
Originally Posted by
Honey71783
So, my ex-boyfriend, 'D', African-American suburban guy-next-door, was released from jail yesterday and I'm so frickin' confused now. D and I were on and off since I was 14 years old and all throughout my high school years. Our relationship was wonderful. He treated me like a Queen and I felt first class whereever we went (dinners, dancing, trips, outings with friends). I figured he had alot of good friends, business relationships, and connections. So, my senior year of high school, I was accepted to a top university about 600 miles away. We decided to have a long distance relationship and I left for school. We saw each other almost every two or three weeks, and for extended periods of time (ranging from one to three months) during the entire Christmas, spring, and summer breaks (it was like it used to be when I lived at home).
So, my freshman year of college was super hard emotionally. We had a problem when a girl called me and told me that she was pregnant by him. (The whole story is posted in a previous thread). She had an abortion. D and I worked things out after alot of crying and heart-to-heart discussions. Trust was re-built and earned again and everything was good. But, the first summer I came back from college and he got arrested for a DUI. His arrest history was downhill from there. He got arrested for suspended license and possession charges a few times after that.
I worked so hard to finish college early so I could move back to South Florida and begin my life with him. So, when I was coming home for Thanksgiving (a few weeks before graduation), he got arrested again for a fight. He went to jail for a year. So, he missed my graduation and I moved back in with my parents and started working at a really good job in South Florida that I had lined up while I was in school. We were supposed to move in with each other and I was going to work at this great job. During this time, I did not visit him in jail. I was so upset that our plans were ruined. So, I moved on, dated and had another serious relationship. He got out of jail but we didn't really hook up like we used to because I was involved. I broke up with that boyfriend and later began another serious relationship with Boyfriend #3. Boyfriend #3 treated me soooo bad. I cooked dinner one evening and had a couple of drinks. He came home super pissed and kicked me out. I got in my car under the influence and ended up with a major accident and a DUI. D was there for me the entire time I was crying over what happened.
Needless to say, he ended up in jail again for a serious drug charge, something that happened at a club, and he spent just under a year in jail. This morning I get a phone call and its him. He told me that he was just released from jail yesterday but is on house-arrest until March 2009. He invited me over his house for DVD movies and dinner... I am so confused... We never ever officially broke up... He has just been in and out of jail for related and new charges since my sophomore year of college (6 years).... I have dated and had two other serious relationships but nobody has loved or treated me like he has...
He is a kind-hearted guy, just has made some super bad choices, just like most people in their early twenties do. My parents say that he was profiled because he is black, and him and I are an example of "institutional genocide" (like breaking up families through jail), my parents were all part of the civil rights and black prida era, and said they saw the profiling-era coming. So they are saying that he is pretty much a good guy that got caught up in the system at 19 years old and if he loves you like no other, than so be it... They want me to be happy.
DUI, suspended licenses, possession, fighting, more drugs... I don't know what to think, say, or do... It sounds like he has had an addiction problem these past few years while I was in college and it just has snowballed from there...
Anyway, I just got the call this morning so maybe I should just let all of this marinate...
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