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    Default Those who are married, whats your hustle?

    Whats your story? are you married or "single"? are you high or low contact?

    do you accept their drinks, phone number, etc? how do you hustle them? i had a much easier time when i was single i coiuld give out my number and everything now that doesnt happen so i am not making as much as i used to and its just not as easy for me these days....any tips?

    also, how does your partner feel about you dancing?

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    I always lie and say I am single. "Oh, with all the crazy hours I work, I don't have time for a boyfriend!" etc etc. That in mind I am extremely low contact. Like so low contact that if I ever was to grind on someone extendedly I would have to be wickedly drunk.

    Of course I accept their drinks, but phone numbers I throw away when they leave. I have a fake gmail address which includes my stage name, and tell them to email me. You don't have to call them to hustle them!

    My partner is a sweetheart and is very supportive of me. He even helps with my hair when I am in a pinch and goes to the "stripper store" with me. There are a few things he is sketchy about (like me giving out my number, and I don't blame him, it's a security thing) but he's mostly indifferent. Matter of fact I just asked him and apparently it doesn't keep him awake at night.

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    I don't lie if I'm directly asked, bc I've found that saying Im single brings me more grief. The ones who ask are the same ones who then try some lame pick up line. Normally though I operate with a dont ask dont tell mentality. Its fantasy, most guys kno that and they dont wanna be bothered with real life stuff like married strippers.

    And my guy is totally awesome about it. He knows its just a job and that Im coming home to him every night. Hes always excited for me on nights I bank.

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    my husband has always been great about me working. if fact i think he likes the bragging rights.
    i personally always tell people i'm married and i never take my ring off thats just something that is important to me. i find a lot of guys just think i'm lieing anyway.

    i still take guys numbers and give out my email. anyone i feel was just looking for a date i don't bother with , but if its someone that i think would be a nice regular to have then i keep in touch.

    i have gone to dinner with my regulars. my husband doesn't like that at all and we fought about it at first. but to me its a work thing and i make it clear we are going as friends.

    i'm no to low contact but i started as no and only started with low because i'm poor and in school, but i make sure my husband will not know. this is easyer because we live in different cities. lets just hope he never feels the need to read stripper web.
    it also helps that most the guys that like me are married so sometimes its like i'm the safe one.

    maybe your having a bit of a harder time because you don't want to be there. i know when i just want to be home i never make anything.
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    I haven't found what works for me yet... Sometimes I say I have a bf, sometimes I say I'm married. Different things for different custies, but if asked, I never say I'm single. It feels wrong.

    So far, I haven't seen a difference in money whether I say I'm taken or not. I think some of the married custies like that a girl is taken because it takes some of the pressure off somehow. idk.
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    if they ask if im taken i say yes, but i dont bring it up for no reason. i am high contact but i wouldn't do anything that my partner and i were not ok with. he's pk with it cause he knows its just a job.

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    I wore my ring and told those who asked that I was married. The ones that stopped spending money at that point were probably just going to try to fuck me anyway and the ones that didn't care were often the best spenders.

    One time, my husband's step brother came in with a bunch of his friends (they didn't know I worked there) and I ended up giving a lap dance to someone who had grown up with my husband, He didn't know who I was until the step brother told him and after that all of them (excluding step brother) tipped me very well on stage. They actually liked the fact that I was married (esp. to someone they grew up with) and they got to see my tits. Men are strange like that.

    You can use the "naughty wife" hustle which works pretty well on younger guys but with older guys, just don't talk about your husband and they're fine. Many patrons are married anyway so they know the club is just for fun. Some guys like the idea of getting up close and personal with a married woman because it's so taboo. All my regulars knew I was married and they didn't care.

    I had a phone and email address that was just for work so I still gave out my number and such.

    As far as contact, I gave the amount of contact that was the norm for the club but me being married didn't have anything to do with that.

    My husband wasn't crazy about me dancing but it was more because he was worried about someone disrespecting or hurting or stalking me and he wouldn't be there to do anything about it. He was relieved when I retired because he didn't have to stay up all night worrying about me.
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    Quote Originally Posted by SweetPetite View Post
    Whats your story? are you married or "single"? are you high or low contact?
    Single

    do you accept their drinks, phone number, etc?
    Yes I acccept drinks and phone numbers. I drink the drinks and trash the numbers.

    how do you hustle them? i had a much easier time when i was single i coiuld give out my number and everything now that doesnt happen so i am not making as much as i used to and its just not as easy for me these days....any tips?
    Pretend to be single

    also, how does your partner feel about you dancing?
    He doesnt mind. He was a customer of mine and knows my routine, etc.

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    Default Re: Those who are married, whats your hustle?

    I always tell them if they asked. In my experience people want what they can't have. Want it bad. If they decide that I'm not the one for them, then screw them they were just going to waste my time anyways. But 9 times out of 10, I still got their money and it actually made them get excited about it.





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    Quote Originally Posted by SweetPetite View Post
    Whats your story? are you married or "single"? are you high or low contact?

    Engaged. And I'm a low contact dancer in a high contact club. It has nothing to do with my status - and never did.

    do you accept their drinks, phone number, etc?

    Yes on drinks, never took the phone numbers, even when I was single.

    how do you hustle them? i had a much easier time when i was single i coiuld give out my number and everything now that doesnt happen so i am not making as much as i used to and its just not as easy for me these days....any tips?

    The same hustle I've always had. It's exactly that - a hustle - not a dating service. Giving out my number was never part of it.

    also, how does your partner feel about you dancing?

    Doesn't phase him.

    thank you.

    You're going to have to change your hustle. Start lying. Try blaming the manager (he won't let me give you my #, do this, that...) If you've got a lot of customers who want to try dating you and aren't going to get dances if they know they can't try, "I don't know you very well. Maybe we could talk in the VIP room..." And there's always excuses. You can't remember your phone number, you're booked this week with work and school, ect.

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    I agree with the pp. Just tell them you aren't allowed to give out contact information. It's considered solicitation where I live. They wouldn't want you to lose your job... and worse yet get arrested! ;-) Works wonders.

    I don't really drink, but if they offer a soda or water I will accept as long as I see it come from the bar.
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    My husband is awesome, we have been together almost 13 years, married a little over 5 and have been together since I was 16 and he was 21, so he is my best friend and knows that he has nothing to worry about.

    For our 5th wedding anniversary, we got each others initials tattooed on our ring fingers so now the customers see it, but even before, I have always let customers know my relationship status. As for contact, I dance in Vegas and give the typical Vegas dance, contact but not crossing the line. I don't meet customers outside the club, I will give them my number or get theirs, but I have a separate cell phone just for customers, and only for them to let me know they are coming in or for me to let them know I will be in. It is not for chatting about life or anything else and I let them know that if they abuse it, I will block their number. (Verizon lets you do this from their website.)

    Accepting drinks, at least at my club, is required and part of the job. Doesn't have to be alcoholic, but we can't refuse a drink. I agree with the previous post, that if a guy is not going to give you money because you are married, they have another agenda. I have never been single as a dancer, but I make just as much now married, and just as much with my tat, as I did when I just had a boyfriend, more since I switched clubs. I attract a lot of happily married men that really just want good company, good conversation, and maybe some lap dances, and I find they do spend a lot of money. In fact I find that the happily married men that tell their wives all about their escapades at the strip clubs, usually end up taking me to the skybox for a couple of hours and we don't even do much dancing, mostly just good conversation.

    I find that what you believe is true, is true. If you think telling guys you are married is affecting your money, you are probably right. If you think it doesn't affect your money, you are probably right. "If you believe you can you're right, if you believe you can't, you are also right."

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    I am always single at the club, unless I either REALLY am annoyed by them or I actually like them enough to let them go and find a "real" girl. Then, I mention my 8 1/2 year relationship.
    Other than that, I am always single, accept and give out only email accounts and stick with it that way. I just say I have a main rule and I am goin to stick to it and that it makes me proud that I can, and that's staying in the club and the club only.. You'd be surprised how many guys seem to like that, my custies are usually older married gentlemen, so I think the asking me out part is more an act than anything, I think they are relieved to know I won't become a clingy "stripper," calling at all hours and conning them out money.
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    For customers, I am always single. "Every man I meet and date just can't handle this lifestyle. Man, it sure sucks sometimes..." and the conversation moves on. I never give out my number, I do drink their drinks if I feel like it, or I'll just refuse them. I only give out my "professional" email.

    My husband's incredibly supportive.

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    If people ask, I say "Yep, I have a boyfriend. How about you? Are you dating someone/married?"
    [customer response]
    "cool! that must be nice. But enough about our home lives, let's have fun!"

    Except not quite as ditzy as that sounded. I have most of my success with the geek/nerd demographic.

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    Married. Medium contact. And an evil, horrible person. I'm sure I'm gonna wind up on the Stripperweb hate website as the "slut of the week" for this one.

    I get asked for my number/go out to dinner/ etc. ALOT.

    I use the "MySpace" hustle. I have a fake MySpace profile made up that is my alter ego (and of course I don't have any personal info on there) it's just a super fake profile. Most of the time no one even sends me a freind request anyway.
    I'll tell them that I don't have a phone at the time, or my phone is out of minutes, but to go to my "MySpace" and look me up there cause I am an internet junkie and spend alot of time/keep in touch alot on there. Even though they don't get a number, they are satisfied because I seemingly gave them some real personal contact info to reach me, so they almost always keep spending.

    Most people have MySpace nowadays, but for the internet-challenged, I give them the number to my pre-paid cell phone that almost always has no minutes on it. I tell them really sweetly "If you call and it says I can't recieve calls, don't worry. It just means I need to put minutes on it. Try calling back the next day and I for sure should be available"
    This usually works all the time.

    For the real persistant ones who smell my bullshit, I just usually give up and tell them I have a boyfriend. Which most of the time means they stop spending, so I'll move on to the next..

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    Quote Originally Posted by SweetPetite View Post
    Whats your story? are you married or "single"? are you high or low contact?

    do you accept their drinks, phone number, etc? how do you hustle them? i had a much easier time when i was single i coiuld give out my number and everything now that doesnt happen so i am not making as much as i used to and its just not as easy for me these days....any tips?

    also, how does your partner feel about you dancing?

    thank you.
    I am single but act like a frigid married old hag when I am talking to guys lol. I still sell as much dances as the other girls so I dont know, I just smile a lot. Im one of the idea that a guy already makes up his mind if he wants to dance with you the moment you approach him, sitting on his lap or being ultra flirty probably won't change his mind if he doesnt like the way you look to begin with, but thats just my idea. And I never accept phone numbers, I say I could get in trouble because its considered solicitation, which is true. When they ask if I'm single I make it sound like I am NOT single by telling them it's irrelevant. Im too afraid if I say im single that theyre gonna ask me out and then get upset and be like "BUT WHYYYY IM SUCH A GREAT GUY" when I say "no," because well, this HAS happened before, and im not going to just go out and say "um im not attracted to you, have you looked in the mirror? Do you really think I'm in your league?" Some guys get really upset with rejection so id rather them think im just unattainable cuz I'm already taken.
    I dont see being single or being taken a factor in taking numbers or being flirty. I mean were you seriously considering dating these guys or something? I wouldnt date 95 percent of the customers who come in.
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    ^^I only get rejected when I say "yes I have a bf" once in a while. Frankly, I doubt I'd make money off of those guys (who care about my marital status) anyway. Some of the best money I've made has been off of guys with whom I have conversations about our SOs, or to whom I have been honest about having a bf.

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    I generally found that guys didn't care about my relationship status enough for it to affect my money.

    I'd usually tell them "oh no, ALL strippers are single, and we live in a Big Stripper Dorm together and when we finish work we go home and have pillow fights in nothing but our little white panties" - which makes them laugh enough to not really care what the truth is. So that even when they say "He's a lucky guy whoever he is" you an just reply "Uh-uh, Big Stripper Dorm remember?!" and brush it off.

    Never felt the need to hand out contact details to any custie - besides which that would be soliciting - tell them straight that you would be sacked for that and they wouldn't want to get you in trouble would they?! The Dancer You is separate to the Real You and there's no reason a customer needs to have your number or email address, they know where to find you: ITC. If you feel you need to organize your hustle a bit more then take the suggestion of Cherrybomb and build a fake myspace page you can publish your schedule on.
    But discuss this with your husband, see how he feels about the whole thing.

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    I say I have a couple(2) non serious guys Im seeing, and a cute lil barista I see every nce in a while when I need some womanlovin. That way it seems im promiscous without really being available to them particularly. i.e. "Ill take your number, baby, but im sooo busy juggling school, my other job and three partners, id have to pencil you in on the waiting list" lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by spartaca View Post
    I generally found that guys didn't care about my relationship status enough for it to affect my money.

    I'd usually tell them "oh no, ALL strippers are single, and we live in a Big Stripper Dorm together and when we finish work we go home and have pillow fights in nothing but our little white panties" - which makes them laugh enough to not really care what the truth is. So that even when they say "He's a lucky guy whoever he is" you an just reply "Uh-uh, Big Stripper Dorm remember?!" and brush it off.

    Never felt the need to hand out contact details to any custie - besides which that would be soliciting - tell them straight that you would be sacked for that and they wouldn't want to get you in trouble would they?! The Dancer You is separate to the Real You and there's no reason a customer needs to have your number or email address, they know where to find you: ITC. If you feel you need to organize your hustle a bit more then take the suggestion of Cherrybomb and build a fake myspace page you can publish your schedule on.
    But discuss this with your husband, see how he feels about the whole thing.
    It funny that you wrote this. I said something like this once after a frustrating night full of "do you have a boyfriend"s and I remember it worked quite well.

    Maybe I'll change my tactics, since I'm a sarcastic cunt all the time anyway

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    I wear my wedding ring at work and answer truthfully to anyone who asks. I don't think it affects my money, at least not in any way that I would miss. Those guys that actually care about my relationship status are just going to proposition me to do something nasty for an insultingly low amount of money, anyway.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JPremium View Post
    I wear my wedding ring at work and answer truthfully to anyone who asks. I don't think it affects my money, at least not in any way that I would miss. Those guys that actually care about my relationship status are just going to proposition me to do something nasty for an insultingly low amount of money, anyway.
    This was my impression as well. I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks this way.

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    I always lied and told people I was single. I never gave out my number or told them I would meet them. My best line was "But baby, I like being a one night stand."

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    I think that for alot of guys, it's really just the challenge of getting a stripper's personal info, alot of them don't have intentions of actually calling or emailing. I'm not saying ALL guys but a fair amount. I mean come on, you know the types, they LOVE bragging rights and showing off to their buddies.
    I give out that fuckin' MySpace all the time and NEVER get any requests. As far as the number goes, I have actually had guys come back in and say "So, I called you and left a message, but you never called back so I figured you were busy...." HAHA! That phone doesn't even work! It goes straight to a message that says "This subscriber is not available"....there's no option to leave a voicemail.
    So, yeah buddy YOU DIDN'T CALL....haha. You just saw me and assumed you needed to say something cause you've already moved on to another girl (another "challenge" if you would), and maybe I would ask you about it....or whatever....

    Mind games, all mind games. Alot of guys like that shit. I'll play. I like playing.

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