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    My Boyfriend can't get in.....Help!

    i might be getting a job at a local club, and we went in and checked the place out and all the good stuff, and i told one of the bouncers that my fiance' was just a "friend" and they said no way. what can i do to get him in with out getting in trouble. please help!!!

    please, don't post anything about him starting anything he was the one who encouraged me to do this!

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    I'm confused; why do you want your BF to be in the club? Are you talking about they wouldn't let him in while you were working (understandable), or they just wouldn't let him in when you were going to the club as customers (strange)...?
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    ^^^I'm confused too. I totally understand them not letting him in if she's working, but otherwise that makes no sense.

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    Default Re: My Boyfriend can't get in.....Help!

    they won't let him in, i want him there i want to know how to get him in with out getting trouble, while im working.

    i just want to know that he can come in and check on me without getting hassled, it's not like i want him there every night i just want the reassureance that he can come in any time with out getting harassed

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    Default Re: My Boyfriend can't get in.....Help!

    You are asking for trouble. I have ran enough clubs to be able to tell you this will lead to nothing but trouble. I would not push this issue.

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    do you go to his work and 'check on him' - would they be as understanding if you popped up behind him every now and then to see if all is in order?

    hmmm...

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    Default Re: My Boyfriend can't get in.....Help!

    no, but it's a club that he's been going to since his 18th b-day and he's pissed that now that im working there he can't get in anymore.
    he works at a restaurant, and it would be like i can't eat there any more because he works there.

    What could happen if he gets in and they find out?

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    I've seen girls get fined and fired over it. More often that not it's for your own good. It can create a weird dynamic when your SO is there while you're working. He shouldn't need to pop in to check on you while you're at work.

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    thanx

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    Default Re: My Boyfriend can't get in.....Help!

    he can still go there.... just not while you're working. boyfriends are never allowed in the club when you're on shift. it's like that everywhere.

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    This is a pretty standard rule for any bar, not just strip clubs. The main problem is with bf's that are really pimps causing problems w/ the clubs. Since it is illegal for a club to say "We think your BF is a pimp, so he can't come in anymore" they simply have a no boyfriends/husbands/girlfriends/wives (depending on which way you swing) allowed during your shift.

    Most clubs don't allow off duty dancers to hang out, either. Unless you are in Oregon. That is the only place I've ever worked where girls party at work on their days off w/o issue.


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    Yeah, as much as I love my guy coming in to see me at work because he's cool, I've seen a lot of boyfriends cause problems. It's easier for them to just ban boyfriends altogether than weed out the particulars of your relationship.

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    Yeah, a lot of it is that mgt assumes, whether right or wrong, that he will cause trouble, because he'll get jealous or that you will spend time sitting with him instead of working or you'll get jealous if another girl sits with him. The pimp thing is also true.

    While my husband used to come in on slow nights, if it would pick up, it just felt odd flirting with other guys in front of him, so I wouldn't. He doesn't come in anymore. It led to arguements between us.

    No matter how much you think it will work out, there may be one day when it won't, and then you'll be out of a club or relationship. Keep work and your social life seperate.

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    I agree with the other posts they won't let him in while you're working for a reason, it always ends up with some kind of drama, even though he might not be there to cause it, it almost always ends up this way. it's not worth getting fined or fired for it.
    Do yourself a favor and discourage him from doing so, if he likes going to this club so much he can go when you are not working.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris View Post
    Most clubs don't allow off duty dancers to hang out, either. Unless you are in Oregon. That is the only place I've ever worked where girls party at work on their days off w/o issue.
    You can here!

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    I wouldn't want my SO at the club while I'm working anyway. When I'm working at the SC, I'm like a different person. It's all a big fun, fantasy game to me. There would be no way I could 'perform' knowing someone so close to me is watching.
    There are many reasons why mngmt won't let boyfriends in. If the club you're working at is sketchy to the point that you want someone to check in on you now and again you might want to find another club. But, if that isnt a problem just give him a call on the phone some point during shift to let him know how you're doing.

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    Here is a GREAT example of why many places don't allow boyfriends/husbands at the club. Please do read:

    http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sho...d.php?t=123836

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    What club are you at? pm me if u dont wanna say here.
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    I had a friend whose bf would come watch her dance all the time. While he loved watching her dance and she loved him watching, she never made much money and didn't last long.

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    Sweets, this is just the policy of clubs. Your boyfriend can't and shouldn't come in, esp at first. Nothing against him just how it is always.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris View Post

    Most clubs don't allow off duty dancers to hang out, either. Unless you are in Oregon. That is the only place I've ever worked where girls party at work on their days off w/o issue.
    Quote Originally Posted by austinatalie View Post
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    Here too. A lot of girls get done with their shift, change, and hang out at the bar (with other girls or their regulars), eat dinner, etc. You can also come in on your days off and hang out.
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    Yeah like it was said it isnt something you can get around. If you want him to be able to come in(though trust me you dont...you'll end up hanging with him instead of making money or being self conscious or getting mad when other dancers flirt and try to hustle him) you cant bring him with you EVER ...cant be seen having him pick you up or drop you off...nada.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nautilus View Post
    do you go to his work and 'check on him' - would they be as understanding if you popped up behind him every now and then to see if all is in order?

    hmmm...
    Exactly...great comparison. My husband is VERY supportive, and he knows he can go check out the club I chose ONE time before I start working, but then after that...his butt belongs on the couch at home. It only makes sense, in my opinion. But I'm just a greenhorn, so what do I know?
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    Quote Originally Posted by lildreamer316 View Post
    Here is a GREAT example of why many places don't allow boyfriends/husbands at the club. Please do read:

    http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sho...d.php?t=123836

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