I also wanted to add.
If I were you I wouldn't have a picture of myself in my avatar if I was trying to keep "stripping" a secret. You really never know if anyone from your school might read this forum.



I also wanted to add.
If I were you I wouldn't have a picture of myself in my avatar if I was trying to keep "stripping" a secret. You really never know if anyone from your school might read this forum.




Or...you could just be open about dancing, and save yourself a lot of energy and trouble. Letting potential friends (and even potential boyfriends!) know right up front that you dance is a great way to weed out judgmental fickle people who might act like true friends but would turn on you if they ever found out. Why waste your time with people that you feel you have to lie to? Might as well just find out right off the bat who has the potential to be a true friend who accepts you for who you are, and who doesn't.
~'A Seven Nation Army Couldn't Hold Me Back'~




^ Thank you. That was kinda what I wanted to say.




I think i'm gonna let one friend know today but i don't know if i could let the rest know just yet...
Its almost like being gay and comming out of the closet. There is nothing wrong with be gay, but you just don't know who is offended by it and who isn't. And even though you want people to accept you for who you are and let them know that the you they know, is still the same person......but its easier said than done....lol (like some lifetime drama shii)
But i'm gonna tell my gay friend today cause i think he would understand better than anyone (i might be wrong), but i need atleast one confidant while i'm here or else i'll go crazy
I was pretty open about dancing when I was in college... though in Portland, the atmosphere is pretty different since there are lots of 'cool' clubs. It did come to bite me in the ass at one point after I had graduated (there was an incident where, basically, it was someone's character judgement of me against mine or theirs... nasty stuff). Other than that, I also balanced dancing w/ having a real 'job' in the administrative side also.




^I know!!!!! You're like my long lost twin or something![]()
I'm loving this thread. I asked the girls I work with this same question and most of them told me to go with the "I'm staying the night at my boyfriend's house" answer but I don't think it would fly with me either since I'm normally really open with my friends and they would wonder what was really going on since I was so vague. I've been telling people I do promotions, like someone mentioned earlier, but even that gets tricky after awhile. Maybe I will "apply" and "get hired" at UPS for an overnight job soon ... hehe
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I am, however, very concerned about hair syphillis. I can't seem to find any information about this horrible disease caused by high heels. Somebody please, help me out here before I catch it.
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What you think about and thank about, you bring about. xox Lexi
I was living in the dorms last year.... I told my roommate and she was cool. no1 else in the dorms knew because really it was none of the business. and they had no reason to suspect... when I went to work I was dressed normally with a bookbag(what i use to take my stripper stuff back and forth). for all they knew I was going to study. if sum1 ever asked me where I work I'd say I was a waitress... but honestly it wasnt that hard hiding it.
Good perspective and I have done this in the past, but found that while you weed some people out to begin with - you gain the annoyance of dealing with all those people you don't know very well who have heard that you're "The Stripper" and have reactions to that, varying from downright disgust to openmouthed excitement, and all expecting you to be something outlandish. These are not friends but may be friends of friends, acquaintances, classmates, coworkers, etc.
Much worse than that, though, is the guys who will try to be your friend once they hear about your profession. If they're good at it, they can fool you into really thinking that they like you - but all the while they're just hoping to score with "The Stripper." This profession seems to make it easier for some men to forget our humanity.
If you can wade your way through all that crap, though, honesty and openness is a great policy. I may consider it in a few years when I am not in a college environment and have more choice about the people who surround me.
I'll be watching this thread though. I move into an apartment with 3 acquaintances in a week and am really hoping to conceal dancing from them. BTW, if you say that you waitress or bartend everyone WILL ask you where you work and want to visit. Hehehaha and cadenceq had good ideas about how to get out of that, though.
Def agree with cinnamonkisses. If you work in a bar everyone will want to go. "my friends only 19, can we go to your bar in the get them in?" "how did you learn to make all those drinks?" "can you get me a job there?" "how much do you make?"
Too much lying involved so yeah, "get" a boring night job.
Just use your digression on who you tell.
There are professional reasons as well as personal reasons why people keep our job a secret. [Maybe you dont want people to have negitive judgement, or just have some guy follow you around thinking you're easy?]
Its not like when you first meet someone you say "Hi, I'm ____ and I'm a stripper!"
I just tell people that i'm unsure of that I work Customer service in sales. [Hey, what we do is a service for the people and we sell dances.] There is also a phone in our dressing room, so I also say that I answer phones too.
That already sounds boring.
If they ask for details, just say you talk to customers and find out what service they need [a vip? a few dances?] and help them out.
You can also say "im a hostess in a club or bar" Since there is idle chit-chat in the club. Just say you've met a lot of interesting people around the world.. even though thats a small hint that you're a dancer.
Just use your digression and use your instinct!
As I stated in a previous post, I would really stick with the boring night job and tell everyone who inquires just that. I wouldn't tell anyone that I stripped. Life is already complicated enough, why make it more complicated by telling your secrets to people? It's like writing your own autobiography or movie and saying really bad stuff about yourself. Who does that?! Then you have to wake up and face the world knowing that you told on yourself. And, that you brought on all this drama when it could have been a secret. It might be tempting to tell someone as a confidant but that's what this webpage is for. This webpage is an entire network of confidants. Plus, you are in college and need to concentrate on studying rather than social drama that might occur because somebody leaked out your secret.
When I was in college, there was a girl that I knew (a friend of my roommate) who stripped but by the time the "gossip/information" got to me, the story changed to her being an escort who is on-call to have sex with the entire football team, any player at a moments notice. Remember the telephone game that you played in elementary school when the first person whispers something into their neighbors ear and by the time it makes it to the end, it's a completely different sentence. That's a prime example.
If you must tell someone, then create a thread that says in the subject line in all capital letters, "HI, EVERYONE!!!! I AM A STRIPPER!!!!!! WOO-HOO!!!!"




well, that's true...you make a good case for not telling people. It just sucks and is stressful to have to go around hiding and lying and covering for yourself...and wondering if your friends would treat you differently if they knew.
~'A Seven Nation Army Couldn't Hold Me Back'~
What if you said you were a waitress at a 24 hour restaurant like Dennys or IHOP. No one will want to come see you, envisioning a room full of truckers at 1 am. And it would explain some of your cash.
^ no, I think she needs to work a job where there is zero possibility they could try to visit her there and find out Mia is MIA (ha ha, Missing In Action, it's a pun) at Denny's or some bar etc. UPS, phone person, nurse, etc works.
^ true.




I told my gay friend and he took it sooooo well. He said he was perfectly fine with it and actually wanted to see my outfits and shoes!!! lol. Thats all i need right now is one friend here that i can be open and honest with. It was like a huge weight off my chest when i told him.... but thats all i feel confident with sharing...no matter how comfortable i am with stripping....i just can't handle all the drama that would come with telling people who don't understand....



I'm glad that you have him to confide in. We all need that. Did you make sure he wouldn't tell anyone?
"I Can Sell Raid To A Bug. i'm A Hustler I Can Sell Salt To A Slug" -Cassidy



^^^LOL. I still pinky swear.
"I Can Sell Raid To A Bug. i'm A Hustler I Can Sell Salt To A Slug" -Cassidy
Mia I told my gay boy the news first too and he was super excited and wanted to do it too lol and to this day he is who I go to when I want to vent about work and he loves the stories.
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