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    Default Tell me if I'm a naive n00b here...

    Basically, ive always wanted to work in the adult industry. Even as a kid Id tell people I wanted to be a stripper just cos I thought it was such a good idea, if you know what I mean.

    Now Im 18, and am modelling for a few sites, and I love it, I really enjoy the dressing up and doing my make up, I enjoy figuring out good ways to pose for the camera, and I love the satisfaction of seeing the finished article. I also enjoy dancing and stripping, just cos its fun. I like the compliments, get a laugh from the insults, and generallyam quite happy with it.

    However, Ive told two older friends that Id done porn, one was totally supportive,told me she'd done it herself before too,and wished me goodluck, the other said I was doing it because I have low self esteem, and it will make me feel worse in the long term, even if I didnt see it now...

    I just need a little reassurance that Im not being stupid in actually enjoying doing this stuff?

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    I love my job more than anything. I have done it for four years almost now. I have gained so much.


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    Default Re: Tell me if I'm a naive n00b here...

    Yeah,everyone makes it sound like i'll end up a crack whore on the street or something...maybe thats the impression people get before they look into the industry, and since ive always been so interested in it, I never saw it that way...

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    Default Re: Tell me if I'm a naive n00b here...

    I think it's important to enter the industry with some knowledge of its downsides and whatnot. When I got into stripping a couple of years ago, I immersed myself in sex-positive literature; about prostitution, stripping, etc. etc. (Jane Sexes It Up and the like). So I protected myself against parts of the industry by educating myself.

    I absolutely love my job though. I can't stand how stripping and the sex industry has become such a forbidden secret. We have to stay in the closet about our jobs for fear of being judged by others (unless you just don't give a shit about what people think ).

    It's always good to hear that there are others out there who deal with this shit too.

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    I danced for 24 years and did internet porn for about 7. I found it to be a rewarding experience in many ways. You can make of it what you want. You can treat it as a profession and be a responsible, balanced person or you can use it as an excuse for all kinds of self defeating behaviors. The choice is up to you. Other people will always have judgements for good or bad but only you know what will make your life fulfilled.

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    ^^ Yep. Stripping is no different than most other jobs--it can bring out the best and worst in people. For example, people with previous tendencies for addiction who walk blindly into stripping may find their addictive behaviors emerging, but that ain't stripping's fault.

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    Default Re: Tell me if I'm a naive n00b here...

    Every job has something rewarding about it. You learn something new everytime you enter into a different career. Stripping has been the best for me, ans I absolutely hated every other job I've ever had. However, I've hated stripping sometimes, too, but never enough to compare to my other jobs (about 12 in the past 6 years.) I worked at T-mobile as a customer service rep when I quit dancing because I was preggo. It made me realize how much I missed dancing. In that job, people will call you worse than they ever do at a strip club, and you just have to take it. At least with stripping, I can pour my drink on someone and tell them to go fuck themselves. I love it.

    I hate the stigma about stripping, and we can thank Hollywood and all of the extras girls for making the view so negative. Fuck em. This is what we love to do, and there is NOTHING wrong with it. People can say we are like prostitutes, but I felt more like a prostitute in most of my other jobs because I HAD to please every customer in some way to get paid and not get fired.

    Everyone aspires to have a job that they love. The people that look down on us are just jealous because we've found it before they did. Yay for adult entertainment!!!!
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    Default Re: Tell me if I'm a naive n00b here...

    It's funny how many people will tell you to switch jobs if you have even one bad day working in the sex industry. Yet millions of people who work 'normal' jobs return to their homes day after day, bitching and moaning about how much they hate their jobs...and just because they keep their clothes on, they are the legitimate ones. Heh. Gr.

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    Quote Originally Posted by charlie61 View Post
    It's funny how many people will tell you to switch jobs if you have even one bad day working in the sex industry. Yet millions of people who work 'normal' jobs return to their homes day after day, bitching and moaning about how much they hate their jobs...and just because they keep their clothes on, they are the legitimate ones. Heh. Gr.
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    Since I've started dancing, my spine has grown, I have let people walk all over me my entire life because I'm a very caring person. I still have a ways to go, but I've always loved music, dancing, dressing up as well. I am very self conscious about my looks, it has helped with that as well. I have a new air of confidence that helps in all other aspects of my interactions with people. Plus I am a very sensuous person, so unbeknown to me i really give of signals like I'm into the guy I'm dancing for.
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    Default Re: Tell me if I'm a naive n00b here...

    Once you're in a taboo industry like the sex industry, expect a ton of negativity. The reason we're making so much money is because we are doing something "naughty." I looooove my job but I realize it's not something I wanna scream over the rooftops, and I'll always have the friends who don't approve.

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    The biggest stripper stigma I hate is when people say it's acceptable only to pay your way through college. Otherwise then you are just another dumb stripper who can't do anything else except taking her clothes off. So it took me one year away from dancing to realize that I'm not happy with my degree and my career choice and want to go back to stripping. And not only because of the money. How is that 'degree' can actually make you feel happier and take you out of the 'dumb league'. I'm looking forward to actually having a lot more free time to grow on myself. I absolutely love to read, travel, learn about and do new things. How is that working 9-5, coming home tired and passing out in front of TV and waking up with the idea 'I hate going to work' makes your life a better example of what a role model should be? I think those people are just jealous because they spend so much time and money (I know I did) on studying and now have a job that they hate, they still don't make enough money and don't have time for anything else. Of course they say "Oh, you are lazy, strippig is easy money". Stripping is just like any other job has it's easy and hard points. But when you are good at doing what you enjoy doing it comes easier and hard things don't seem as hard anymore. I wish more people understand that living a happy life is a lot more important than try to conform to society 'norms'.
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    Screw judgmental people, I say.

    This is your world, and your life.

    Make your own rules babe. Shine.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cassandra39 View Post
    The reason we're making so much money is because we are doing something "naughty."
    heheheheeee... best line ever... We love being naughty!

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    Quote Originally Posted by hazel_eyes View Post
    Every job has something rewarding about it. You learn something new everytime you enter into a different career. Stripping has been the best for me, ans I absolutely hated every other job I've ever had. However, I've hated stripping sometimes, too, but never enough to compare to my other jobs (about 12 in the past 6 years.) I worked at T-mobile as a customer service rep when I quit dancing because I was preggo. It made me realize how much I missed dancing. In that job, people will call you worse than they ever do at a strip club, and you just have to take it. At least with stripping, I can pour my drink on someone and tell them to go fuck themselves. I love it.

    I used to work at T-Mobile as a CSR as well. That place is a special kind of hell!!

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