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    okay well my bf broke up with me last week because im too clingy etc which i see as normal at the start of a rship

    this rship meant a lot to me as ive liked him for ages and its my first one in 3.5 years..we were only together 1.5 months

    we had a talk the other day n he said to give him till wednesday to think about if he wants to give it another go etc so i didnt contact him at all until this afternoon (wednesday)he replies threatening me with a restraining order.

    like WTF i didnt do anything!! soo fkn pissed off/upset..

    why cant i just find a nice decent good looking guy? im a nice girl, i do nothing wrong..
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    I'm sorry to hear that.
    I'm sure you will meet the right guy one day. if you are doing something wrong, it's hard to see for yourself. alot of times we can't see our own faults.
    this guy sounds like douche tho... he threatens you with a restraining order over one text?
    I promise there are plenty of fish in the sea and judging by your picture you are verryyy hot... so you must have plenty of men lining up to date you!

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    i wish but na the guys who like me only want to sleep with me...im not feral looking tho haha, not many guys want to date a stripper..
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    I see. yea. I have the same problem alot of the guys my age only want to sleep with me... and if they actually do what something more I am hesitant to tell them I'm a stripper... but I hold on to hope that one day I'll meet a good-looking, smart, and understanding guy that knows stripping is just a job for me.

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    You might consider dating guys that are not classically handsome. Seriously. You may find yourself a very sweet, smart and wonderful guy who is lacking in the looks department. He would worship the ground you walk on.

    Besides, once you get to know a guy, his looks are less important. A very attractive person physically can turn ugly through his actions. The opposite is also true, a less attractive man looks much better once you see the person inside.

    Of course, my generation grew up without the proliferation of porn. Some guys have unrealistic expectations of women due to the "fake" sex they have learned to enjoy.


    Promote yourself and earn more money! This is a business that is owned by strippers for strippers. Let's make that money!


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    that's very true but (this might sound pretty shallow) i cant even look at guys who arent good looking..ive never had a hot hot guy..just attractive good looking ones..

    and yeah im always honest and straight forward with that im a stripper..if someone wont accept me for who i am, obviously theyre not the one for me.

    i know i prob sound so stupid sayin this cos im only 20 but yeah i do want to be in a r/ship that means something to me..im sick of being single and fending off guys from everywhere in nightclubs..
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    Quote Originally Posted by xParisx View Post
    im a nice girl, i do nothing wrong..
    aww, I thought that was totally adorable. Cheer up, you WILL find someone with all those characterstics and more. Keep looking, he's out there..
    or actually, don't look at all!! (don't they say love happens when you're not looking for it?) Concentrate on you for awhile, doing things that make you happy. Surround yourself with friends, b/c that helps you keep your mind off of things too.

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    OK babe i heard you talking about this in the DR the other night and seriously delete this guys number right NOW!!

    Don't ever chase after a guy. It's not attractive. You have to always play it cool. You have already lost weight thru stressing over this and he is def not worth it if he can't see how lucky he was to have you xoxo.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris View Post
    Besides, once you get to know a guy, his looks are less important. A very attractive person physically can turn ugly through his actions. The opposite is also true, a less attractive man looks much better once you see the person inside.
    Isn't that the truth!

    I know you mentioned you can't look at someone you're not attracted to, but maybe try talking to a guy your not initially attracted to and see if his personality makes him look better to you. Think of it as a little experiment. Don't stress with trying to find the 'right guy' for a LTR. I think if you just relax the relationship your looking for will find you.

    And please ditch the loser who want to file a restraining order over 1 phone call. You can do sooooo much better!

    Now something to make you laugh....

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    Aww, I used to have the same problem when I was around 18... But I grew and changed and not clingy at all anymore. I think guys like a girl who is independant and doesnt seem like she "needs" him to survive. Never be the one who is always texting or calling them first. It drives them crazy... at least in my experience.

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    mm yeah i think it was also in the start he didnt have a prob with my job then slowly it got to him..

    his loss!

    i need a good perve session, i swear there better be hot guys tomorrow night at work!! haha

    ^ i've put back on the weight i lost, but after what he said to me last night it made me relapse, i hope it doesnt happen again ..im thin enough as it is!

    UPDATE: deleted his number and all txts from him! (step 1 complete)

    my friend (tasha who works with me) had the biggest go at him the other night..im glad she did cos if she didnt, i wouldve and it wouldve been worse from me!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris View Post
    You might consider dating guys that are not classically handsome. Seriously. You may find yourself a very sweet, smart and wonderful guy who is lacking in the looks department. He would worship the ground you walk on.

    Besides, once you get to know a guy, his looks are less important. A very attractive person physically can turn ugly through his actions. The opposite is also true, a less attractive man looks much better once you see the person inside.

    Of course, my generation grew up without the proliferation of porn. Some guys have unrealistic expectations of women due to the "fake" sex they have learned to enjoy.
    you hit the nail of the head




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    forget the loser!!!!! ive been in several relationships where the guy didnt have a problem with dancing at first but then once you get closer they start acting differently. there are plenty of guys out there!! i used to just tell people i was a bartender when i first met them and after they get to know me for a week or so i break the news. after they have gotten to know me its hard for them to look at me as some coked out whore or whatever other people's misconceptions are about dancers.

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    yeh..ive been going to the club he works at since i was 18 so kind of known him since then and he has noticed me for a long time (as im pretty much a regular) so he mustve had some idea of the sort of person i am..

    ah i give up on trying to work guys out
    just dont need the worries it causes!
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    Quote Originally Posted by xParisx View Post
    ah i give up on trying to work guys out
    just dont need the worries it causes!
    I hate to say it but there isn't that much to figure out. Just some generalizations, but a lot of 20 something good looking guys just aren't very interested in long term relationships. There are exceptions of course, but they are likely taken and in long term relationships.

    Guys do grow out of this in time and eventually become more family/relationship oriented, but at 20 something, good looking, a lot of those guys are just not going to try very hard. They are looking for new hot girls to have sex with more so then one to settle down with (although they may not admit it, that is what motives them).

    Like others suggested, you probably will find that guys who aren't as good looking try harder. They are more appreciative they are with a hot girl, and are more likely to worship her. Good looking guys may well try too at the beginning but once the newness wears off, feel bored, and start thinking about something new. They do tend to grow out of this but later in life.

    I also think others are right about the proliferation of porn, and well general commoditization and liberalization of sex. Guys expectations about how women should look and what is "good sex" are higher due to porn, and their sense of value of sex is lower because (especially for a good looking guy) it is relatively easy to get. They will try hard to get it, but once they do, in short order the grow bored and want something new.

    It is good advice then maybe try some relationships with average looking guys. You might be surprised how much more likely they are to try and keep the relationship together.

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    I know what you mean...I keep looking for a prince myself and end up with frogs
    "I had to wonder if men were so blinded by beauty that they would feel privledged
    to live their lives with an actual demon, so as long it was a beautiful demon."
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    I'm sorry to hear that. You are a very beautiful looking girl. The guy sounds like a douche. I'm sure you'll have no trouble getting good looking guys. The best thing to do would be to not tell guys what you do for a living until the relationship gets serious. I would say wait 6 months before you tell them. By then they would get to know your personality, and they would form an attachment to you. Most guys I know in their 20's dnt have a problem with the whole stripper thing. I've noticed tons of older guys acting creepy with me or flat out asking me for sex when they find out my profession. The guy I date right now, his mom used to strip, so he's accepted it.

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    mm yeh im not someone that can hide anything..esp when im busy working every fri and sat night..just cant explain that haha

    im always upfront cos if they dont like what i do then theyre not meant for me (i may have written this earlier haha)

    bit happier now tho..had a lot of little 18 yr olds tell me they love me last night then when i left work some guys from a club next door took a photo with me as apparently im hot lol he wasnt too bad either
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