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    All They Want is Sex.

    Why will he want to pay for just a lap dance when he knows he can get the
    dancer to leave with
    him, have sex with him, or blow him in the back of the club, etc.?

    We've all heard this excuse at one time or another. Let's take a closer look
    at the truth of it.

    First of all we have to remember we are in the "strip tease" business.
    Let's define that.

    American Heritage Dictionary
    v. stripped, strip·ping, strips

    1. To remove clothing or covering from.
    2. To deprive of (clothing or covering).

    American Heritage Dictionary
    v. teased, teas·ing, teas·es

    1. To annoy or pester; vex.
    2. To make fun of; mock playfully.
    3. To arouse hope, desire, or curiosity in without affording satisfaction.

    The strip part is certainly true enough and easy to understand. The tease
    part is a bit more complex.

    The definition that probably best applies to our job description is:
    #3. To arouse desire and curiosity without affording satisfaction

    It's no secret that men will have internal fantasies as they watch us
    perform, especially during the intimate nature of lap and table dances. What's
    important regarding our role here, is to support their temporary fantasy, while
    at the same time, not engaging in the all-too-common and deceitful practice
    of letting them intellectually believe they really have a shot at sex with us.
    In this way our customers remain responsible for their own thoughts, their
    own fantasies. And it releases the dancer of any responsibility for
    following through in reality.

    Besides, the truth is that men's sexual imagination is greater than their
    sexual power. Men's sexual peak happens at about 17 years of age. And some
    studies suggest that by the time they are 40, up to half of all men have some
    kind of erectile dysfunction.

    Secondly, sex is not that scarce of a commodity. In fact it is everywhere in
    all kinds of forms from street walkers to high dollar escorts, from lonely
    cougars at the local watering hole to young, insecure girls new to dating who
    feel they have to prove their attractiveness or "put out" to repay a man for
    buying dinner. And don't forget the men who happen to have wives or
    girlfriends, women who, if they were shown some decent attention, would gladly spend
    an evening of romance with their men.

    Thirdly, we live in a goal oriented society so it somewhat goes against our
    conditioning to just let go and enjoy the moment without trying to force it
    to become something more. Sometimes guys just feel un-masculine if they don't
    at least ask for sex, even if they really didn't want the worries and
    responsibility that goe with the actual act.

    There are a small percentage of customers who come to the clubs solely
    seeking sex, but very often for these guys it's really only about the thrill of
    the hunt, since sex can be found easier and cheaper elsewhere.

    The truth is that most men, especially strip club customers--no matter what
    they say--just want some attention and to be made to feel special.

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    Default Re: All they want is Sex

    Is this... is this a hustle tip?

    I didn't read the whole thing so someone give me the clif's notes version if it is.

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    I was confused too.

    I guess I'll take this as a reminder that sometimes it's my job to just pretend like they have a chance. Sometimes I can get too caught up in the reality of it all....

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    Erm, so you're in Austin? I find it hard to believe you're having that problem unless you're working in a shithole.

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    Default Re: All they want is Sex

    She's basically saying that while men think that all they want is sex what they really want is some attention and to be made to feel special.

    I like this little article in the topic. good work

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    Thank you. I'm still working on my writing skills.
    I danced for 24 years and just thought I would try and start putting up some tidbits here from time to time on things that I've seen over the years that vex the girls, leading to less money and burn out. Hope it helps someone.

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    wow! awesome! lookin forward to reading your stuff! maybe you should start a blog too

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