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    Default Looks like I will be hanging up my heels within a year.

    So, for those who don't know, my man is in Kansas working for a custom harvest crew driving a truck. He is being paid very well for the area, loves the job, loves the company, and is currently a foreman. The company is set to grow quickly and he wants to be a part of that. His best friend and his BF's brother are also out there. The crew lives in trailer houses. Nice ones that were custom built for the company.

    So he left on April 15 of this year and has been out there ever since. He also had worked 2 months last fall. While he was gone, we talked on the phone and/or chatted online nearly every day. I drove out from Connecticut at the beginning of this month (Sept) to visit him for about 2 weeks. And arrived home late Tuesday night.

    The company wants to hang onto the three guys so much that they've offered to pay them their regular salary through the winter. This is unheard of for a harvesting company. It shows how much dedication they have to their employees.

    I like the area a lot. No traffic. It's a smaller town, but there are plenty of businesses. Much of the town is farmland with crops growing. Houses are much less expensive. Life runs slower. It is in the bible belt, but nobody's pressured. There are no strip clubs within reasonable driving distance and the people there would not be accepting of such a thing.. The town is also about 4 hours away from one of my uncles and three of my cousins and their families.

    So now we are trying to figure out the logistics so that my man can continue to work for the company while I continue to plan the wedding, without going too long in between seeing each other. We are getting the plan together.

    After we are married, we both want to start our own family. Kansas looks like an affordable place to do so for us.

    I'm not really sure how I feel about hanging up my heels for good. It means another part of my life has passed me by, but it gives me the opportunity to grow up and move on. I've wanted to have kids for some time now. Even now, not having danced for about 3 weeks and knowing I should work tonight, I'm not even sure I want to go in. But I need to. Living on just his income worked for a little while, but now I need to get back to it.

    Wish me luck!
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    Default Re: Looks like I will be hanging up my heels within a year.

    Good luck! Just make sure this is actually what you want to do, and you're not just doing it for him.
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    Default Re: Looks like I will be hanging up my heels within a year.

    I been to Kansas City before, it was alright. I ate some steak.

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    Default Re: Looks like I will be hanging up my heels within a year.

    Quote Originally Posted by Sveta View Post
    Good luck! Just make sure this is actually what you want to do, and you're not just doing it for him.
    Word up. Please tuck aside a little freedom fund to keep you safe while you go on a new adventure.

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    Default Re: Looks like I will be hanging up my heels within a year.

    During the visit it was clear that we need to be together. Being apart too long is not only no fun, but painful emotionally.

    He and I had a lengthy discussion while I was visiting. He wants what is best for us and for me. This was not something he or I took lightly. There are other possibilities and options, and if I'd decided that I didn't want to move out there, he would have permanently come back east here to be with me.

    I am seeing what he is seeing. It is a place with less stress, the promise of good work with excellent pay for the cost of living, and where we really COULD afford a house and a family. Rent in that area is easily less than half for the same dwelling type than it is here in the east. He's effectively been living there for 7+ months out of the last year. I was there only 2 weeks, but on my drive back home it really sunk in how different - in a good way - Kansas was.
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    Default Re: Looks like I will be hanging up my heels within a year.

    Quote Originally Posted by AznExtasy View Post
    I been to Kansas City before, it was alright. I ate some steak.

    haha this cracked me up

    to the OP it sounds like you have thought this out but good luck. Also you can always travel to dance, even once in a while. Maybe when you come back east (wherever you are) to visit family and friends, you can dance a few nights just for fun or for extra income. You never have to hang up your heels for good. Maybe toss them in the closet or in the storage unit, but not the garbage can.

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    Default Re: Looks like I will be hanging up my heels within a year.

    Good luck to you! Sounds like you both have thought out the pro (and hopefully the cons) of such a major decision. Getting married and hanging up the heels (like I did) is rough, but it can be done and we'll all have to hang them up eventually.
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    Default Re: Looks like I will be hanging up my heels within a year.

    I went to your website and saw you modeled- maybe you could still do some of that there? I modeled a little bit this summer and I live in a tiny tiny town in the midwest so that might still be a fun way to express yourself! If not, you'll still be beautiful

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    Default Re: Looks like I will be hanging up my heels within a year.

    Sounds like you are getting excited about the change of direction your life is going in.

    I've settled here in the Midwest. I love it. I'm not dancing now, but I danced enough to pay off all my school debt and come out here free and clear. Every thing is cheaper and life is a nice, slow stroll in the park. lol Not for everyone of course. But for raising a family, owning property and all that good stuff,....Perfect!
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    Default Re: Looks like I will be hanging up my heels within a year.

    Quote Originally Posted by gracieS View Post
    I went to your website and saw you modeled- maybe you could still do some of that there? I modeled a little bit this summer and I live in a tiny tiny town in the midwest so that might still be a fun way to express yourself! If not, you'll still be beautiful
    Yes, modeling is still a possibility. And thanks for the compliment.

    To the person who suggested I could travel to dance, that is a possibility, just not sure how interested I'll be/possible it will be considering my guy and I would both like to start a family. At age 31, my clock is ticking, and I can't wait to have my own family. Been ready for it for a while now.
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    Default Re: Looks like I will be hanging up my heels within a year.

    Changing careers and getting married and moving to a new city can be stressful, to say the least. Be prepared for emotional upheavals For the first 6 months to a year.

    I know when I hung up the heels, I had mood swings, battled depression and felt generally lost for a while. Although I had no strong desire to return to dancing, I also felt like I lost a bit of my personal identity. I had little focus (although I did have a job) on anything and would spend days at a time sitting on my couch.

    Just saying that you should expect an emotional upheaval on par with becoming a new parent or moving to a foreign country. If you know what is coming it will be much easier to anticipate your reactions.


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    Default Re: Looks like I will be hanging up my heels within a year.

    Oh man the good old midwest. You know I never really thought I'd miss breathing fresh air, not having neighbors, not having police helicoptors constantly circling the neighborhoods, loud sirens, kids throwing rocks at your windows(well my windows anyways),and the fucking pollution. The midwest really is kind of a place all in its own. The people are different there. Yes, they are more conservative, but they are nice. I don't think I've met people as nice as I did the ones from the midwest. That's why I think I always get along better with people from the midwest, especially the customers in the strip club. I don't know what it is, but the whole aura is so mellow. The grass is real, there's lots of trees and oxygen, flowers, seasons, rain. Jeez, all the things I don't have where I live. (I live in the fricken desert). I remember when I went back home to Wisconsin one time and my mom wanted me to move back, so I did. I was under a lot of pressure making money in Vegas at the time since 9/11 had happend in recent months, so I figured why the hell not. Man, as soon as I got there, it was like a big ton of bricks was just lifted from my shoulders. The air was so clean I could actually think clearly and just felt so much different. I love the country, and I want to buy a huge ranch and have a garden and lots and lots of trees. I really did not want to leave the midwest because I had gotten comfortable with the life style and I then had a baby to think of. My husband wanted to leave so we could live our dream of owning our own business. Well now we do, but I miss the midwest. I don't miss the freezing cold winters or the fricken tornadoes in summer, but its such beautiful country. Well, I think you will really like it there. It kind of sounds like you already taken a liking to the place. If your man has a promising job and it places you in a comfortable earning situation compared to cost of living, then hey, you really have nothing to lose. You could always plan stripping trips to other close by cities or back in CT if you really want to continue stripping. I know in Wisconsin, clubs were hella far away and sometimes I had to drive almost two hours one way. But, if you like the money you will figure out a way. There is money to be made everwhere and the midwest is no exception. I'm sure you will make the right decision, based on your best interests and always know you have options if you look.

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