking "..why not?" a couple times after being turned down. This was when I was a baby stripper, hahaha omg.
Sometimes I take too long to approach and other girls get there first. it's sad that I'm not even nervous, just lazy.
I really don't like doing more than 5-7 dances in a row, I get overheated and when I over heat I get very nauseous and dizzy. Also I'm really self conscious about the possibility of them feeling me all wet and sweaty, so I usually stop at that point.
Giving up too quickly, bringing up VIP too soon, not drinking LOL.




^^Not drinking in Manhattan is so hard! I've been trying to cut down lately and it's been affecting my money a little. Makes the night seem so slow and tedious even when you're banking. Customers are either boring as fuck or a pain in the ass.




Lol for me it's either drinking too little or too much. I have a happy medium where I get in the zone and make the most money and enjoy it the most.
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