The kind of people you have to worry about will think of you as a whore whether you're waitressing or dancing at a strip club.
The kind of people you have to worry about will think of you as a whore whether you're waitressing or dancing at a strip club.





Would yall's parents friends or neighbors really go tell your parents that they may have seen you as a stripper at a club? That seems really rude.
I can't imagine a neighbor just randomly walking up to my dad and saying "Yha so I was at a strip club last night and I think I saw your daughter naked and grinding on some guys. Just thought I'd let you know." That would never happen. It's way awkward and no one is going to admit to my dad they saw me naked (or saw some other naked girl and thought of me) unless they wanted their ass kicked. That would never come up in casual "your yard looks great what kind of mower are you using?" conversation.
As for my parents best friends where it wouldn't just be unbearably awkward, I doubt they would want to offend my parents by, in so many words, calling their daughter a slut or telling them that they are in on a secret that my parents obviously didn't want them to know, or they would have been told already. Anyone with any social graces would realize how it's not worth bringing up the conversation. I'm certain even if they did tell my parents I could easily laugh it off and point out the things I said above and throw it back on them about how rude it would be to "ratt" me out even if I actually was a stripper.
I think people worry too much about things sometimes.



It's not that crazy to believe that neighbors and so called friends love to stir up drama. That's why i just stay away.
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Um, i live in middle class suburbia as well. Are you meaning to tell me that absolutely no one in your neighborhood ever stirs up drama or the bored house wife from across the street that has nothing better to do with her time wouldn't talk shit if she found out you were stripping? I mean i know a few people like that & that's why IMO i drive a further to work in order to not have to deal with certain types of people.
Who knows, maybe i should move? I know for a fact that when i was living in vegas people in my neighborhood used to mind their own business but where i live now, there are a few people who are nosier than hell. Like you said though that's just my situation.
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Yha I can honestly say that no one stirs stuff up in my parents neighborhood. They all keep to themselves and have for the past 8 years that everyone has lived there.
I realize that a socially inept person can live anywhere but generally socially competent people ignore them. Unless you live in some neighborhood where people hang out with each other as friends all the time on their lawns 50's style or where they are all housewives and go to big parties together, it's not likely people talk to or take drama makers seriously.
In all the middle class neighborhoods I've been in it's not so much a community atmosphere like it is in the higher or low class places. Everyone just busts their asses for 8+ hours a day at work and wants to have some peace and quite in the privacy of their own home.
I'm not trying to make some big statement on social interaction among economic classes or anything, my whole point is that it's really rude and distasteful to bring such a "taboo" matter up in the first place and I assume most people know this. As for the ones who don't I assume my parents would believe me over people who have no manners, but in case all that fail and my parents don't believe me I obviously have a lot more problems on my hands than just them finding out that I'm a stripper.
Basically If it comes down to not working at a club becuase it's in your hometown or risking the above, I think it makes more sense just to work.



I consider myself to be a socially competent person & maybe if i didn't have children i would choose to work close to home but since i do have children, that's why i choose to drive further away. You are very right, where i live people don't all hang out together, but all the neighborhood kids do. Every single day. so i would rather not risk someone's kid over hearing a parent or whoever making assumptions about my job.
I pretty much try to avoid that shit all together. After all that's what this thread was about, wasn't it? So like i said this is why i choose not to dance close to home.
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^^^yha I wasn't even addressing the children aspect. If anything it was a TJ as I was paying more attention to people saying that the reason they didn't work close to home was because of their parents finding out.
I dance in the same city where I went to HS. I get scared I might see someone I know... but I'm 19 and most of the people I know are not 21 so not old enough to get in... I know there is a possibility of them using a fake id... but so far I've been lucky.
hope I'm not jinxing myself.
I've done it. Hated it. walked on eggshells the whole time. Had valet park my car in the very freaking back of the building. Ran into my parent's coworkers (who thankfully had never met me, but i heard of them), people I went to high school and middle school with, friends of friends, ex boyfriends/girlfriends...etc. Not fun at all! money sucked too. So glad I'm not there anymore.
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^ yeah, i just seem to get paranoid too, you just never know who you're going to run into after all. For me it's not so much about the aspect of running into my parents friends, it's more of a concern because of the kiddos. I don't wanna feel like i have to explain anything, but i do have friends who feel very comfortable working at a club that's 10 minuets away from their home so i guess it's just a personal choice that we as dancers have to make.
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ummm I would really really love to since the town I grew up in has a really nice club with lots and lots of rich men...but my answer is HELL NO!!! my parents are "professionals" and well known in the town, so that would def not go over very well.



I guess the answer to this is if you care or not if people know you dance.
I personally, never gave a fuck who knew I danced. My entire family including my grandmother knew I danced. Some approved, some didn't, but those that didnt approve just didnt know what i really did. My dad didnt approve until I took him into a club and bought him a dance. When He realized I was just making a living, he stopped caring.
but really, I just didnt give a fuck who knew. I was proud of being a dancer, I was clean and makign a good living and I figured if people disapporived, fuck them and their closed minded ness, I', getting ahead while they are still living on welfare. Who are they to judge me?
So thats why i danced in my hometown.
now I'm a little more discreet because I realized i needed to be close to people to let them get to know the real me before they pass me off as another whore, but I refuse to be ashamed of what do.
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