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    Last night I auditioned at a club in my area and was basically offered the job right away and started working the same night.

    It wasn't bad. The other people I work with, including the other dancers I met that night, were all nice and supportive. I wasn't shy about taking of my clothes or dancing. In fact, the dancing part is what I loved most. I grew up on taking formal ballet lessons 6 days a week, so it was actually pretty natural for me to get up there and turn on the charm. The bar manager said guys kept going up to her and asking when I'd go on stage again because I was the "prettiest" one there.

    The atmosphere was a little bit interesting, though. Maybe it was just the girls that night, and because it was Sunday (it was dead. When I auditioned no one was there!) but it was just odd. The other strippers were nice but seemed a little worse for the wear, and no one did much hustling. I never saw anyone give a lap dance.

    I was surprised after reading these boards so much, because these seemed like fundamental things. Get dressed up, make yourself look really attractive, talk to everyone in the club.

    I know that given some time and practice, I could do really well for myself in this industry. If I applied half of what I learned here, I'd be giving lap dances all night long.

    The main thing that bothered me, above all, was that I wasn't interested in feeling like such a piece of meat up there on stage. Maybe it was just the guys that were there that night, but a couple in particular just had bad vibes. And maybe it's the fact that when I used to perform on stage, it was about the dancing, not the boobs.

    Anyway, I felt really emotionally confused after all was said and done, and I said I'd come back to work for them but now I'm not so sure. I have very mixed feelings. I'm a good dancer and know I could do well, and I really love being in the center of attention, performing, dancing. Maybe I was just shocked by how real it felt.

    I'm trying to decide whether or not I should give it another try, but I'm really torn. I know ultimately it's up to me, but if any of you have any advice, insight, or felt similarly when you first started out, please share! I don't want to give up totally. This could be a great opportunity for me.

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    You know, most times the basic principles of hustling is to talk to everyone. If no one's there, there's only so much talking to those two guys in the club before it's a massive waste of your time. And regardless of all the tricks, sometimes those two guys are in there with only $20 and are more interested in the football game and beer.

    Part of everything is the fact the regardless of whatever, you are kind of a sexual...image to men. Boobs, body, sensual looks...even if you were doing technical ballet, if you were naked, not many men would be like, "Wow, she's GREAT at ballet!!" They'd be more inclined to say, "God, her boobs are so perfect, look!"

    It's obviously up to you, but it's something you'd get used to. We're all meat up there, but it's the business.

    I'm sorry it wasn't the best experience for you.

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    I think you make a very valid point.

    Maybe it's that until last night, I'd never noticed it so much? I know that's the entire point, perhaps I just wasn't as prepared for it as I would have liked to think I was.

    As far as hustling goes, no one was talking to anyone- not even when some new guy would walk in and sit down. One girl flatly said she never hustled and had done two lap dances in her three months there. It seemed weird to me, esp. coming from the higher-end retail job that I also work: you greet everyone. Period. I might have done a better job myself chatting everyone up had I not been so nervous. If I went into a club and none of the girls even paid attention to me, I might leave quickly, too. It wasn't like they were leaving alone guys that were already chatted up, they weren't even saying "hi" to people who walked in. Is that normal?

    I think if I can get over the nerves and the initial insecurities of stripping, I'll be great. That's the major thing for me. I'm not normally shy, I could have greeted those guys and made more money. I *can* do that in the future, absolutely.

    But again, you're right. Thanks for the insight!

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    I think for 99.9% of guys, it's not your technical dancing ability that wows them, it's fact that you're a naked chick. This may be kinda blunt but ya, a stripper is basically a piece of meat. Very sexy meat, but she's meat. Just something to keep in mind.


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    The feeling will pass in time, I felt the same at first still do in way. I did not have much a choice though I lost my day job and took up dancing full time. Get more time up on the stage and you will be over your fears in no time.

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    Default Re: I auditioned and got the job, now I'm not so sure

    I am fairly new to dancing as well, and I struggle with the same mixed feelings you describe. My problem isn't with the stage, though--it's the lap dances. To be frank, I hate them. Maybe my club is too high-contact.


    Euphoria, I'm concerned about how you will handle lap dances if you are already so uncomfortable with being ogled on stage.

    I don't have much advice to give you, since I'm experiencing a similar conundrum. I haven't gone in since last week and part of me wants to, and part of me dreads it.

    Good luck with whatever you decide.

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    Default Re: I auditioned and got the job, now I'm not so sure

    Keep trying. After a while, you'll get used to it. Try not to compare it to your ballet experience b/c it's not the same. Point blank: dancing is not about the dancing. It is about you being naked.

    Don't listen to everyone else. Hustle, that's how you'll make money. Go up to the guy and say hi. A lot of times, guys tell me that whenever they come in, nobody talks to them and that's what they want.

    After a few weeks, if you haven't adjusted, then you might want to consider a change (bartend maybe?).

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