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    I am feeling pretty down these days. What do you do to feel better?
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    I let myself mope until I'm ready to start again.

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    I try to workout more. At the gym and at home. Like going for a walk around the neighborhood or hiking with someone. I also endulge myself in things I like, but rarely get to do or have. Like seeing a movie at the theatre and buying popcorn, soda, candy, the works. Or buying a new wig. And if you have the time volunteering is a wonderful way to take your mind off of things

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    I make "to-do" lists. ex:

    1) Lose x amount of weight.

    2) Leave house for at LEAST 2 hours on days off. etc etc...


    Just determine what it is that's bugging you most, and decide what you're willing to do to fix it.

    That usually motivates me and occupies my mind.

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    i make lists too.
    and i plan things... like i really want to go travelling next year, so when i feel fed up i get on the net and research everything TO DEATH! this helps me feel more in control of my situation now (being fed up/worrying i can't afford it) and better about the future.

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    I just try and get on with my life and hope it passes quickly. In my experience when I'm feeling blue there's nothing I can do to get over it, I just gotta hang on in there and comfort myself that soon it will be over and I'll be feeling better.



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    Drastic change. As in take a trip, move to a new place, or dump 180 lbs of dead weight. (Kind of kidding about the dead weight but not really. Being in crappy relationships makes people bleh.) Sometimes a break up is like a defribrillator.

    I just made up that analogy. Am I brilliant or what.

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    I was in a rut until Sunday when I played on the playground. Today is Wednesday and I'm still sore like I got a great workout in at the same time.

    I'm thinking about starting a playground for adults movement. It's not just physically good for you - I was amazed at the mental/psycho-spiritual benefits. If your familiar with "The ARtists' Way" by Julia CAmeron, you might have heard of having an "artist's date." AFter playing on the playground, I realized this is what I gave myself. Basically it's doing something the reconnects you to your inner creative child. What got you excited when you were a kid? Or what totally inspired you? It might be making collages or painting or going out dancing (not linked to work). I tried collages -- did nothing for me.

    But I'm still in good spirits after a funk from my play time this past Sunday. I have a feeling the swingset will REALLY inspire me.

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    depends on how down you are; are you feeling hopeless about the future?

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    What are you feeling down about Sophia?

    For me, all-around mood boosters include eating healthy and also taking melatonin at night to help me sleep....I swear it makes me feel SO HAPPY the next morning (takes about a week to get used to though)

    I've also noticed when I drink more than one night in a row it makes me feel very very depressed

    When I am in a money-rut (meaning not motivated for work), I try to make little lists of things I need and want, and when I have a good night buy something off the list to make me feel better. Also putting it in my checking account and seeing it grow makes me feel better

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    Quote Originally Posted by cutey5032 View Post
    What are you feeling down about Sophia?
    Aww... I'm just bummed. I haven't been doing anything for too many weeks. Lost motivation, drive, ambition somehow. I can't seem to shake it. Like, I used to be fiercely independent... now all of a sudden I don't want to leave my house by myself. I don't want to do anything, think about anything in the future because I feel so overwhelmed by the concept of 'the future'.

    Just a rough patch I guess.
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    Usually I go shopping, but that doesn't work when I don't have the cash to spare for that! Usually I just wait for it to pass, or go get some pharmaceuticals from the doc. I need to make an appt right now with the way I've been feeling.
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    Awww pleasure victim, I can so identify with your current location: quicksand.

    Be strong, hunny....
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    I force myself to go out and do errands that I like. Yes, the leaving the house part is often hard for me... but walking around a petstore can ultimately entertain me for hours and I feel better. Red tea also seems to make me feel better for some reason. If you have dogs, take them out for a walk. Make plans with friends to go hiking. If you're close to a beach or pool (and it's warm enough), go hang out and read a book/ read a magazine/ listen to your MP3 player...
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    Where do you want to be in five years? Not in five minutes or a month... where would you like to be?

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    treat yourself to some pampering!

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    Quote Originally Posted by anomar View Post
    Where do you want to be in five years? Not in five minutes or a month... where would you like to be?
    I dunno. The real answer is happy. The not so lame answer is probably something else. Will get back to you....
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    I need to make another playground date.

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    I hop on a plane and go. No planning. I just get an idea in my head "hmmm L.A. or Vegas etc.?" Then hit the airport. I'm in a hell of a reclusive rut myself right now, but I'm too low on cash at the moment to pick up and go like I usually do.

    Also, if I'm really depressed I won't be in the mood for getting lost, so I try to visit somewhere I have been before so I know my way around a bit.
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