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    I've been dancing for one week, and I love it! As a newbie, I simple stay out of the way of the other girls, and am always polite and smiling. I'm not there to be friends with them, but I want to be respectful of the other girls and dancer etiquette. Because of this, I have a question about something that happened last night...

    Towards the end of the night there was a gentleman who was tipping me on stage, and wanted me to come over to see him after I was finished up there. When I got on the floor, one of the veteran girls (Dancer A) was with him. So I waited a bit, talked to other customers, gave other dances, etc. I went over to him when I saw he was free and that Dancer A was no longer over there. The gentleman and I ended up getting along really well, and he was very impressed by my body and brain. I spent a solid half hour or so with him, giving him many dances. He also talked about coming back to see me again.

    Later in the dressing room, Dancer A was pissing and moaning about "some stupid bitch stepping on [her] toes", and that she didn't do as well as she would have because of "stupid bitches." I presume she was talking about me, because when I said very politely, "Are you by any chance talking about me being with that customer? I'm sorry if I did anything that offended you," she just ignored me.

    IMO, she's just pissed that I made money off the gentleman and she didn't. There were plenty of other customers in the club for her to hustle, and the man was sitting by himself. Blaming me for her failure to make more $$$ is childish and ridiculous. But I'd like your opinions. Did I do something wrong? Was what I did a breach of etiquette? (If so, I was heretofore unaware that simply talking to a customer makes him your property!)

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    Default Re: Did I do something wrong?

    U didn't do anything wrong she is just being a bitch.

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    Default Re: Did I do something wrong?

    She might have ignored you because she doesn't know you. But you did nothing wrong, so don't worry about it.
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    Don't worry about it. You didn't do shit wrong. I had the same problem with some of the girls at my old club...they get jealous when they see that a guy that they were previously with more interested in you then in them.

    It's her problem, not yours. Just continue to do you and make $$$.

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    if she was referring to you then fuck her... she is just jealous. You did not do anything wrong!

    if she was not referring to you then she is still a lame for blaming her failure on other girls....

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    Agree with everyone else. You didn't do anything wrong. It would have been wrong of you to walk up to the guy while she was talking with him..but after she left, he was free game. She's just mad you made money off him and not her.

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    Default Re: Did I do something wrong?

    You didn't do anything wrong, but there is something that you can do to cover yourself if that situation happens in the future (particularly if you work in a small club).


    Whenever I approach a guy, I always say, "are you waiting for someone?" I don't use this in big clubs that are packed with people unless I see someone with him before, but I always do this in small clubs.

    This gives the guy the option to diffuse the situation before anything occurs...if he is waiting for someone, he doesn't feel strange about trying to tell you that uncomfortably, but also, if he says he isn't then he's fair game.

    Moreover, if a girl ever gives you shit for stealing "their customer", all you have to say is that you always ask if the custie is waiting for someone. How can she argue with that?

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    You did nothing wrong. It sounds to me like he was maybe her regular customer and he preferred you and she was miffed. I have been on both ends of that situation before and it sucks to be on her end. So yeah she probably hates you and theres not much you can do about it. Forget it and move on.

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    Did she leave his side because she had to go on stage? If so I can see why she'd be upset but I still think you wouldn't have done anything wrong. It just wouldn't have been as polite.

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    Nope, you were in the right.

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    Default Re: Did I do something wrong?

    This sort of thing happens all the time. Guys spend like the wind and it happened to blow your way, great. I wouldn't have even addressed the situation unless she said something to you first. Speak when spoken to is the golden rule, unless she was blatantly bad mouthing you. Keep your head up and mind your business. That's what I do.

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    I wouldn't stress out over it. Who cares. It's a competitive business by nature.

    I had something happen tonight that was (sorta) similar. I was sitting at the bar talking with a guy, and he was about to get a dance when the next song started. This girl walked over to us and just stood a few inches from us. Just staring at me. HE ignored HER, and kept talking to me. She just stood there, all rude. He didn't want me to leave, but it seemed like she did. Bottom line, he didn't want a dance from her anyway (not sure if he tipped her before I sat with him or whatever the deal was). She finally gave up and he bought dances from me.

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    Like everyone else said: You were right, she was wrong. Hell, if the guy didn't want you..he wouldn't have bought countless dances from you and offered up the chance to come back and see you.







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    You are absoloutely in the RIGHT! Its survival of the fittest..... Tell the 'bad mouther' to toughen up princess!!!

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    Yea I got nothing that hasn't already been said ... I don't think you were in the wrong at all! If she can't suck it up, the problem is clearly hers!

    Although I do like the advice that Callah44 had .. if you ask first then it helps prevent any further conflict.

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    Default Re: Did I do something wrong?

    No wrong done, but some girls will be that way. Just keep workin' it with your head held high. If she is the malicious type though, keep an eye out for her. You did no wrong, but no sense in being naive about the situation. Expect the best, prep for the worst kind of thing.
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    Default Re: Did I do something wrong?

    Quote Originally Posted by callah44 View Post
    Whenever I approach a guy, I always say, "are you waiting for someone?" I don't use this in big clubs that are packed with people unless I see someone with him before, but I always do this in small clubs.
    Very good suggestion, I'll certainly take note of it.

    Thanks, ladies for all your opinions. All of this was what I thought, too. It just seemed so bizarre and unwarranted I had to ask.

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