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    so me and this guy at work really hit it off, like i thought he was different he seemed so sincere and genuine, which is not common at my work.
    i work at a male and female strip club
    the night before this night he gave me a ride home, and we really got intense. so the day after words he talked to me at work and was all lingering like we were dating, he even drove us to McDonald's before we started work. During the night when he was on stage he asked me can he give me a ride, and maybe have some fun later. i said sure.
    but when it was time to close he kept talking to this other girl, ugly as fck if i might add. but i asked him so whats going on, "are u giving her a ride?" and "he was like ya... why you needed a ride? ohhh wait.. u did ask first." and i was like" no i didn't ask first you asked me to come." so i just said "you know what its fine, go ahead take her."
    i mean im not a complete idiot, but i feel like he used me... or something, im not sure what to make of this. I know he is going to want to talk or something, i just dont know what to say..
    i dont know what to do.. he gave her a ride home..
    he really doesnt act like the player type, or guy thats into messing with alot of girls.
    he seemed geniunly like a nice decent guy.
    advice please?

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    Default Re: Me and this guy at work hit it off, but then he gave this other girl a ride home?

    what's really intense? Like you slept with him already? If you did then yes i think that's what he wanted and you were used. If no.. then why is a ride such a big deal?

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    Default Re: Me and this guy at work hit it off, but then he gave this other girl a ride home?

    well i gave him a blow job.. im not a slut... i just really thought we were gonna be something...

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    Default Re: Me and this guy at work hit it off, but then he gave this other girl a ride home?

    *didnt say anything about slut. but i think if you have sex (that includes oral ) with a guy so fast, he's probably just into you for that. I mean he just took you home right, so whose to say he didn't get a bj from the other girl who he took home? or more. Which is why im guessing that you were worried about it.

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    Default Re: Me and this guy at work hit it off, but then he gave this other girl a ride home?

    ya ... i guess so.. i just hate feeling so stupid,
    but It could just be because she needed a ride badly... idk,,, i just feel really hurt.. am i supposed to?

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    Default Re: Me and this guy at work hit it off, but then he gave this other girl a ride home?

    yeah, if you really like him. Sorry But try to wait a little longer next time. If boys get to have fun with you too soon, there is no incentive to get to know you. That is kind of a broad statment, but it's true.

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    Default Re: Me and this guy at work hit it off, but then he gave this other girl a ride home?

    ya.. true... i just am not assertive. and feel like if i do it now, then they wont like me...

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    Be confident. but, you have to hold out for awhile, that's the way to get a boyfriend instead of a one night stand. You are worth waiting for.

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    Default Re: Me and this guy at work hit it off, but then he gave this other girl a ride home?

    thank you so much hun, u made me feel alil better
    xo



    if any one else wants to put input to this feel free..
    greatly appreciated!

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    Default Re: Me and this guy at work hit it off, but then he gave this other girl a ride home?

    Well damn girl don't cry, he's not worth it.

    And it's not like you did anything hateful, don't beat yourself up (but maybe be more careful next time lol). It might just have been a ride he gave the other girl but from the way you described it he sounds like he handled it very poorly.

    I think a gentleman would have been all about honoring his invitation to you before offering rides or whatever else to someone else.

    I hate all the bullshit games that go with dating people sometimes.

    But hey you sound like much the better person than him. It could be worse you could be an asshole instead of a nice person who got their feelings hurt a bit.
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    Default Re: Me and this guy at work hit it off, but then he gave this other girl a ride home?

    Congratulations, you've been used. Honestly, if I was a guy and I got a BJ after taking you to McDonalds then I'd probably move on to the next chick too.

    He's an ass, move on and coworkers at SC's aren't generally the best people to date.

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    Default Re: Me and this guy at work hit it off, but then he gave this other girl a ride home?

    I think your early experience with him--in finding out how quickly he "forgets" about the ride he was going to give you, is a gift...imagine if he kept pretending he was on the up and up, and your heart got more involved, and THEN you had to find out who he really is. Better to know sooner than later. He'll try to rationalize his behavior when he wants your attention again (I'm guessing that female relationships with him are primarily about the admiration he can generate) but I wouldn't fall for it. I would keep your distance from him and frankly not trust him.

    This was a shot across the bow--a good warning. I'm glad if you have no further involvement with him: I would just learn from this and let your instincts guide you. It seems you have a very good heart--I would protect it as well as you can until you really feel you can trust another. Best of luck to you.
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    Default Re: Me and this guy at work hit it off, but then he gave this other girl a ride home?

    Forget him.

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    Default Re: Me and this guy at work hit it off, but then he gave this other girl a ride home?

    He's a waste of thought and energy.

    I only give bj to boyfriends. That shit doesn't come for free. Def not for McD's either.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ahmeerah View Post

    ...I only give bj to boyfriends. That shit doesn't come for free. Def not for McD's either.
    May I tell you a story, BB? It goes like this:

    One afternoon, a young girl excitedly approached her mother and announced that she had learned where babies come from at school that day. Amused, her mother replied, "Really, sweetie? Why don't you tell me all about it?"

    The little girl carefully explained, "Well... OK... the mommy and daddy take off all of their clothes, and the daddy's thing sort of stands up, and the mommy puts it in her mouth, and then it sort of explodes, and that's where babies come from."

    At this point, the mother sighed, shook her head, and patiently told her daughter, "Oh, honey, that's sweet, but that's not where babies come from. That's where jewelry comes from."

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    Doesn't sound like you and this guy hit if off at work at all. Maybe in your mind. Remember, guys are programmed alot differently and their emotions often play a back seat. IMO, leave him be. I'm not saying there aren't any good men out there, but chances are even slimmer finding him working at a stripclub. Keep your eyes open on this one, I smell a four-legged creature.

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    Write him off as a bad decision.

    You DID ask if he was clean, yes??? You don't want any lasting consequences from a 5-minute asshat... I'd get tested if he didn't wear a condom.

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    If you really liked this guy, you shouldn't have given him a BJ so soon. Maybe it's just me, but the more I like a guy, the longer I wait to do anything sexual.

    It sounds like because of the fast BJ, he probably just views you as a fuck-buddy. Especially with the, "wanna have some fun" comment, and then talking to another girl.

    I'd stay away, unless all you want is unattached sex and NOTHING more. And be safe.
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    Yes, if he were truly just helping the other girl out with a ride, he'd have had you still come with him, but drop her off first, explaining how she was without transportation and he was just doing her a favor or felt bad for her.
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    Yea, I agree with every here. Yes, you got used and yes you need to just avoid him.

    Sweety, you also need to learn that 98% of the time, you SHOULD NOT date/fuck people you work with. And that's in any industry I may add.







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    A lot of guys who work in this industry fuck around and try to fuck a lot of girls. Def not worth getting involved with someone at work.
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    ^^^ true indeed.

    And just to ask, did you get anything fun out of this bj? If you enjoy giving head, cool, but make sure he also takes care of you sexually. And like the other ladies said, you really don't want to get mixed up with men in our industry. Dancers, bouncers, DJ's, etc. Not ALL of them are pricks, but majority are. In EVERY line of work, its never a good idea to mess around with a coworker.

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    ^ exactly.

    Think to yourself... what kind of guys TRY to work at strip clubs?

    I mean, a lot of DJs just fall into it because it's good money and they have the equipment/skills... but bouncers? Floormen? etc

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    Good grief, do not waste any more of your life on this dumbass loser! That's how male dancers are, they love fucking around with girls like you. I worked with this chick that used to hook up with this male dancer and then got upset that he got laid everywhere else too. But what do you expect? Keep it on a business level and get rides from someone who doesn't ask you to blow him.

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    Default Re: Me and this guy at work hit it off, but then he gave this other girl a ride home?

    so he called me earlie the next morning and told me that her bf was like abusing her so she needed a ride, but thats all.
    lol
    im so silly and paranoid.
    and he told me she is ugly, so im happy. the next day at work he didnt talk to the other girl, he said she freaked him out.
    the reason why he forgot was that he is was drinking alil bit, and when he drinks he tends to be forgetfull. so he was a nice person and gave her a ride.

    but since then he has proved to me nothing happened, and we want to get into a relationship.
    he doesnt talk to the other dancers, only me
    and he's been calling me and texting me non stop, so i think he's differnt.
    thanks for all ur advice though girls!xo

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