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Just flat out tell them. As much of a screen of lies there seems to be on the industry there is a good amount of honest, brutal truth. Don't make something up just tell them how you feel and why.

lol okay so if i messaged them what would i say?
"i don't want you to work at ____ with me it would be annoying?"
I would just tell them that management told you they're not hiring and they don't need anymore girls right now.
why dont you want them working with you? i used to work with my friend and we pretty much did our own thing... from time to time we'd stop and chat if we weren't busy or talk if we ran into each other in the dressing room... sometimes if we were bored we'd even ask to go on stage together to get more tips. but working with her never got in the way of my hustle.
but yeaa... if ur really set on not working with em just tell them ur club is not hiring but u heard such-and-such club is.




If you're going to be nice, tell them your home club sucks and offer to check out different clubs with them. Hopefully, they'll stay there.
Or just bring up the crap they gave you. "Really? You want to spend your nights snorting coke off the inside of my thighs and giving head in the VIP? I expected better from YOU!"



Id definitely bring up all the crap they talked for sure, remind them of it and then let them know that they would be distractions and hurt your money and that this industry is cut throat and all about the $ so you cant support them working at your club.
I couldnt imagine 3 frenemies tagging along while im trying to hustle.



Haha! That's what I would tell 'em.![]()
I don't know if it would be a good idea to help them into another club though...where I live alot of girls work more than one club and dressing room convo usually includes club chat. If there is a similar situation in your town, they might hear talk about your club and show up one day.
I always create a club rule or a managers preference as an excuse when things are tricky " i can't talk to you any longer without making money -the manager will kick my butt" - "i'll get sacked if I take your phone number, you wouldn't want that would you"
Perhaps give them a variation of the usual rule of not allowing boyfriends into the club "The club hates having outside friends working together because it always causes drama's"
Makes it really hard for anyone to argue or get annoyed with you with when it's a rule that's out of your hands.
Send them a nice answer that would discourage them from working with you. Maybe say something like:
I'm glad you want to dance. The problem I see is that the job is very competitive and I'm afraid this will hurt our friendship if we work together. Why don't we look at other clubs? Then we can both dance but not hate each other over stupid customer comments or being jealous over money.
Promote yourself and earn more money! This is a business that is owned by strippers for strippers. Let's make that money!
Promote yourself and earn more money! This is a business that is owned by strippers for strippers. Let's make that money!
definitely, DEFINITELY call them out on their shit talking. you owe that to all of us. haha. i had a friend talk so much shit on dancing and then when she got drunk at the bar she started using the pillar as a pole and pretending to be a stripper. then she asked me to show her floor moves and i said no because she was a shit talker.
also, you have every right to not want them around, especially if they were judgmental. tell them you snooze you lose, suckers.
they will just cramp your style.
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I get turned around when my boyfriend does the helicockter. I'm totally visual.
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I know you want to be a good friend, but telling them the demeaning bit is just fueling their misconceptions about dancers. If I were you I would tell them it's awesome and you want them to stay away for being nay-sayers. We need to combat the stereotypes. Then again, you probably need to keep your friends too. But do you really want friends that think your work is all demeaning and sad?
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I get turned around when my boyfriend does the helicockter. I'm totally visual.
http://www.davkadeergirl.com

no i was just saying what they said to me. it was never an opinion of mine.


iF THESE WOMEN ARE REALLY YOUR FRIENDS AND NOT MERELY ACQUAINTANCES, YOU MIGHT RECONSIDER NOT WANTING TO WORK WITH THEM. jUST THINK,YOU CAN APPROACH GROUPS OF GUYS TOGETHER AND YOU WON'T HAVE TO PRETEND THAT YOU HAVE CAMARADERIE. I THINK THIS WILL CREATE A PARTY ATMOSPHERE THAT COULD PUT GUYS IN THE MOOD TO PARTY AND SPEND. YOU CAN GO SHOPPING FOR DANCING CLOTHES TOGETHER AND SHARE HUSTLING IDEAS,MAKE UP AND FASHION TIPS,ETC.. SOUNDS LIKE FUN TO ME. CHEERS!!! HARLOW

^yeah i totally agree. but like cadencetyme said, they can be more like frenemies and it would probably get nasty & competitive working with them.



I've always danced as a 'lone wolf' - i've made great friends with fellow dancers, but gone into the club on my own and it tends to work well.
My ex made me take a female friend of his who wanted to dance to the club with me once and i really didn't want to spend my night 'babysitting' this girl so i left her to it and she changed her mind once she realized how much skill and hustle was involved.
I have another friend who keeps hassling me that if i ever go back to dancing i should take his wife since she wants to dance - but i view dancing as a job, i'd no more take these girls to my dayjob than i would to the club. Keep your work life to your work and outside to the outside.
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