Guys go in with expectations...
It's the dancer's responsibility to know beforehand what the guy expects before going in.
I'm not saying the guy's reaction was right. I'm saying that I think I know why he did what he did. He felt jilted. That doesn't make his reaction to what he felt or thought right by me. The right thing to do would've been to explain that he went in with higher expectations, because that's what the other girls do, if he didn't plan beforehand. The preferred thing to do would be to ask beforehand what he was going to get. That's why you lay the cards out on the table before you enter the situation, and that is both party's responsibility. Because then, when the manager says something, you can say that you went into the situation with his knowledge that there was to be no touching or licking, which was in general expected out of the more "trashy" (not that I agree with that opinion) dancers, and probably, in general.
No matter what, take responsibility for whatever happens. That's the way to learn and become better at whatever you do. If you go around in the world blaming everyone else for everything that happens, you never learn what you can improve on.... It's about learning to win, not learning to blame and therefore lose. So you got an offhand lick... what can you learn from the situation besides, "I've been assaulted and they were against me!" Why were you "assaulted", and how can you avoid it in the future? The environment is what it is, learn to adapt and win, not fight it and lose. (And I'm not saying I ever did that in the past lol).

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