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    Default Re: Meeting guys OTC? is this considered normal?

    To me, it seems somewhat unsafe and may make the guy assume he'l be getting laid.
    I've met a guy for lunch once, but that was it. I later regretted it. Its pretty obvious to me that if a guy wants to take me OTC either for lunch, shopping or to lavish gifts on me he is expecting sex in return. The only outcome to going out with them is to either (1) drag them along for a while, in hopes that they'll spend more money and then eventually when you tell them that there will never be sex, it'll all end or (2) have sex with them in exchange for money/gifts.

    I've had guys tell me they'll fly me all over the place for a vacation and tell me they'll give me all sorts of gifts, but I figure that means they will want sex in return. Since I'm not down with it, I don't except.

    I should add that I've never been propositioned by someone I found attractive yet. And I should add I'm in a relationship. Those are two big caveats.
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    I'll meet up with a good regular OTC but I am always very clear with my intentions and expectations. I also usually do it before work so the day can't drag on or end up elsewhere because "I have to go to work."
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    I feel that guys looking to meet OTC are looking for some type of sexual favors. I would never meet OTC because I do not provide the services most of those customers are looking for. Also my price expectations for leaving the safety of the club, hiring security, being seen with the guy, etc are very, very hire. By the time I'm done running numbers and stating rules, the guy would be better off hiring a professional escort who will satisfy him financially and sexually.

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    ^^ i agree 100%, most of them will assume that something more will come of it anyway & if they're a good regular you run the risk of losing money. So IMO it's not a good idea.
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    When i first started dancing it was the norm(at my club) to go to lunch/dinner with customers for $$. I had a guy who I would go to lunch or dinner with before work, and i charged him $100 per hour minimum of 2 hours for a lunch and 3 for dinner. We met like 3x a week and when i moved to TX, I found out they didn't do that here . Plus im not totally familiar with the area, making it less safe imo.


    ETA: I wouldn't do it again, the guy was embarrassing to be with for multiple reasons and it felt weird even though it was innocent.

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    Used to meet with one of the regulars at the restaurants across the street all the time, but everyone from our clubs hung out there, it was usually with other girls, and he was friends with the management so it wasn't really a prob. He'd buy drinks and dinner, but he was the type who'd spend on his male friends, too.

    But I think that's an exception...

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    I've done it once and met the sweetest guy in NYC (I seriously swear).

    He doesn't want me to wear makeup when I come over. He pays me $100 an hour to hang out at his pool. While I'm tanning, he grills a giant steak for me and I smoke his pot We talk about anything and everything, and its lovely. He's one of the most genuine people I've ever met, and a pleasure to see. I always see him when I'm back in the city.

    I started sleeping with him on the fifth date like the above...but it was because I WANTED to. Yes, he gives me more money then, and for some reason I feel like I've deserved it- so I'm not really sure what my motives are, but I'm fine with that.

    I've met a friend for life in this guy, he'd do ANYTHING to help me out if I ever were in a bind. I feel lucky that of all the girls in that club, he became smitten for me.

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    i think "normal" depends on the area
    i've done lunches, shopping and gambling OTC (always in public places) starting at $300 for lunch and/or if he buys me smthg purty. i wont do it if i think it'll jeopardize my itc relationship with them, and absolutely no hanky-panky- they're just paying for the pleasure of my company
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    Quote Originally Posted by holiday View Post
    I've met a guy for lunch once, but that was it. I later regretted it.
    Same thing for me too. I had one regular (had been customer for well over a year) who was seriously in love with me. I let him take me out to dinner ($600) and I was with him for all of 2hrs. Another time, he took me and my friend out to dinner and later spent $$$ on both of us ITC. We also went on a lunch date once.

    In the end, it just didn't work out. After allowing him to meet me OTC, my $$$ increased TONS by him (he was shelling out $1K/visit) but it also came with more personal requests for OTC such as coming to his house to go swimming or watch TV.

    As much as I loved his money, lol, I had to leave him alone. Hell, I have quite a few threads about this guy. I am 98% positive I will NEVER meet another man OTC again.







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    I view OTC meetings as a prelude to a sexual relationship. Sort of paid "dating" before being paid for sexual services. You need to be very careful when moving an in-club relationship away from the club with someone you wouldn't normally give the time of day to. You two should at least have some kind rapport before moving OTC.

    If you find yourself uncomfortable in any way, just bail on the date. Trust your gut and realize that no amount of money will matter if you aren't alive to spend it.

    I have had OTC meetings a few times, but not often. If my first thought is "This guy better be paying me well to put up with this" then I know I don't need to pursue the relationship. Never did I take money in exchange for sex. That isn't to say that I've never had sex with and OTC customer, but that was something entirely separate and ended the professional relationship once it became intimate (enjoyed time with a couple who were wonderful customers and hired me for bachelor party work). I consider them good friends now, and would never charge them for company or affection again.


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    i will NEVER!

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    VERY rarely and usually only with guys I consider "friends" as well as customers. (a cpl of exceptions of being paid arm candy in Key West....in public,paid up front, and not alone...they have to take at least 1 of my friends too,and pay her the same. ANd I was armed in those cases just in case)

    I used to have customers that came over from Bermuda once a year who I considered friends. Me and my girls(who were also friends with them) would go to dinner with them before work or hang out during the day. They never expected more and it never affected our money from them.

    But these are VERY rare exceptions and almost always in Key West where...its just different.

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    I met my bf in the club. We saw each other once and spent the whole night talking to each other. We exchanged numbers and spoke over the phone for 2 months before we started dating. But other than that....no OTC for me.
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    Honestly, I WISH I could play the OTC "paid for dinner" game.. I get asked all the time to do it.. But I just can't.. It seems like too much effort and I'm too afraid that the situation would turn creepy. I've never been able to go through with it.

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    It depends on the situation. If I really connect with him and he's a decent guy, why not? If he's a widower or divorced and lonely he may want some company. There does not have to be hanky panky.

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    yeah sure. i don't like doing it for money, though. guys get cheap otc. like, i know i spent 700 on you at the club last night, but how bout now i spend 70 at victoria's secret and you fuck me for it. sure, right.

    i've gone on regular dates though. hell, i met my current fb in the club. he's all backrub-y and hot and sweet. he's also a preppy little rich kid that i'd've never ever ever met anywhere else or wanted to talk to at all. but he spent a bit of money in the club, nothing crazy, but one of the best things about my job is that it helps me weed out guys...anyone who says "i don't go to stripclubs/buy dances. i don't have to pay for it" is automatically out. it's a lot easier to know how they feel about that when you meet them in the club. lol. guys who are generous with their money in strip clubs are generous with their time and attention out of them. if they're stingy in the club, they're stingy out of it.

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    I know a lot of girls do stuff like that and it's not always sexual. But I feel it's too much trouble to go through and pretend to be interested in talking to them OTC. I did that once and it wasn't a good experience. I had this awesome customer who was really infatuated with me, he wasn't old or creepy, he was really lonely with lots of issues. He would come to club twice or three times a month and take me to VIP room for the whole night and then tip me 500-1000$. I didn't even have to dance, we would just sit, talk, drink, he would massage my feet. Of course he asked to meet otc and I agreed to go for a dinner. He took me out once a week for dinner and drink or gambling, always gentleman, never propositioned sex. After some time I started to feel like if I won't go out, he will stop comming to club. He asked me to fly to Vegas with him for weekend and told me I would have my own room in hotel and I said no and he sort of flipped out, said that any girl on my place would jump on opportunity and would do even more for less money. So it really didn't work out, he apologized but he stopped coming to my club.
    So I really don't bother anymore, besides now I'm in relationship and the only thing I do is give my cell number to a couple of regular customers, now that I'm coming back to work it will be sweet to contact them so they will come to visit me in the club.

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    I've met two guys OTC before. Both were regular customers that I had known for awhile, and I felt safe enough with them to meet OTC. It started out as just going out on dates and hanging out and they would pay me and/or take me shopping, but eventually it DID end up turning sexual after a few months in both cases. You can definitely string them along for a little while before they start pressuring you for sex, but the money and gifts don't last forever unless they feel like their getting something in return.

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    ive done the 100$ an hour to meet otc before with one guy but the more we went out its like the more he expected and in the end it seemed he was reluctant to pay me for my time otc so i broke it off. he called and text'd for like a month and now i still hear from him like once every couple of months but w/e. other than that i have met one other person who was a total smoking california hottie! we dated for a couple of months (obviously not charging) and he was a total romeo, he bought me flowers and always took me somewhere nice and new to eat whenever we went out. we still stay in touch :-)

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    Haha, I just read my response at the top of this thread and thought, "damn don't you sound like a hypocritical princess..." I let a guy meet me at a dancer clothing store yesterday and buy me my new work shoes. I didn't get any other money from him. So it wasn't that great, but I was going there anyway, and we didn't even hang out much, I just picked them out and he bought them...
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