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    How many of you have ran into this with a guy? Webmd says more than half of the men in the world have a problem. If you have how did you deal with it to work it out? I'm having problems and am going to go to the dr. My girlfriend has never ran across this problem and I don't think she understands. Is it a big deal to you that a guy has to take a pill to get it up???????
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    I dated a guy who was a diabetic/alcoholic and when he drank, he couldn't get i up. Honestly, this pissed me off simply because it was his own stupid fault.

    However. Occasionally I have had a guy who was unable to get it up and for me, it wasn't a big deal. I figured the guy was probably way more humiliated or embarassed, so I would try to brush it off as no big deal and just give a back massage or something. Try again tomorrow or whatever.

    I would not mind if the guy i was dating had to take a pill first...but I would be concerned for his health and would want him to get checked for underlying conditions as well.

    Hows your foreplay? blow jobs not working to get it hard? porn? can you masturabte ( is it only when you try to have sex or all the time?)
    how long has it been happening and when did it start? ( stress? changes?)


    I can only imagien how hard this must be for you. hang in there.

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    I have been having problems masterbating but I just figured I have done it for so long it's not doing the trick anymore lol. I can find humor in everything life throws at me, I have to, it gets me by and keeps me going. But I figure I will go to the dr take the pill one night and go to town and the next time not use the pill and see if it's just butterflys or a real problem and go from there.
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    I can only imagien how hard this must be for you. hang in there.
    i know this might be a childish joke....but given the topic....no one else finds statement a lil funny???

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    I have been having problems masterbating but I just figured I have done it for so long it's not doing the trick anymore lol. I can find humor in everything life throws at me, I have to, it gets me by and keeps me going. But I figure I will go to the dr take the pill one night and go to town and the next time not use the pill and see if it's just butterflys or a real problem and go from there.
    best way to go about it!





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    I think what happens for a lot of guys is they run into some stress or whatever that maybe puts them off, they have a couple instances of not getting it up and then they worry about it causing it to happen more.

    I think women forget that we can fake it through where as a guy can't.

    If it's an issue and meds work for you I don't see the big deal.
    Maybe present your lady with some good reading material so it's made clear to her that it isn't her causing the issue?



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    Hey there's nothing wrong with having to take something to help you out. Doesn't it make you stay hard longer? I sure the hell wouldn't mind then.

    Sometimes its more psychological than something being really wrong. Maybe try losing some weight and take good care of your self and it will all work out.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MoetATL07 View Post
    Hey there's nothing wrong with having to take something to help you out. Doesn't it make you stay hard longer? I sure the hell wouldn't mind then.

    Sometimes its more psychological than something being really wrong. Maybe try losing some weight and take good care of your self and it will all work out.

    My advice would be to go out and buy some nice clothes.....If you are going to be impotent, you should look impotent

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    Get your guy checked out- I'll bet you my coffee money for the rest of the week that it is a medical problem. The body shuts down Mr. Happy as a first response to more serious problems, like diabetes, pulmonary failure, coronary artery disease, renal failure, high cholesterol, nerve disorders, drug abuse, and alcoholism. It's not all bad, it's an easy way to spot looming, life threatening, medical problems.

    The proportion of cases in which long-term impotence is a psychological issue is relatively minor. While impotence can be caused by depression, stress, or anxiety, it almost never is a long term cause.

    Source: http://kidney.niddk.nih.gov/kudiseases/pubs/impotence/

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    I have a friend who specialises in sugar daddies who can't get it up...



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    Yeah man, I feel for you, I was in something similar, a serious decrease in sex drive and it seemed to bother my GF more then me at times. She took it pretty personally and she is so type 'A', anyhow we did get Viagra and it did work for me (or atleast for her, lol), but my head just wasn't in it even though she was smoking hot sexy, I had so much going on.

    Business was intensely stressful and I gained 25 pounds. When business improved and I had time to workout and concentrate on diet; My self-esteem rose and I felt amazing, regardless of chicks or sex, I just feel great. I have a harder healthier body at the age of 36 then I did when I was 21.

    Anyhow, once I got all that sorted out I was sailing at full mast yet again and without the pills, ok maybe not as strong a drive as when I was 18, lol, but that is probably a good thing.

    Oh one other thing, which might sound odd, but I started taking Yoga for stress reduction, it places me in this great frame of mind, I dunno it works wonders for me.

    not saying this would work for you, def. see that doctor, just feel like alot of guys it has more to do with taking care of themselves then serious medical conditions.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lemmiwinks31 View Post
    My advice would be to go out and buy some nice clothes.....If you are going to be impotent, you should look impotent

    Impotent........

    Im po tant.....


    sounds like Important...........get it............tap tap tap is this thing on?


    Youve been a great audience.....good night.

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    Thanks everyone I am going to go to the dr I don't want it to be something else like you said. She is understanding but it's frusterating too.
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    Those little blue pills are selling like hotcakes.

    wait....

    IHOP is 'out'. They hope their hotcakes will start selling like those little blue pills.

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    Go to the doctor, as you are pretty young still, I think.

    My story may be a bit different. I've used them (100mg) in the past (9 years ago), but I split them in thirds, and it helped for 3-4 days per each dose! Last time I had a GF (over a period of like 6-7 years, till a few months ago), she was pretty hot, and I didn't need them at all until she started misbehaving (exploitation, drinking, lying, those type of behaviors) and I guess I lost interest in her. Next time I still don't know what will happen. But experimenting is fun. Meaning, for some at least, and as Mike says below, it can be in your head. But see a urologist to be sure.
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    Hmm..if this were a thread posted by a woman about a highly personal problem and guys were cracking jokes, you would all be cyber-kicking the guys in the balls. BD is being very polite about this.

    BD, I do not know your particular medical condition, and going to a doctor is the best advice given above. When you go, that doctor should be a urologist.

    I have had erectile disfunction since I had my prostate removed for prostate cancer almost 14 years ago. I've tried the injections and the pump, which I regard as a form of torture. When the pills came out, I was overjoyed, because they made it possible to have an erection again.

    In my case, my erection is not as big as it used to be, and it does not last as long. It takes a lot of patient foreplay before anything happens even with the pill. I miss very much the old days when I was long and hard and could last for hours. But if I had not had the operation, I would now be dead, and dead men do not have sex either.

    I have learned that an orgasm does not take place in your genitals, but in your brain, and that you do not have to be hard to have an orgasm. I have also remembered that there are alternative methods of pleasing your partner using the tongue and fingers, and that these techniques are not just for foreplay any more.

    I don't think your ED results from surgery because you did not mention it, but it could be anxiety from personal problems, high blood pressure, diabetes, excessive smoking and/or drinking, obesity...

    See your urologist, tell him/her everything, and go with your doctor's advice.

    If you want to continue this discussion out of the public eye, PM me. You are a brave man to bring this up in a forum of females.

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    Quote Originally Posted by UtahMike View Post

    ...you do not have to be hard to have an orgasm...
    Hell ya. I wish more people, men and women, knew this!



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    I know you dont have to be hard to have an orgasm! And thanks Mike, I have went to the dr but my dr just gives out drugs, he gave me 36 hour cialis. I have not used it yet. This weekend was crazy we had her family over for a cook out and were really tired. We did have oral sex and I got hard without cialis. We are going to try again this week im sure without it knowing it's there and can work in a half hour or so. She is only the 2nd person that I have been with sexually and I think that has a huge part in it! I do have HBP and am overweight. I'm changing my life style to help it and to be happier. I have found the true love of my life and I want to grow old with her being overweight fucks a lot of things up so I'm going to change that!!!


    Thanks again Mike and everyone else for being so nice about it!!!!!!
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    I think you got a good plan for it,I bet its nerves mostly.When I was in the hospital after my accident I got a hard-on with a catheter in,let me just say its a very unpleasant feeling and I tried to think ugly thoughts lol.

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    I'm thinking it's nerves too, alot of it anyway. I took a pill last night but did not wait long enough and we had sex for a while. I think I need to "clear my mind and the rest will follow" !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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    ... BigDaddy, these sexxxy pics may help.
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    ^^ WTF?

    Returning to the actual topic of the thread:

    I used to think that impotence meant that you felt no sexual urge any more. When my very senior citizen mother remarried her even more senior citizen friend, he was worried that he could not "be a man to her" because he was impotent due to diabetes. She said she didnt't care, she was not interested in sex any more any way.

    But then, after I had the nerve sparing surgery (if they take the nerves, there is no way you will ever get an erection unless you get a prosthesis put in.), I discovered that all the sexual urges were still there, but the response was lacking. I was all turned on, with no hardon. Ugly.

    It was also difficult for my wife. She had ZERO experience at turning a guy on. That may sound strange, but think about it. All she had ever had to do was to kiss me, touch me, or let me see her naked, and I was immediately aroused. Now, she had to work at getting me aroused. This was a whole new thing for her, and at first she thought that there must be something wrong with her. But since we love each other, we have learned what we need to do to keep each other happy.

    Sometimes I think that the reason I like strip clubs is because I can get all turned on by a dancer, but I don't need to worry about whether or not I get a hardon because I'm not going to have sex with them anyway.

    Well, good luck, relax, stop worrying about it. I think that with the cialis, you may have an easier time of it than I have. Oh, Cialis. Have your doctor give you samples of Viagra and Levitra, too. Some men respond better to one drug than another. For me, Levitra is the best, Viagra does nothing, and Cialis is somewhere in between.

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