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"I Can Sell Raid To A Bug. i'm A Hustler I Can Sell Salt To A Slug" -Cassidy
omg. my gay friend loves the fact that I'm a stripper too! he wishes he could be one himself.
Also, it might really help you if you started up a little blog (a private LJ might be better, actually) where you can write down everything every night when you get home and are winding down. So good to vent!![]()
Say you are doing adult day care. No one will want to come visit you at work! LOL! Sitting up with old people all night sounds terribly boring and I bet a lot of our work stories could be translated into nursing home stories instead.
Promote yourself and earn more money! This is a business that is owned by strippers for strippers. Let's make that money!




Then i'll be upset but i'll deal with it. I asked him not too, and we had an understanding. And him being gay (and not out of the closet to alot of people) makes him more than understanding of why this is a secret and why it should stay that way.
And i needed just ONE person atleast to be there for me... just incase something pops off at work, he can be someone who knows where i am and i can call if i need help or an emergency....or if i just need a place to shower before i come back to my room....or really need to talk to about my job....that will be my one friend...



Haven't read the whole thing so apologies if some of this has already been said, but I keep my dancing from all my fam and a few friends too, so...
Incriminating evidence: Keep all stuff in a club locker or the trunk of your car, do your laundry when your roomies are gone or at a laundrymat if you're really paranoid.
Alibi: I work PT at a 24-hour call center and it's a GREAT alibi b/c it explains the late hours, and nobody wants to visit, and I can easily say they're not allowed if they do (which is true).
Third parties: Be VERY stingy with your cell number, b/c in your situation trying to cultivate regulars is going to be more stress than it's worth. Actually IMHO regs are usually more trouble than they're worth in most situations, and I do just fine without em ;p



My niece in Philly tells her friends and probably potential dates that she has an elderly distant relative who lives all alone an hour away and that she spends time with her when her paid-companion is off-duty in exchange for tuition help.
Works like a charm,she's starting law school soon! Few people will cross that "elderly relative" line if you're convincing and cover all your other tracks.
She has 2 cel phones and "juggles" them accordingly.She never gives out the address of where she spends her "working time" and tells people that she is also writing a novel and doesn't like to be disturbed then either because that's when she is writing.
Ditto to all the cover your tracks suggestions...be elusive and complicated,she is and it works for her,she is making damn good money!
She also lives alone by choice and is very focused,gorgeous,and has a firm plan...I respect her a lot!
I am one of the few in the family who "know the truth" and that's because she knows she can trust me...everyone else thinks she's a struggling student who waitresses.


I started stripping while I was going to a college of less than 800 people and living on campus. I drove about an hour to the club I worked at so I wouldn't run into anyone from school. I never gave any explanation...needless to say I didn't have much of a social life.
OH! One girl at the school HAD been a stripper and made the mistake of telling someone...it was pretty much common knowledge that she was the "stripper chick" on campus. I didn't want to usurp that title!
^ don't work in clubs in your hometown or anywhere near it or don't strip.
And I think it's very hypocritical of your family to condone visiting strip clubs, but to condemn strippers.



When i was living in a house with 5 other girls and didn't want them to know i danced, i told them i worked at a private members bar in the town we lived. They knew the bar and though they were curious they knew that they couldn't come in because it was members only and i couldnt get them membership. I used to hand wash and dry my stripper wear in my room so they never knew.

just wrote you on your other post(the one that's like a full length book long) about the bf....funny, foudn this one, and it was kind of what I was saying about not putting your biz out too quick. ie: truste the bf of two months, but now HE KNOWS your real deal, and what happens when the Fucked up crazy ass ex finds out????
Keep it on the DL...you are in a new place and sounds like you'll be here for awhile with school.
here's some great excuses:
You are a nanny/baby sitter
you take care of an elderly person
(get paid bank to do it, so dont mind giving up the weekends!explains your financial comfort from dancing too! same excuse for big money and working on the weekends goes for all of these)
you work/volunteer at a hospital
(though I don't think volunteering on fri/sat could pass)
say you work at the casinos in AC!!!
another 24 hour spot, just say you work as someone your friend's could not "visit" or see on the floor....maybe a cocktail waitress in the poker room, etc.. (certain rooms are vip only, so your friends could never get in...just know a little about what your talking about) you could even say your shift ends at 12:00, 12:30, but by the time you get out of there and get home it's almost 2!
Work front desk at a gym or better, a private gym/studio (homebased, non-advertised, no looking anything up!)
in Delaware, or South Jersey at 5 or 6 am in the morning (whenever they open?) so you HAVE to sleep, and can only go out early evening on weekends(before your shift starts!)
There's a lot of "fake" jobs that work for this scenario
Rule of thumb: don't talk about your made up job too much! Make up some BASIC details, nothing eleborate.
I don't share my work life with my personal life, though the urge to share a story or let something slip by accident comes up all the time....hence we have the support of our fellow dancers right here!
I think this is the best, and healthiest, not to mention safest way for us to share our "work life" with each other.


Great idea w/ UPS. I agree w/ Sveta on the friends thing. I use to tell my friends I worked for a caterer when I first started dancing and hadn't told them the truth yet. The makeup is hard to explain if you don't take it off before hanging out after work or on your way out. I've never liked getting ready in a crowded dressing room. Any friend that is going to judge you after they already know you is not a real friend, and you don't need them. I tell almost everyone now after they get to know me. Uptight family is different, and my son is getting older too (almost 4), so I really don't know what to tell him when he's old enough to understand more. The work bag and taking makeup to work is obvious. He helps me out to the car w/ my suitcase... so sweet I feel guilty. I need to just have another baby and retire.![]()
Keela
I am a mother with a boy in primary school!! It is sooo hard, I think and I hace certainly learnt that you should keep work at work and never talk about it with anybody that has nothing to do with it. Do you have a locker at your work? Keep your shoes and dresses and what ever else that is related to stripping in there. As for your make up just put it on when you get to work and take it off with those cleansing wipes as you finish. The only worry you have is if someone you know from school comes in. That is a risk we all take .........



it shouldn't be hard to hide it from your friends...most people assume college kids do not have a job anyway, so unless you are blinging it, no one is gonna question what you do for money since its assumed you are living on loans, scholarships or your parents money. As for your roomates...tell em you are gonna spend some time at your bfs house or something? or if its too hard maybe considering getting a studio to yourself?
^ good advice! Listen to this lady.
This is fantastic advice. I, for one, don't hide what I do, but I don't go around talking about it either. It's a little scary since my father is a professor at my school, (in one of my major departments, no less) but my school is so large that rumors don't really fly outside of close-knit social groups.
I've had some people be judgmental of my job, and that's their ignorance closing their minds. Their loss.
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