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    Default Indifferent/rude guys

    That is the main thing holding me back from hustling like I should. I give up way too easy over fear of customers not liking me, acting indifferent/uninterested or just plain rude. When 10 guys in a row do this, it makes me want to give up and go home.

    How can I get over this stupid fear?


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    When I get a bad vibe, I just walk away. If you run out of other people to hustle, you can always go back. I'm a lot happier and more productive now that I do this.

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    Default Re: Indifferent/rude guys

    Well it sucks when 9 out of 10 guys are assholes.


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    Default Re: Indifferent/rude guys

    ^ well, sometimes that IS the case... but it doesn't necessarily mean anything about you, your looks, your dancing ability, etc... only your hustle.

    You need to not ASSUME you'll be rejected. Approach every guy like he's already given you 20 dances in a row and you're very happy with him for making your night. Smile, talk to him a bit, ask questions that make him feel special and unique, present yourself as fun and desirable. Do NOT assume he'll turn you down- you'll kill your hustle if it's half-heated.

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    Last edited by Brendita; 10-12-2008 at 03:14 AM.

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    Default Re: Indifferent/rude guys

    ^I know that, but for some reason it's been happening a lot more than usual lately, and driving me nuts.

    Colette-That is great advice, thank u! I'm definitely going to try it out.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Jeska View Post
    Well it sucks when 9 out of 10 guys are assholes.
    Wow. Not to sound judgemental or anything but if 9/10 guys were assholes I would change clubs or quit. Have you talked to management about this? Sorry you have to go through this

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    Default Re: Indifferent/rude guys

    i've noticed 3 kinds of guys who come off like that

    - jerks (maybe you're not their type, maybe it's universal douchebaggery. who cares)
    - guys who like um "strong" women and are testing you
    - guys who don't know how they should act or how they come off. they could just be shy.

    you've got to talk to them to find out which.

    i have the fear too. some nights i'm on, some i'm off. the on nights are the ones i just suck it up and talk to guys i can't read. i'm shy and come off as bitchy irl, so i feel bad about making the same assumptions about other people.

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    Quote Originally Posted by NewMoon View Post
    Wow. Not to sound judgemental or anything but if 9/10 guys were assholes I would change clubs or quit. Have you talked to management about this? Sorry you have to go through this
    Sorry but quiting or changing clubs is just not feasible since it's about the demographic. Complaining to management is laughable.

    I work in the same demographic as Jeska and I consider myself a hardened hustler but even still the rudeness/indifference can get to me.

    CC has some good advice. They're not rejecting you, they're rejecting your offer, so don't take it personally. I've learned to read customers faster and look for asshole and time waster clues so that I can cut my losses before investing too much into them.

    I've noticed when the guys are the biggest jerks it's because they are being over hustled because they're too many girls in general and most girls are using crappy hustles and getting rejected and in turn spew venom back at the custies who then give it back to you. It becomes a cycle.

    This reasoning helps me take it less personally as well, it's not me it's the cylce! Then I can focus on breaking the cycle and differentiating myself form the typical approach by remaining genuine and flirty no matter how rude some jerk has treated me. Brush it off and compartmentalize and move on with a fresh slate to the next guy.

    However, the immediate wave off still stings even though it saves me time.

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    Default Re: Indifferent/rude guys

    Quote Originally Posted by NewMoon View Post
    Wow. Not to sound judgemental or anything but if 9/10 guys were assholes I would change clubs or quit. Have you talked to management about this? Sorry you have to go through this
    I've recently switched to a bigger, busier club, I think that's why guys are meaner because they get hustled a lot more. I'm switching back to a smaller club, the anxiety is too much. Maybe if I took (rx) drugs I could deal with it.

    Dangerousdiva is spot on.


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    Default Re: Indifferent/rude guys

    Quote Originally Posted by NewMoon View Post
    When I get a bad vibe, I just walk away.
    I fight the urge to do this (unless they are vulgar, grabby, etc).

    A lot of time, my initial "vibe" from a custie may not be the best - but then things take a turn for the better, and I end up being VERY happy I stayed.
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    Default Re: Indifferent/rude guys

    if you don't think you will get a dance out of them or you can't be bothered trying then walk away and let another dancer have the option of getting the money out of the guy!

    Guys go to strip clubs to
    a) see tits
    b) see asses
    c) see pussy
    d) spend money

    Once you learn and know this you will make a lot more money and have a lot less ass wipes to deal with!!

    Get over the 'i don't want to be rejected' and just go for it! You never know if you never go and try!!

    Good luck on working on it, find a club you are comfortable working in and take baby steps until you are running!!
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    About 4 months ago I went thru a similar rough spot.I felt really rejected by my clubs clientel. I came to the conclusion that the costomers rudeness was a mystery I would never unravel. There are so many different reasons for their behavior. Maybe they are broke and can't spend money on you, even though they want to. Maybe the like blondes more than brunettes( or vice versa) Sometimes we are not their type. I had a guy acting like a real jerk, only later did I find out I looked just like his soon to be ex-wife. When guys get bitchy, I now put the blame on them, not me. I think guys get periods too. I decided to carry myself like a hot little porn star. they are lucky just to have me or you approache them. I karate chop my hand with my other hand at the head line. (gently) It calmes me, I approach, smile, share my hustle. If they don't bite, I think, their loss. next!

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