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    Default How to Tactfully Walk Away When it's Going Nowhere

    So I searched threads about customer conversation and read a lot of helpful posts. My question is (veterans please don't take my head off here), if you sit with a customer for whatever amount of time, and you see that it's going nowhere, how do you tactfully get up and walk away without seeming like, "ok, no money here, I'm outta here". Give me specifics...what kinds of things can you SAY to get off the hook of wasting more time with men who are not spending?
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    I always try to close first (obviously). If they don't bite, or say something like "Eh, maybe later...let's talk for awhile first!"...then I'll say something like "I've really enjoyed talking to you, but I have to get back to work. You know how it is." I've never had a guy who didn't understand this.

    Even if you don't sit down and talk to him, just say "Sorry, I can't sit right now. I have to keep workin'!" ::pout::

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    I say something like, "I've had a great time talking with you, but I've got to go to the DJ booth and request music for my next set/to the dressing room to change into something more comfortable/on stage/go do a dance for a customer who has been waiting on me..... It's better than saying "go back to work" because it makes it seem like you've got momentum going and you have other things to do but you're not dissing them by saying that they're wasting your time.
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    ^^ Nice! Yeah, that is better.

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    Just walk away after your close. If they turn down a dance, I'll say something like "Alright, maybe we can have some fun later on. Have a good night!" I try and keep it positive so he will consider me for a dance in the future.

    If I'm getting bad vibes that I do not want to dance for him I'll just say something like "Well it's been nice talking with you and I'm going to go mingle a bit. Talk to you later" and then stay away from him.

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    When I feel like it's going nowhere, I just give a stab at it anyway by offerring dances. If they say they are not interested, or not right now... I just say "thanks for letting me hang out for a bit! I'll check on you later..." or something along those lines. And i say it with a smile. In reality I'm thinking "UGHHHH. fuck you."
    lol. :-)

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    I just tell them the truth. Something like I'm on the clock but if they would like a dance later I'm happy to dance for them and if not for them to please enjoy the rest of their day or evening.

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    also wanted to add.... if i'm pissed off that I wasted time on them and they're just scumbags wanting a free show with no chance of spending money in the club.... i'll just act dumb and pretend something caught my eye and get up and walk away towards "it" really urgently. or i'll just get up and walk away and say peace.
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    Meh I dont care about being tactful esp when they wasted my time/lead me on. I just walk off even if the guy is mid-sentence.

    My friend used to tell them she was bored before she walked off.

    If they aren't spending who gives a fuck?

    Although if the guy was nice I might tell him to have a good night, if Im in a good mood.
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    Quote Originally Posted by keira0304 View Post
    also wanted to add.... if i'm pissed off that I wasted time on them and they're just scumbags wanting a free show with no chance of spending money in the club.... i'll just act dumb and pretend something caught my eye and get up and walk away towards "it" really urgently. or i'll just get up and walk away and say peace.
    lol. I'm gonna do that one of these nights... but if they say no to dances, I'm gonna throw up the deuces and say peace.

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    "Oh my gosh, I can't remember when I'm going on stage! I'm gonna go ask, be sure to come visit me when I go up, it should be soon!" I do the ditzy thing...
    And the DJ also feels special that I come visit him so often.

    And potential customers are actually close friends that I must say hi to, and I have to run to the dressing room to eat because I can't sit any longer on an empty stomach (sometimes true). Also, pissing gives me amnesia, and that's why I don't return after I use the bathroom. It's totally not you.
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    ^^ Yes! I do these too. They all work.

    Hehehe...pissing amnesia....

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    i will sometimes say I'LL BE BACK all Schwarzenegger -like. lol.

    no, not really. but i do warn them and assure them with a giggle that i'll be back for a dance- and then i smile really big, men seem to like it
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    I tell them" ok well REMEMBER my name its_______ (tell them your name again) make sure to page me when you are ready for a dance" This has actually worked a few times and I work at a club with 100's of girls--sometimes guys will "idealize" you after they talk to other girls who didn't treat them as graciously when they got turned down.

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    If i have attempted and can't close a sale, i will say "well, have a good night , if I'm not too busy i may check on you later". It's really simple just excuse yourself, but don't feel like you have to sit and talk or even wait for them to finish what they are saying as you are there for one reason.

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    i stab them in the eye with straw and tell them to have a nice day.

    or i ask them if they have the case of the ghey ;-)

    but when I'm feeling nice, I will allude to the fact that there is a man waiting for me to get nasty with and that non-paying duder is missing out on the hot action. "Ohhh you're missing out..." I purr, and I walk away with that sassy in my pants. that's how I do!

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    I wasted so much time yesterday sitting with losers because I didnt have the nerve to just leave em already. At one point another dancer even came and asked if I'd done dance yet, said no, and replied, " Well you should probably ditch these losers cuz their not gonna do anything for you."

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    Quote Originally Posted by jaizaine View Post
    Meh I dont care about being tactful esp when they wasted my time/lead me on. I just walk off even if the guy is mid-sentence.
    Are you talking about assholes or all guys who turn you down for a dance?

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    ^^^ I assume she's talking about time wasters..assholes or not. I wouldn't still be talking to someone who turned me down for a dance, once it's at that point what is there to talk about?

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    Quote Originally Posted by MeanGirl View Post
    ^^^ I assume she's talking about time wasters..assholes or not. I wouldn't still be talking to someone who turned me down for a dance, once it's at that point what is there to talk about?
    I should make this my mantra.

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    i usually say something like, "well! im going to stop by and check on you later! but im going to try and make my rounds and make a little bit of money!"

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    and you would be surprised at how many guys will say yes if you come visit them a second or third time around even if they turned you down the first time.

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    I tell them that I need a drink, and ask if they would like to go into the CR so we can both have one while having fun at the same time. If they say no, then I tell them that I'm going to go get a drink anyway and maybe if they change their mind they can ask for me later.

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