Has anyone else ever ended a relationship over a regular before? I keep thinking that this is so crazy, but I've never been in this situation before.
So here are the details. I've had this amazing regular since last August. He comes in every thursday night without fail and spends $500 on me. For xmas he bought me a flat screen tv. For my birthday he bought me an apple laptop. We've gone out to dinner occasionally and he'll take me shopping or pay to get my hair done. He calls and texts a lot and is pretty clearly in love with me. But he knows and respects my boundaries and has never initiated a sexual relationship outside of a few dances at the club. At this point I consider him a friend and he's been to my house to help out with some big jobs outside (cleaning out my garage, building a chicken coop, clearing a few acres of land, installing electrical work outside, etc.)
Meanwhile I'd gotten into a relationship around May. Well, we'd been seeing each other a few months prior, but I'd say we got serious around May. I was absolutely crazy about this guy. We had kind of a rocky relationship, but we had a lot of good times and a lot of great sex. But the more he learned about this regular of mine, the more upset he got. I can understand his point but I was reluctant to give up such a good thing. When he forbid me to see my regular outside the club I agreed I wouldn't. That was my mistake. I should have put my foot down and been honest. But I didn't want to fight and possibly lose this guy. And now it's all blown up in my face.
He found out I'd been out with my regular and flipped out. It was a pretty ugly scene. He never got violent, but it was pretty bad nonetheless. I feel terribly guilty and sorry for lying to him, but it's basically too late. And I'm not sure things would be different if I had been honest. We still wouldn't have worked out because I wasn't going to dump my regular.
So am I crazy for choosing a regular over a boyfriend? I really cared about this guy but I'm still scarred from a past relationship. It seems like the smarter thing to do to choose financial security over a relationship that might end badly and leave you with nothing in the end. But it still hurts. Thoughts, anyone?



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