Nevermind
Nevermind



I'm a guy, UndaCova, so I speak guyese, but I'm a little baffled at the language this guy is speaking. It would be one thing if you wanted to come in and make the place into pink frilly heaven; that can seem, to a guy, like a metaphor for a girlfriend assuming that his life now is completely changed, and it is all right to do whatever she wants to. This is much, much different: it seems to me that you just want a clean place, and MY instinct, as a boyfriend, would be to clean up for you, just to make you feel welcome. So something else is at work. Either he is a slob and doesn't want to change his ways (in which case you should rethink your involvement, because I think it will mean that you'll have trouble being let into his heart as well, and eventually this will bother you) OR, if he is a better guy than that, that he is pulling out of some depression--I would guess a fairly complicated romantic one. If he is a younger guy in his twenties, I'm guessing the problem would be the first one; if he is older, the second--that he is exhausted, for some reason, in spirit. In either case, I think you have every right to expect a few changes, if he asked you to be there: you should be made to feel comfortable, at the very least. And the changes you are asking for would benefit him, too--something I would hope he recognizes. If he doesn't, you are perhaps being given a hint of things to come; make sure you listen to your instincts.
Anyway, that's my guyese opinion. Hope it is a help.
JK Jim
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