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    It's become obvious to me lately that this business and industry is only going to benefit me if I gain a stronger work ethic. I've just been too lazy lately, going into work twice a week. I see girls going in 6 nights a week and banking. It's really a matter of just getting to the club for me, but I just don't have the drive to work that hard anymore. I'm satisfied with paying my measly rent and food and being happy and not pushing myself. But then I freak out and have marathon work sessions where I get stressed out. I'd like some tips on how to balance and maintain a strong work ethic.

    I've thought about revamping my stripper persona and finding a new club and starting fresh and working a lot and being asked to be scheduled a lot (I rarely cancel when I feel like I have a commitment).

    I'm also super lazy about working out, and it's finally starting to catch up with me. My body just isn't the same as it was a few years ago. I think maybe if I paired my new attitude about work (work harder) with working out, I would just have more energy in general.

    I am also going to try really hard to keep alcohol out of my life, it zaps my energy and makes me feel bloated.

    Any other tips? I'm kind of frustrated I'm not naturally motivated to make tons of cash. I need to jump out of limbo.

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    I got a blackberry phone and I program my day into the calender function.
    Everything from take your vitimins to walk the dog,go to the gym, go to work, it's all programmed in and set to go off 2 hours before hand.
    So If I have work programmed ni that day, 2 hours before when the alarm goes off I know it's time to get in the shower and get ready to go.
    I rarely miss a day of work now that I have started doing that.

    basicially, just set your schedule and follow it as if it were a real job. A commitment to yourself is far more important than any other commitment anyway.

    And set rewards. If you work the 4 days your scheduled for, on your first day off, spoil youself. My first day off is always my pamp[er/spa day at home, then the next day off I spend doing housework and the third day off I go out and have fun. It's a good balance.

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    ^ Do you work four days a week? Even working that much would get me back into the swing of things. I think I need to get a new club and just dive right in.

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    I work 3-4 days a week. I schedule in 3 days, and have a 4th, optional day, depending on how I feel and how much money I've made.

    My schedule is thurs-sat, with sunday optional. If the weekend wasn't great and I need to go again, I will, or if the weekend was great and I want to ride that I will go in, but if I dont feel like it or have somethign better to do, I won't go. It's a no pressure work day.

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    Yes you can learn work ethic. I did. I used to be very bratty & impatient about stripping and my income reflected my bad attitiude. SW is a great resource to understand how to hone your personal style of making the most money for your time invested. (Not everyone does things the same way, you have to tailor your style to your situation.)

    I would make a savings plan and PUSH until I satisfied the savings goal. The I would move on to having earning goals for desired purchases or vacation trips.

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    you definitely can learn to have work ethic, ^ the savings plan is a good idea, this way you set a certain goal for yourself & once you meet it move on to another one.
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    Ask yourself- what am I going to do if the next time I am in and it is slow? If I have an emergency and need the money? When I get older? Questions that will force you to think about $. Maybe if you make a schedule for yourself it will be easier to stick to. Also a workout in the morning will help start the day.

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    It helps if you have motivation or something to look forward to.
    I'm starting back to work again & I have specific goals for myself based on how much money I make, how many days I work etc.
    I promise myself a treat at the end of the month if I've followed my schedule.

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    "Work Ethic" is a mindset.
    Actually getting of the couch and working is a behavior.

    Yes you can change both your mindset and your behaviors if you want to.
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    If you only work 2 days a week and don't have another job (or are in school) you're going to wake up HORRIFIED in ten years when you realize what a unique and short lived opportunity stripping was. Seriously, you will feel terrible because you'll find yourself in a situation where the work ethic is forced upon you in a regular job and you HAVE to work five days a week whether you're in the mood or not.

    If you pay all your bills in two nights, just add two more and save/invest your earnings from those nights. Working four nights is completely reasonable, and that extra money could change your life. Using stripping to just pay your bills and hang out a lot is not going to be worth it in the long run.

    You could set up automatic withdrawals into a savings account that would force you to go into work. You could find another dancer who wants to make the same change to help you commit to going in more often. Or you could just learn to force yourself into a consistent schedule.

    It's SO common to hear dancers say they wished they'd worked more/saved more when they were younger. You have the opportunity to not be one of them in the future if you wake up to it now.

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    Thanks SW for kicking my ass in gear. I really needed this advice, too. I'm sorry to say that the better I get at stripping, the less I go to work. As long as I was clearing 1000/week, I would just slack off. Sometimes I would only go in once a week for 4-6 hours! When I first started, I went 4-5 times a week, like clockwork, for 8-10+ hours! Where did my work ethic go? *sigh* If I had actually showed up, I could have tripled my income.

    Luckily, I'm only 22 (23 on halloween) , so I have a few of my "best years" left.

    I've taken a 6 week vacay to get my boobs done, and now, instead of riding the big boobie money and getting even MORE lazy, I'm going to start applying myself like the smart, high-earning, ass-kicking, grown up I am (supposed to be). When I had the concrete goal of breast implants to save for, I worked pretty damn hard to make it happen. I now have another concrete goal: to spend xmas and new years in Las Vegas! To go see two cirque de soleil shows and spend altogether too much money shopping and gambling.

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    YES it can be! I did it, and I had the absolute worst work ethic. I don't exactly know how the hell I did it, but I'm really happy I got myself out of that rut. If you're really driven towards a particular goal, it helps big time.
    "We all must suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons. In order to achieve what others don't, you have to do what others won't."


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    Yep . It's all about the goals you want to achieve. If you don't know WHAT you are are going to do with your money you earn , how are you supposed to be motivated to go get it ?

    How are you doing with things ?

    There is nothing wrong with writing down your goals ( pay off all credit cards, start IRA, start fund to buy home, start college fund, start travel fund .... whatever you want to acheive .... just write it down as your first step). Then figure out what you average per night and how fast you would like to acheive each goal realistically. I'm not saying you won't get sideswiped with anything ( you might get sick or have a sudden bill or something ), but you can definitely get started this way.

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    I can definitely see where you are coming from. But, I don't always think 2 days a week is a bad thing. I mean, if you drive 1-2 hours to work, I know it would be hard to go in more often. The more you work, the more quickly you suffer from burnout too. If there's not much going on in other parts of life (family, school, other jobs) I can definitely see how this is completely do-able, but that's the great thing about stripping is that you can work 2 days a week and survive and have a normal life, with extra cash.
    Stripping takes so much energy, mentally and physically. I actually have to leave before closing time because I can't stay up that late, and I'm too tired to dance or hustle. Since it's more demanding than a normal job, I think there should be some time taken in between shifts to relax. I find whenever I talk to those girls who work 6 days in a row, they're often tired and have to work that much because they're not making enough. I definitely admire the girls who work most of the week and bank though!
    When I worked a normal job, I could easily work 4-6 days a week and go to school because I didn't have to put on a smile for every person, do anything overly physically demanding, or look good for anyone. With stripping, I'd find it hard to work that much.

    I know this is probably a way bad perspective, but I like to see things from both perspectives. But yes, saving up money is pretty useful later on. Just justifying that you're not crazy.

    Anyways, keeping a set schedule for yourself is good... Stripping requires a lot of self-discipline, so just start disciplining yourself in other areas of life. The thing about being an independent contractor is that you have to rely on yourself. If working more helps your self-image, then go for it!
    There's only so much you can learn in one place...
    The longer you wait, the more time that you waste.

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    There have been a lot of really good points made. Being in the business for over 10 years, I have a "If I knew then what I know now" attitude. In reality, if a dancer is any good at what she does, she is clearing $50-100K per year. The sad part is looking back and realizing that you have nothing to show for it. I started saving a few years ago and have managed to put away a little nest egg, but compared to what could have been there....ugh!

    Maybe you need a break. Not a long one. Just a month or two. Go and get a "real job". That always kick starts my motivation.

    And definitely start saving for the future. What are you going to do when you are 40 or 50?

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    I have accpeted a couple one day only assignments w/ a temp agency that hired me. After working 9 hours for $72 dollars i found myself more eager to get in to the club to make some real money in an atmosphere where i was free to stand up , walk around, and use the restroom whenever i pleased. A day job definitely makes me appreciate dancing...and i dont plan on accepting any more assignments until im way burnt again.

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    Heh, the 125-150 dollar "no show" fines keep me going to work. Once you're scheduled at my club YOU DO go to work or pay for it.
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    Anything can be learned, including work ethic, but knowing is a hell of alot different than doing. My work ethic sucks, but when I choose to be disciplined I can crank out unlimited potential.

    Generally, if I lax here or there, I'll always make a strong finish so my monthly goals aren't affected. It's not impossible, but finding and keeping the motivation to go isn't that black and white. I hustle hard when I'm at work, but getting there has always been a struggle for me too.

    I think it has alot to do with the prep time I feel I need. My mind has to be right, otherwise I'm scatter-brained, loose focus, and am not on top of my game. Everyone has their own "must-do's" before they go to work, mine is all mental.

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    Don't allow yourself to talk yourself out of it. If you plan on going to work and then you allow your mind to take over and discourage you, shut it off and quit thinking, and go through the movements of getting there mindlessly like a drone. Sounds strange but whenever I miss work it's because of this.

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    See if you can get more excited about going to work. Whenever I feel like stripping is just turning into some humdrum job, I start looking online at work outfits I want, or find really cool glamorous makeup ideas to try, or look up youtube videos of new pole tricks I want to try. Then I start really looking forward to going to work.

    But make sure you know the difference between being lazy, and genuinely being burned out. Pushing yourself too hard will fuck up your whole work hustle, and it's very easy for guys to identify the girls who just don't want to be there. It's a major turn-off. There's a big difference between not wanting to be there once you're there, and just not wanting to get up out of bed or off the couch to get ready to work.

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    Go to the best club in your area and see how things work. If dancing is what you really want to do you will learn by default.




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