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    Aaaaah.

    Okay. So in June a good friend of mine was coming back from a year in Japan. She was looking for a place to crash for 2 months before she could move into housing with some other people. After 2 months it didn't work out (her friend said she could move into his room, but his housemates wanted someone else). So she's been living in the basement for 5 weeks over schedule. She's been paying utilities but is not on the lease and does not want to be living the basement anymore.

    Now she's all depressed and annoying the hell out of everyone (me & my 2 other housemates). The last straw for one of my housemates was that she sent an email being like 'I'm depressed and it's because I can't sleep because you're watching tv late at night. Please stop.' He told her she really needs to get a date when she's moving out. She agrees that she needs to move out but won't set an end date. So my roommates have agreed that since she's my friend and I vouched for her to live with us for 2 months, it's my responsibility to get her out of here.

    Aaaaaaaaaah. I'm so annoyed with her. She's picky about where she will move too. She wants a place in SE for under $500 with a bunch of happy people. As another friend pointed out, random happy people don't want some sad person living there. I just want her to fucking move out. It's doing a number on our friendship too.

    **I don't want to say I'm trying to be 'snap out of it!' to her. It's more that she's overstayed her welcome in my damn house.

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    "Life and death, energy and peace. If I stop today it was still worth it. Even the terrible mistakes that I made and would have unmade if I could. The pains that have burned me and scarred my soul, it was worth it, for having been allowed to walk where I've walked, which was to hell on earth, heaven on earth, back again, into, under, far in between, through it, in it, and above."

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    ^^ they love to sing! great find... I think you should print that out and hand it to her.

    Kidding aside... I am not nice enough to let people stay with me. Im a bitch when it comes to my space. Does she not have parents/family/anyone else she can stay with?

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    Quote Originally Posted by keira0304 View Post
    Oh man, this place would be about $800 here in Boston. I so need to move out of here!

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    Thanks for the link!

    I sent her an email and said I wanted to help her. She does have other friends. I asked her to make a list of 2-4 other friends she would be comfortable staying w/ for 1 or 2 weeks. And then I said I'd talk to her about the progress she made on it tonight.

    I really do think that a big reason of why she can't move out is b/c she's depressed and filled w/ inertia. But if it's making my housemates annoyed then shit has to stop.

    AL -- we have a big old house and its nickname is the Hostel It's just that she's really overstayed her welcome and it's no longer working out for anyone. She'll be better off when she gets on her own 2 feet somewhere else, and that's going to involve her not crashing in our basement and being unhappy about it .

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    Quote Originally Posted by HoolaTwist View Post
    Oh man, this place would be about $800 here in Boston. I so need to move out of here!
    Yeah PDX rocks. I live in a giant 100-year-old house in the heart of the city and it's only $1550 for 3 bedrooms (mine has a walk in closet and a sink!), a huge porch, a rec room, sitting room, etc. Though we just bargained our landlords out of raising our rent $100, so we are being undercharged a bit...

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    have her start paying rent. money is a good motivator. she's lounging around because the cost to her is minimal. if she's paying a proportionate amount of the rent: 1. it'll motivate her to get off her lazy ass and find some place and 2. it'll mitigate some of your housemates' complaints as their rents would go down proportionately from what she's paying in.

    no lease benefits to her though. that would muddy everything up!

    she needs a push. everyone does.

    i know exactly how you feel btw. i've been a host to no less than four family members: brother, sil, 1st cousin, and a 2nd cousin (the current house guest) and three family friends over the past 15-years. they ALL stayed an average of 1-year! the longest being two years from my 1st cousin (and her husband and her baby - which was birthed here). iirc, one or two overlapped each other even!

    so I KNOW unwanted/overstayed house guests! it's a fucking specialty of mine! >.<

    nudge her with a rent demand. with an escalator clause if you feel like it, e.g. this month $500, next month $600, next after that $700, etc. but make the push firm and blame it on the housemates. if they want her gone so bad, they should let you make them the heavy.

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    ^^ for real. Tell her its time to pony up the dollaz. See how fast she finds a place.

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    Good idea. If she is totes resistant to the help I'm giving her -- I think by telling her I want to talk to her tonight but the progress she's made on moving out will make her scarce -- then tomorrow or whenever I talk to her and decide she's not taking it seriously -- I'll pass along the idea to my housemates of asking her for $$.

    They are both practicing lawyers so that might be fun for them

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    Sigh. It seems like kicking her in the butt is helping a bit... she said she can find a place to crash tonight through Sunday. I want to help her more but she needs to reach out and figure it out hereslf .sigh

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    Quote Originally Posted by anomar View Post
    Yeah PDX rocks. I live in a giant 100-year-old house in the heart of the city and it's only $1550 for 3 bedrooms (mine has a walk in closet and a sink!), a huge porch, a rec room, sitting room, etc. Though we just bargained our landlords out of raising our rent $100, so we are being undercharged a bit...
    WOW. My friend just signed a lease on a tiny apartment in Allston Rat City and she has the pleasure of paying $1400 for it. Best thing she could find.

    I think I've finally solved my problem regarding where to move. Portland, I'm coming in four months!

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    ^^^ Hoola, do keep in mind though, that you make less money in Portland.

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    yeah^ 400 was a good/average night for me in portland.... 500-700 nights happened, but it was rare... like 1-2x month rare.
    "Life and death, energy and peace. If I stop today it was still worth it. Even the terrible mistakes that I made and would have unmade if I could. The pains that have burned me and scarred my soul, it was worth it, for having been allowed to walk where I've walked, which was to hell on earth, heaven on earth, back again, into, under, far in between, through it, in it, and above."

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    But, on the other hand...people treat you better and there's no contact in most places.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HoolaTwist View Post
    WOW. My friend just signed a lease on a tiny apartment in Allston Rat City and she has the pleasure of paying $1400 for it. Best thing she could find.

    I think I've finally solved my problem regarding where to move. Portland, I'm coming in four months!
    Yeah... you can still end up working 4-5 nights to pay your rent b/c even though the rent's cheaper, so's the average dancer $$.

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