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    I went out last night with a guy from one of my classes. We'd been flirting like crazy in class the whole semester, and last Monday I told him I was going out this weekend with a few girls from work and told him if he wanted to meet up to give me a call. He said he was going to be out too because he would be celebrating his B-day with some of his friends.

    Well, he texted me yesterday afternoon to see if I was still going out, and he said we should meet up. We ended up meeting up at one bar, had a few drinks and what not, and ended up bouncing around to a few other bars through out the night, losing people in our group as we go.

    At the end of the night it was just me and him left and we ended up coming back to my place. It was really good sex, and I let him stay the night. I took him home around 7:30 this morning, and he hugged and kissed me goodbye, although in the morning it was very casual and no touching or flirting or any of that.

    I texted him when I woke up at 5pm, "I JUST woke up. Crazy." and he hasn't texted me back or called. I know it's just the first day, but I kinda like him and I'm thinking it might have just been a one night thing for him, even though we talk and flirt in class all the time.

    There's no damage control I can do either? I dont want him to think I take guys home all the time, because I don't. I dunno....

    Should I let him contact me? Or should I just go into class monday like nothing ever happened?

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    Me personally, if he doesnt respond to the text, when we did run into each other again, I'd probably wait and see if he'd say anything to me first and go from there. If he doesn't I'd probably end up approaching him myself and asking him exactly what I felt. Was that a one night stand or what? And let him know your not that kind of person and thats not what you expected. If he still acts like it was just sex and thats it, then just chalk it up to one who bit the dust and leave him alone. What else can you do? The last thing you want to do is look like a nut and start texting him like crazy or trying too hard to make him interested again but I do believe you should put it out there how you felt about the situation and leave it at that.

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    yeah, I am NOT going to text him any more. He said, "I'llsee you monday in class" when he got out of my car, so maybe he's just waiting until then. But honestly, why fucking wait? I mean, you have my number buddy! Especially if someone texts you and you don't reply.....that's sending a message...

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    CB,
    you're assuming he got your msg. His phone might have been turned off or he could have still been asleep. Just because he has responded doesn't mean he's is blowing you off. I went through something like this earlier today..I have someone I've been trying to hook up with for awhile but, I'm always busy. He thinks I'm blowing him off when really that's not the case..He went so far to accuse me of hanging up on him earlier. Just play it cool and don't be so quick to think what you 2 shared meant nothing to him.
    When Monday rolls around, I'd play it cool,calm and together when I saw him. Let him know you're a catch and let him come to you.
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    Default Re: Is it a one night stand?

    Seems you didn't know his plans for the weekend, for one thing. Also we don't know if it was the alcohol or real mutual attraction. We don't know how you two responded together, so it's hard to speculate. But it sounds like he wasn't sure how he felt next morning about the experience. I hope you two at least end up being good fuck buddies. It's possible that's all the wanted. What do you want?
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

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    I'm interested in getting to know him first and foremost, but, heh, FB's would be cool too....haha!

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    It's too early to tell if he thought it was a one night stand. Go to your class you'll know more when you see him.
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    guys do this intentionally a lot as well. Maybe he doesn't want to come on too strong, it's just the games we ppl play and sometimes nothing serious at all.. i'm sure everything will be fine when u see him again.

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    So, he texted me yesterday. That's a good sign. He said, "I slept all day yesterday. Seems as though shaking out asses all night and hot sex wears us both out. We should try again just to be sure." LMAO!

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    sounds like you've been put in the fuck buddy category imo. if he really liked you he would have text back that day. move on, dont put up with any head games because you will just get hurt.

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    Awe, i dono, some guys just say stuff like that.. "lets try again to find out" i mean obviously he's interested in you, its hard to say until you talk to him.

    But texting back saying something like that, means he had a good time for sure.. haha obvious, but thats a good thing, and i really dont think it means just fuck buddies.

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    Quote Originally Posted by vanilla.love View Post
    Awe, i dono, some guys just say stuff like that.. "lets try again to find out" i mean obviously he's interested in you, its hard to say until you talk to him.

    But texting back saying something like that, means he had a good time for sure.. haha obvious, but thats a good thing, and i really dont think it means just fuck buddies.
    he didnt say i had a great time lets get dinner, that would be a normal response for someone who wants to get involved on another level other than physical

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    Never be the first one to contact after doing the do. EVER!

    So what happened in class today?

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    ^ i was wondering the same thing, and maybe i just hang out with immature guys or maybe thats why i can never seem to have a fulfilling relationship, but what he said seems like a pretty normal response from a guy. lol.

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    I think if you have to ask the question then you already know the answer ....Could be more but just to be safe assume its only sex ....turns out to be more then its a bonus ....
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    In class today he wrote me a note first. We talked random BS for a while, then the note conversation moved towards this weekend. I told him his nose surgery for snoring obviously didn't work and that if I were him I'd demand my money back. He laughed at that and then I told him he was a huge bed hog and that he slept dead center the whole night. He said, "Uh-oh, Red flag! Red flag!"

    One of the points the professor made in lecture (it's an interpersonal relationships class) was about "Change points" in relationships, and he wrote me, "I think we experienced a "change point" this weekend wouldn't you say?"

    I dunno, he's very sweet, and it's totally not awkward at all. He was very conversational and flirtatious as usual. Now I'm just not going to text him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jessica0585 View Post
    he didnt say i had a great time lets get dinner, that would be a normal response for someone who wants to get involved on another level other than physical
    But he did suggest going out again as well. And that's not bad. I suggest giving it a few more dates, maybe 1 or 2 without a sexual opportunity, before talking big picture; maybe by then things will become clearer. Just watch out for your feelings welling up; keep thinking realistic.
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

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    Quote Originally Posted by crazybeautiful28 View Post
    So, he texted me yesterday. hot sex wears us both out. We should try again just to be sure." LMAO!
    i hardly call that asking someone out again, and like another post, if you have to ask you already know the answer

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    Quote Originally Posted by threlayer View Post
    But he did suggest going out again as well. And that's not bad. I suggest giving it a few more dates, maybe 1 or 2 without a sexual opportunity, before talking big picture; maybe by then things will become clearer. Just watch out for your feelings welling up; keep thinking realistic.
    I'm not thinking anything big picture here at all. You'd have to pass the preliminary rounds to even suggest thinking about the big picture. I'm thinking dinner and drinks currently.....hell IF I even get that....

    I'm just not going to text/call him. If he does in fact want to go further or anything more out of it, then he knows how to get a hold of me. I think I was just excited after the initial night. But, I do acknowledge the reality of the situation, and it is what it is- if that one night is all that comes out of this, AWESOME, it was a good time; if he does want to go out, fine I'm down; and if he just wants to be fuck buddies, I can do that too because the sex was great! Either way, I get something out of it.

    I'll let you guys know what happens in class on Wed though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by threlayer View Post
    But he did suggest going out again as well. And that's not bad. I suggest giving it a few more dates, maybe 1 or 2 without a sexual opportunity, before talking big picture; maybe by then things will become clearer. Just watch out for your feelings welling up; keep thinking realistic.
    Now thats a good idea

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    So, just a little update.

    Ever since that night, going to class has been just fine. We flirt like usual, and he writes me notes all through out class. When a friend of mine sat between us one day, he texted me the whole class. It's very "middle schoolish."

    Today actually, he even burnt me two mix CD's. One Alternative/rock, and the other titled "romantic."

    He's very flirty, and he even said he likes me and would like to get to know me better. The only thing is, he doesnt text me on days we don't have class. Rarely he does. But....that could be because he's really busy. On top of school, he's a firefighter- so he's super busy. So that could also be the reason he hasn't asked me out or anything because he works a lot of hours (especially on the weekends). He did send me a really sexy picture though of him in his fire getup, and he says we should study.

    I don't know. He's very hard to read. One minute he's very flirtatious, and seems into me, and then I don't hear from him for a while. I suppose, if it were just a one night stand, I wouldn't hear much from him at all, so I'm just going with it.

    We do have plans to meet up on Friday night though.

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    Default Re: Is it a one night stand?

    Some guys, maybe even most guys, are happy to be in a relationship where the couple is just having fun together, but will run like hell the other way if they think it is becoming serious and exclusive.

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    he is a scorpio, the men are like that.. lol

    I wouldn't/couldn't be able to deal longterm with that.

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    He's a libra actually. Which, for my sign, is worse! lol

    My very first serious relationship was a Libra, and it was hell.

    Not to mention this guy is ultra cocky. Which, he has every right to be because he is gorgeous, but I don't like competition, and I'm not about to try that hard to keep his attention.

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    if he wanted something more serious he should have asked you by now. firefighters are not really that busy except for the days they work. they usually have a 24 or 36 hour workshift, 2 days off, 24-36, 2....it sounds like you are just making excuses for him

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