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Last edited by BirdofEden; 03-16-2009 at 07:15 AM.





Wow, my first thought was to tell you that maybe being in this isn't for you.
But, if you have a genuine interest in trying to be more social just walk up to someone and introduce yourself. Smile, ask his name. Ask what brought him into the club etc, etc.
Some Douchebag: "[Pimp C] 12:43 am: its true we got to stick together the black people on SW CK you is teh condoleeza of SW"
I usually walk up to em.. introduce myself and ask his name... ask where they are form.. what they like to do... just basic small talk questions.
I have a tough time with regular social conversations. But when it comes to work, I just pretend I am an actor in a play, and my role is that of (insert inspiring sex goddess here). I used to "play" Marilyn Monroe when at work. Even though I look nothing like her aside from being blonde, customers would always tell me how I reminded them of Marilyn Monroe.
The key is the acting. You can go even further to include body language cues to your customers. Try reading SuperFlirt by Tracey Cox. Every stripper should read that book. Customers base their decisions on what they see more than what they hear. If your body language is sending the wrong signal, it doesn't matter how marvelous of a speaker you are, he still isn't going to buy dances.
Promote yourself and earn more money! This is a business that is owned by strippers for strippers. Let's make that money!
I would say find more interesting topics of conversation. Of course you don't want to know his name, what he does, what he likes to drink, etc.
Sex is always a good topic. Its football season now so maybe you could watch a couple games if football is popular in your area. (The first game or two might be hard, but it will get more interesting as you start to learn more about it.)
There's also internet porn and weather. I'll add more if I think of anything else...
Believe it or not, "nice shirt" is one of the best pickup lines I have ever used. The funny thing is I only said it when I REALLY liked the guy's shirt!!! Instant rapport though. I have heard guys tell stories of a dancer they liked that complimented them right away. I.e., Bald heads: "Ooh, I loooove bald heads! Bald heads are so sexy- they remind me of sex!" I know how dumb it sounds to you and me, but a guy once told me a dancer said this to him and he adored her for it. Its true. Everybody loves a compliment.
Good luck.![]()
Practice really does make perfect in this area. You might consider reading some books on sales techniques and then tweak them to fit stripping. At least that way you have a starting point and some ideas on how to turn conversations towards your goal of making money.




this is my problem. i can't & won't pretend to be interested in uninteresting, pervy assholes. even when i TRY i'm not a convincing friendly-peppy type.
i perform as myself in my club & when i work outside of it at raves, parties, etc. i am a performer before a strip club worker & because of this i take everything customers say way personally. i am way too proud for this business & have just finallly accepted that stage performance is only a miniscule part of the whole thing & the rest of it is not for me.
i'm cutting down to one shift a week to curb inevitable burnout...maybe i will be able to continue, maybe not. good luck.




This is a hard one. I mean, talking is hard to talk about.
I never follow the routine, simply because I forget to do it. Sometimes I won't even introduce myself right away. I always have something to make myself stand out, so the guys will start the conversation; 'that's an awesome outfit!' or 'that's the coolest purse I've ever seen!' 'I love your short hair!' I always thought it was just a cliche saying, but it's true: people love to talk about themselves. Too much. Get them on a subject and you're fine for the next 5-10 minutes. We have TV's, so sometimes one of us will bring up something on the TV. No matter how bored I am, I pretend to be interested. Thinking of the money that follows is a good motivation, or I'll think about a guy I like or something and I instantly get more bubbly. Stating the obvious is also fun, 'so, just hanging out with the guys?' 'I see you like dogs!' 'You must've just gotten off of work!'
Anyways, I'm rambling... I think the biggest thing is to just not worry about it so much, and it'll come more naturally. I don't believe in awkward silences, just awkward people.
There's only so much you can learn in one place...
The longer you wait, the more time that you waste.



Just don't be you - play a part!
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