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    Default Re: Dancer "friend" hustling your regular behind your back?

    The way I see it is, even if she is your "friend", she should NOT have been coming up to your guy if ou were already there. Mby his other guys, but not him. However, saying what you said was uncalled for and might've had him seeing you in a different light. Since he's a reg now, it didn't, but in the future, keep the catty-ness to a minimum with new men. I've had guys go for the girl I was bitching about just because, if I was so rude to them, they must be some kind of competition.

    I've had similar situtations. Girls taking my reg on a night I wasn't there and vice versa. I know he got a long VIP from you, but that doesn't mean he didn't want her either.

    Keep him as a reg and try and keep your friendship, but at a distance. Make sure work is a free for all. If a reg wants another girl, nothing can stop him from getting that girl.

    It sucks that your friendship was tested in this way. I really hate that for you. We girls, even though it's a competitive job, need to stick together.

    I hope it's better now.

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    Quote Originally Posted by veronicachick View Post
    I just wanted to add that just because she said she did "ok" doesn't mean she lied. she just didn't feel like sharing with you. I have a very close friend that dances at the same club as I do... at the end of the night sometimes she'll ask how I did and usually I say "I did alright(or something to that effect)." even when maybe I did great that night... because I don't wanna come off as I'm boasting, esp if she had a bad night.
    regardless... she shouldn't have to share every detail with you... I don't see how she "lied" in that situation.
    I see where you're coming from. I still think she's shady and I'm going to stand by that.

    There have been numerous times when she has come up to me in the club braggin' about her money she made, knowing that I was having a mediocre night. I'm not the jealous or competitive type, so I was always happy for her. She was always open to me about $$. That's just the type of friendship we had. We always checked in with each other during or after our shifts to see how we did. It was never a big deal.

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    Quote Originally Posted by hazel_eyes View Post
    The way I see it is, even if she is your "friend", she should NOT have been coming up to your guy if ou were already there. Mby his other guys, but not him. However, saying what you said was uncalled for and might've had him seeing you in a different light. Since he's a reg now, it didn't, but in the future, keep the catty-ness to a minimum with new men. I've had guys go for the girl I was bitching about just because, if I was so rude to them, they must be some kind of competition.

    I've had similar situtations. Girls taking my reg on a night I wasn't there and vice versa. I know he got a long VIP from you, but that doesn't mean he didn't want her either.

    Keep him as a reg and try and keep your friendship, but at a distance. Make sure work is a free for all. If a reg wants another girl, nothing can stop him from getting that girl.

    It sucks that your friendship was tested in this way. I really hate that for you. We girls, even though it's a competitive job, need to stick together.

    I hope it's better now.
    Thanks girl. I agree that guys get turned off by bitchy attitudes. I think this guy actually got a rise out of it. He's really young so he got a kick over two dancers fighting over him. Total ego boost for him! In the future I'm going to try to keep any negativity to a minimum.

    I also agree that it's fair game and he has his open pick of girls he wants to be with. Actually, he has rotated between a few of us at the club. He was coming in weekly for a while.

    He lives out of the country and was just hanging in Vegas for a few months bankin' at the poker tables, so he's probably not going to be back til next year.

    Unfortunately, things aren't better for our friendship. There has been a lot competitiveness that I'm not into to. I think that maybe things will smooth out later, but for now we're taking our space

    I need to remember that the strip club is a superficial environment and to not get my emotions involved.

    Also, beautiful baby!

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    Quote Originally Posted by velvet View Post
    i see as her trying to poach your potentially new customer. that is why she was being vague (did ok) i dont think you did anything wrong.
    so what if he went with her one night. he immediately went off with you the next time without hesitation. customers say stuff all the time they dont mean. maybe he was just telling her he would be back to see her to not be rude. if he really meant it he would have said so or taken you both back!
    you owe her nothing. hustling with others alot of times turns out badly or with hurt feelings.
    Thanks girl. I'm happy to know that some dancers think that I was in the right.

    Working alone is definitely wiser.(mental note).

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    Quote Originally Posted by MissSeoulSista View Post
    I see where you're coming from. I still think she's shady and I'm going to stand by that.

    There have been numerous times when she has come up to me in the club braggin' about her money she made, knowing that I was having a mediocre night. I'm not the jealous or competitive type, so I was always happy for her. She was always open to me about $$. That's just the type of friendship we had. We always checked in with each other during or after our shifts to see how we did. It was never a big deal.

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    i see. well the fact that she usually brags and ommitted this information I can see why it would raise flags.

    would you have considered her a good friend up until this? if shes a shady friend I would immediately cut her loose. but if shes been supportive up until now, is there anyway to put this in the past and be more cautious from now on?

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    Quote Originally Posted by veronicachick View Post
    i see. well the fact that she usually brags and ommitted this information I can see why it would raise flags.

    would you have considered her a good friend up until this? if shes a shady friend I would immediately cut her loose. but if shes been supportive up until now, is there anyway to put this in the past and be more cautious from now on?
    I did consider her a good friend until this incident. Then she continued to ride off of my hustle, but never did me any favors in return. I've gotten her VIPs by telling my customers "let's play with another girl". She hasn't hooked me up once. She just takes, but never gives back. I give people to many chances thinking they'll change. I guess that's my naive side.

    I'm not into holding grudges so I'll try to make amends with her. Although, I'll definitely keep a healthy distance from her.

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    Default Re: Dancer "friend" hustling your regular behind your back?

    just getting dances from him was fine because you werent there
    not telling you was iffy
    the text was totally over the top
    im all for asking every guy every time, and screw the girls that act like theyre married to their customers, but the texting shit was out of line- bottom line- you got him in the vip that time, she gt him the next and you got him this time
    so hes fair game for whoever gets him whenever he comes in
    and no- that girl is not your friend
    dont forget the most important dancer rule: trust no ho
    "i dont mind living in a mans world, as long a s i can be a woman in it"- marilyn monroe

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    Being friends with someone you strip in the same club with is really hard, and situation will arise now and then where you have to suck up any butthurtness in regards to money because you value the friendship more. I mean, it's a decision you make and stick to before any of this crap starts happening.

    I can see why this upset you. But I'm also thinking that I would have at least invited her out with me. Give her a chance to redeem herself! Were you trying to date the guy? I'm a little confused as to why you didn't just double hustle him after realizing he liked both of you. He's a customer; some dude. She's your girl. It doesn't seem worth it to get into a huge fight about it.

    It's not that you shouldn't be pissed about this. It's more like you need to reassess your priorities in this situation so stuff like this doesn't upset to the point where you're ready to stop being friends with your girl over it.
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